You choose your soulmate according to what the society expects of you to pick. More then likely i will end up marrying a pakistani girl although I don't like pakistani girls and don't wanna marry one... its just what the society expects.. Also your class (High, middle, low).. So NO.
someday. of course true love doesn't exist. the closest i've seen is where the couple is evenly matched looks-wise AND basically best friends with completely identical interests who don't mind being around each other 24/7.
Take the advice in this classic from Dre's Chronic 2001: <iframe width="420" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/Gw8luwwwXzc" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe> 'can't make a ho a housewife' Too many people lookin for 'love' in the wrong places. It'll give you a jaded perspective.
I laughed out loud. The way you presented the first line, I didn't see the second coming. I believe in pre-destination (bounded by free will) so I say yes, though there is not just one true love/compatible person. But there are at least a few people out there that "get you" no matter who you are. And some FAR more than others. My personality, since I'm very loving, caring and, as girls would consider growing up, very sweet, hasn't always meshed well with many girls who are of a similar demographic. Needless to say, it's always been tough for me but I have found a few ladies that weren't looking for that fake "thug" persona found in the rap videos and gotten along fine.
I definitely agree with that thought. probably you will never know if you already found your soulmate, if you have a great mate you cant risk wondering if you found the one or if there is another person more perfect waiting for you. you could risk a lot breaking up, with the previous person.
Someone to grow old with to be your best friend to support you and trust you to forgive you on the days you're a dick to constantly learn and share off of each other... That's half of it. The other part is where I have to work on: To listen when I don't want to To appreciate verbally the things I'd take for granted To change when I don't want to To not give up What's true love? Slicing a part of yourself and your life, trading it for another's, and growing with the transplant one day at a time. Coming back to California has made me remember the days of superficiality and appearances. Nor Cal might be the "realer" half, but Cali is still Cali. In a cosmopolitan and high cost of living city like San Francisco, everyone is about "living the moment" by working hard and playing hard. We like our cake havings and eatings, so we want both romantic love and the experience of a wild and spent youth. And that's what starts this mess: Children who want to the freedom of adults (parties, sex, booze/drugs) but doesn't want the responsibility of adulthood. Those who don't want to grow out of it or want to relive it get stuck in death spiral of cynicism. For the most part, not finding your true love is all on you. Too ugly, too shallow, too crazy, too religious, too pointy a knee...people don't want true love. They want the perfect mate. They will trade up, down, left and right for it. And we're rational about it. By having more choices and more rounds of dating, we can gain the experience of "knowing what we want". Well maybe it's not all about "what you want", but rather "what you need to be" while being yourself. Both sexes are consumeristic about this because no one wants to be the owner. After all, the customer is always right. And that's where the power plays and zero sum games come from. Being on top and gaining the advantage. It's so ****ing predictable. You can totally mind **** a high maintenance woman by doing a metaphorical Barkley flop. It's the play where when you defend a post player, you play all aggressive, and when the post player wants to bump into your chest, you step back and watch them trip off balance onto the floor. By knowing she's defending against the game, you stop playing it midway to win it. That's not to say women are the blame. It's mostly ****ty men or families who make women become like this, but I don't think I need gray hairs figuring more of this mindless bull**** out. Simple, upfront women for me.
The love stories of soul mates that we are constantly fed in movies, books, etc. are just a convenient fantasy. True love exists but nothing is ever that perfect. If you find someone who is your friend, you are equals and don't have a huge power or maturity difference, you can communicate, you share the same values and direction in life, you are able to be attracted to each other, and you realize you need each other... that is what you need to start with and a relationship grows out of it over time. It's not always easy to be happy about being with somebody. But it can still be true love if you know how to work through problems and are both willing to work on it. Men and women have huge differences in the way they think. (and if your soul mate is the same sex, that doesn't necessarily make it easier... sometimes having the same strengths and weaknesses is not helpful, and that goes for any relationship) Sometimes it can seem like the "one that got away" would have been perfect, but it probably wouldn't have been so easy if you had gone down that path. On the other hand, you can't make a bad relationship good by just "finding compatibility" or accepting it. If there's not really anything positive about it, and it's not improving, it is not your real relationship.
I've loved two people in my life. Are either the one? One is my wife. I don't want to say that I do or don't. I do think I could have had similar feelings towards other women as well.
Yes, but I think the chances that you end up with them are pretty much nonexistent. Even "true love" only counts for so much.
