If she's worth it go to counseling. But don't go unless you are willing to change and work on the things the counselor suggests. If the counseling doesn't work, you'll learn some good tips from the counselor that will help in the future. The counselor will teach you to be better at listening, working with another person, and you may find some areas that not only bother this partner, but might bother a different partner if you guys did end up breaking up. Being able to become aware of those, or even fix them will help either with your girlfriend now, or the next one. Ideally she'll be willing to work on the issues the counselor brings up to her as well, and she'll learn from it as well. It may or may not allow you guys to move forward in your relationship, but it should make you better in relationships in general.
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After getting home last night and getting ignored. I decided to give her a extra day. So I just got a text from her, "I am moving out, that should be enough time to find a roommate" Words cannot express the amount of pain I am going through right now, but I saw this coming. I replied, with the following "I am not trying to change your opinion, but let's get proper closure and clear somethings up. Can we discuss tonight?" I know you guys don't have all of the answers, however I am on here to simply express my feelings, I feel like crap. I know I am 23 and I have much to live for, but damn this hurts really bad. You guys were right.
Let her go. Most broken relationships don't get proper closure. It just is what it is. If she comes back, it was meant to be. If she doesn't, it wasn't love.
It is time for you to move on. It does not sound like she wants to stay together and get help. It sounds like she has already made her decision and is just trying to get rid of you. It is impossible to work on a relationship when the other person no longer wants it to work. She has medical school coming up, and has decided she does not want you to be part of her life. I know this is difficult to hear, but it will make it easier for you to accept and move on with your life. Some day, in the not that distant future you will not think about her often and be happy to no longer be with her.
Sucks dude, but as bas as things seem now, they will always get better. I've had three pretty rough breakups in my life and all but one led to a better situation for me with my next significant other. Spend this time making yourself a better person, learn from the mistakes you may have made in the relationship and just enjoy the "me" time.
Don't think you'll get any closure, but the good news is you're 23 and have nearly limitless possibilities. That might not mean too much right now, but you're gonna be better off in the long run if you use this experience to grow.
you just had your soul and heart ripped out of your body and shat on. you will suffer. you will cry like a b****. you will be depressed and miserable. you will be on the brink of despair. you will long for death. then, a month or two will pass. it's still a ****ty world but you realize it's not the end. your pain begins to subside. in six months you think of her less and less. before you know it you'll find that there's more than one girl in the world. learn from your mistakes from the previous relationship but understand no matter how good of a boyfriend you are, it still may not be enough. that's when you say, it's her, not me.
You might want to be at peace with this before you get into another relationship, or else the next girl will suffer the consequences. I am speaking from experience. It only prolonged the healing of the previous relationship. I'm not the greatest in relationships.
I remember heart breaking experiences like you are going through; they are now very, very distant memories and meaningless. Why? Because I found the right one and we have been married for many years. We get along great, we have great times together, we laugh, we play, we are so thankful that we didn't settle for less. So will you.
Thanks for all the positive feedback fellas! I am sure I will get back on my feet, my main goal is to not get into that phase of partying to get over everything. I want to be able to go to sleep at night no worrying about what could have been or what we had. I need to find different ways of filling the void.
Alcohol is not an option, I have an ulcer. HAHA, good thing for some medical conditions! Thanks swilkins, I really appreciate your feedback!
We don't chase em, we replace em. I would hit the club errrryday and find some meal replacements. I was stacKin chics on top of chics.
I went through something very similar in my 20's. I thought I was going to be with my high school sweetheart for the rest of my life...boy was I wrong. Best thing to do is to occupy your time with friends and family. The only thing that will really help you heal is time. Good luck to you man. I know exactly what you're going through. I'm sure your mouth went dry and you felt like you couldn't breathe when you read that text. It only gets better from that point on...
You seem like you got your head on straight. And you actually took some of the good advice in this thread seriously. I wish you all the best.
Hey... Best advice ever: Go to askmen.com. Read Doc Love's articles. If you want check out his book "The System". Read it, Learn it, Practice it, Live it. You'll know why this happened and why she's leaving you after you read this book.
