At some point early in every relationship i've had as an adult, I tell the girl the tale of the scorpion & the frog and explain that i am a scorpion....EVERY.TIME. I'm incapable of sustaining longterm feelings of love w/females...my life would be a lot simpler if i was gay.
doesn't mean you have to be a complete ass and destroy their hearts. poor girl was trying to take care of your handicapped ass.
This whole break-up conversation reminded me of this oldie: <iframe width="420" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/F-1i0tgS22o" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>
she was wanting to see if you had fighting words to save the relationship and keep her...and you come up with "Ok". that's awesome, man. nowhere to go from there. what's next if she contacts you again? "Umm".
Honestly, it's really just the cheating that makes you an irredeemable b*stard in my eyes, provided your story is true. Honestly, even taking advantage of her so that she took care of you while you were recovering is at least understandable. But since you knew you were going to break it off with her at your earliest convenience, you could have at least had the decency to remain faithful for a couple months. I mean damn man. That's really bad.
Douche move but at the same time its a sucky situation to be in, all of us could say we would know what to do had been us but there is a ton of variables that change the outcome of every relationship.
agreed...but atleast he is honest enough to admit what he did, i think he obviously knows what he did was wrong. enough bashing on the guy. he manned up and said that is his personality...so it is what it is. its always interesting to hear other people's stories, perspectives and ways of looking at situations. ill thank him for sharing
it wasn;t a move...i was comatose when she was contacted & decided to fly stateside. Once she was here holding my hand in ICU, i was too drugged up & concerned w/other things to deal. By the time i was released from the hospital, she'd been spending almost all her time in my hospital room, fielding calls from friends & family...i felt boxed in. Hooking up with the other girl while my caretaker was gone searching for "unripened green mangoes" was not about sex...we were in love and, to spare the first one's feelings, had seen very little of each other during a pretty traumatizing period - In my twisted mind, i was sacrificing time w/the woman i loved, in order to spare my ex gf feelings...also, after recovering from near death, I realised time is too short - be w/who you want out of love & desire, not obligation (different if you are married).
Almost a year and a half...we still talk. She's happily married & is a rising star in her profession - have much respect for her. To complete the full circle, i'll add this last tidbit: earlier this year, they ran into each other at the airport in San Francisco (neither of them lives there!). No talking, just dirty looks.
update She called last night and I answered the phone. We had an nice little talk. To sum it up. She apologised for the way she handled things. Both agreed it was time to move on. And officially ended things on better terms. So if anyone wants to revoke my man card I'm cool with it.
Except none of us know whether it is a horrible relationship. We only know that one of his former friends thought it was a bad idea and tried to end it and then got gut off so he no longer knows what the relationship is like. Here's some real talk. The only people who REALLY know whether a marriage is good are the two people in it. Friends only know what they see in their limited exposure to the couple and what the member they are closest to elects to tell them.
