so many people are out of touch with their own desires. i know myself well and know what i want, but there are ****ing social rules! we must be good little sheeple and do the right thing lest god get all mad at us. sex is so much more than a mechanical act. Blue, songs are like tattoos You know I've been to sea before Crown and anchor me Or let me sail away Hey Blue, here is a song for you Ink of a pin Underneath the skin An empty space to fill in Well there're so many sinking now You've got to keep thinking You can make it thru these waves Acid, booze, and ass Needles, guns, and grass Lots of laughs, lots of laughs Everybody's saying that hell's the hippest way to go Well I don't think so But I'm gonna take a look around it though Blue, I love you Blue, here is a shell for you Inside you'll HEAR a sigh A foggy lullaby There is your song from me
if you're not concerned with god, it's your wife you should be concerned about....but trust me, that's not judgment. we all know temptation. the people on here judging you for being tempted are nuts.
I don't know many wives who divorced their husbands after they caught them with another woman because of God's anger. It's normally the hurt that it causes them to be betrayed. Are you all for a 19 year old guy putting it to your wife? If that is what you want you should discuss it with your wife. Maybe she is all for an open relationship. Maybe you don't satisfy her and she'd jump at the chance to sleep with a young guy without feeling like she is betraying you. Some people are all for open relationships. The truth is that God has little to do with why most people don't want their spouse getting it somewhere else.
i'ts not god in my case. i just think that's the reason most people stick to the "rules." i guess i'm really only concerned with my wife's feelings. i have wanted to discuss this for quite some time and only recently broached the subject jokingly. she said yeah, we may have problems but at least we haven't looked for anyone else. well, i'm not looking but i have eyes and i meet interesting women all the time. i am tempted ALL the time.
Seriously man I'm not going to get righteous and judge you, but it sounds like you have a problem in your marriage. Checking out an attractive woman is one thing but posting a thread on a message board about ravaging the neighbor's nanny and how she wanted it, etc. is another. And then to follow up saying you are "tempted all the time"? You need to have more than a joking conversation with your wife before you go crazy or you do something to hurt her severely and irreparably damage a relationship you might want to save.
IBTL, there are situations you can turn down... there are situation where you get caught into doing something that might not look right... and then there are situations where you have enough time to think about them... and you know you shouldn't. The only "piece of begging hot" that I will never turn down is Mrs. SwoLy. Of course, there's judgment. He came in here saying he might, saying it would happen, thinking some would say "go for it"... whether drunk or sober, he was questioning the issue... no one should question the issue. It should be a solid NO from the beginning. If he's trying to do this just to get out of what he has now, there needs to be a different discussion. If he's just "wondering" how it would be with this nanny... WHILE he's married... fine... but he's never said a "NO, WON'T DO IT." It's still not good to talk about how much this temptation will become reality. I applaud he hasn't gone through with it, though.
i'm not casting the stone for temptation, swoly...my house has way too much glass for that. judging anyone through a message board probably isn't the wisest endeavor to begin with.
I think it's pointless to judge him but I do think he needs to take a serious look at his marriage and have a serious conversation with his wife.
we got pregnant accidentally. abortion was obvious until we started discussing what if. the more we talked, the more it became impossible to do anything other than have the baby. we were desperately in love and couldn't terminate the force inside that we made through passion. we weren't even gonna marry, just have the baby and figure it all out later. it was my idea to get married because i figured it would be easier and make the families happy. I look out my window watch her as she passes by I say to myself I'm such a lucky guy To have a girl like her is a dream come true And of all the girls in New York she loves me true It was just my imagination, once again Running away with me It was just my imagination Running away with me Soon we'll be married and raise a family Two boys for you, what about two girls for me I tell you I am just a fellow with a one track mind Whatever it is I want baby I seek and I shall find I'll tell ya It was just my imagination, once again Running away with me It was just my imagination Running away with me Every night I hope and pray "Dear lord, hear my plea Don't ever let another take her love from me Or I will surely die" Her love is ecstasy When her arms enfold me I hear her tender rhapsody But in reality, she doesn't even know... me
Seriously? OK, I have been married ~13 years and I am "tempted all the time". I am human. And male. I want to smash all sorts of women. Pretty much daily. Today at the doctor the receptionist was super cute and I was having all sorts of thoughts about taking her into one of the examinatin rooms. I joke about it with my wife. Men are sickos. You can't say "tempted all the time" is a sign of trouble in a marriage. I have been propositioned by women over the years and even if they are not normally what you would find attractive I can say that there is still something in the brain that makes it seem like you could say yes. Ego, flattery, just the draw of sex, whatever. It is only a little later where you say to yourself, "huh? she was kind of nasty - no chance!" or something less superficial but pertinent. Just for the discussion, though, I will say my wife thinks it is more of a betrayal to allow or convince yourself that you are in love with another person. A one night stand or something purely physical she says is not as much of an issue. She is probably fairly unique but who knows, maybe some other guys have heard that? She also is really against divorce when children are involved so I always ask what I would have to do for her to want and follow through with a divorce. "OK, what if I murdered somebody?"
