awesome advice, but it still comes down to delivery. I'm wishing I was Romney right now vs Obama. no one was to answer you question,,,all my siblings are ultra cool. no one is unwelcoming to this. (I'm not going to name it, because my family and I don't need advice on that.)
The kid just needs to know that the family loves whatever the kid has decided to become. While the sexual orientation issue is damned confusing for everyone involved, I suspect it's most confusing to that 17 year old person. Perhaps time will give an answer to everyone, but until clarity arrives, the best thing you can all do is express your love and support. And good luck with that.
Age and fiscal dependency is more relevant than anything else, go ahead run it by the shrink but he should have to go.
right. I mean we are talking about me and Sister AA making Thanksgiving Day Dinner. We have learned from Mother AAAA's cooking, and improved upon it as a team. (Don't tell Mother AAAA I said that.) I'm just no getting this.
I just realized something about Sister AA inb4 Just Like Sister AA Said...tinman is late to the party... <iframe width="420" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/7d69mDT11yI" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe> ...now it is all about the menu
You can always send him to gay conversion camp. They have have a lot of positive success stories of children finding the path to righteousness.
Tell him now that he's a dude he can come watch football on thanksgiving. Maybe play a game outside as well
While the identity change may be the reason for not wanting to come, it doesn't seem to play a part in your wanting your nephew to come. I would call and make sure your nephew knows he is welcome.
So your niece changed genders without surgery? I'm pretty sure that just makes her a lesbo, not a male.
Brother A has the changed girl. Brother B has a son. They historically always do holidays together. So Brother B is staying out of it invitation thing, but suggested I call my "nephew" to invite him, since I was like "who's all coming? "-- then "wait, what? he isn't coming. why?"
it's not a "mental illness" as stated by another poster, it's a gender identity/ sexuality issue. I have a rebellious 14 year old student like this at an afterschool program. it is a very difficult and sensitive situation. her parents do not accept her in any way so she acts out against the system. she literally just wants to be one of the guys. some of her male friends don't even know she's a girl. many students refer to her as he or him. many of the adults on campus refer to her as her first name only instead of using pronouns. she has never told me to my face to call her a him, but if she did, I would honor her request. she has had private meetings with the counselor that she wishes there were some adult she could talk to who has a similar issue. there was a memo that went out last year about this student instructing teachers how to deal with it. they gave her gender neutral bathroom access, but this year she seems to be using the boys room. and what's awful is that I found the memo on the floor in plain view of anyone who could find it... a lot of people would say it would be a whole lot easier if she just came out and identified herself as gay, but it is not the case. she is still terrible during school but at the program she is getting better. she really wants to play on a boys intramural basketball team this year.
Good post. Gender identity is difficult to understand if you've never known anyone dealing with it. It has nothing to do with "being gay" or sexuality. Your nephew isn't trying to be a guy so he can get with girls. He feels as though he has always been a guy who was tragically born in a girl's body. It may turn out that he decides in the future that he doesn't fully identify with either gender, which would not be pleasant, or he may decide to get gender reassignment surgery or take hormones. But it's not super likely that he's going to want to go back to being called a female. Whatever he decides, it's important to remember that he's not your niece and never felt like a niece to begin with. Life probably sucks a lot for him at the moment, so there's no need to push or throw in your two cents on the matter. Just make it known that he's welcome if he'd like to come and that everyone has every intention of being cool about it. An invitation to watch football might not be a bad idea.
