Ahhh someone did write hicks I hadn't read all these, but had just used that line as well! My friend but life it's just a ride!
His other good mortality quote is "I left in love, and laughter, and wherever love and laughter abide I'm there in spirit"
Reading through all of these posts is quite depressing. I saw my father go through his mid-life depression. The angst, frustration and anxiety he dealt with and gave unto me never struck me to become something better than I am. It wasn't until my early 20's I found out my father had goals he never achieved, through a conversation with my mother. Regrets are toally normal and expected. Anyone claiming to not have regrets never set their goals high enough or never had goals to begin with. However, I think regrets of innaction and sloth are the worst. Same thing happened to George W. Bush after his 987th hang-over. Though he decided it would be easier to run for president than accomplish all those youthful goals.
i see. yes, i do weigh the opportunity costs of almost everything because it just makes sense to. last year my girlfriend almost gave me mental breakdown because she decided she wanted to upgrade the kitchen, install an island, new cabinets, granite counter-tops. granted, it's her house but all i could think about was what an absolute waste of thousands of dollars. i couldn't convince her otherwise. when i walk into that kitchen i see how that money could have been invested or used for a nice vacation. to her, as with most women, it's her trophy case.
I'm 35, haven't hit a mid-life crisis per se (weird, I spelled it crysis at first, stupid video games), but have had pause when my then-fiance's father passed away at a relatively young age (early 60s). I've been fortunate to not be around death in my life, save this one occasion, but it hit me pretty hard. I just know having my own family now, that as a parent you just want to make sure they are going to live a good life by the time you pass on. My wife and I are convinced that he was holding on until he knew we were going to get married b/c then he knew his youngest child would be taken care of. We'd reflect on things he said leading up to his passing, it was eerie. I'm not scared of dying old. I'm scared of dying prematurely, and not ensuring a happy and full life for my children. In short, I'm afraid of failing as a parent. No crisis though, just times where I get caught in deep thought about it...typically while droppin' bombs.
At 39, bought a Harley. At 44, bought G35. At 44.5, kicked my girlfriend out! 45? Probably another relationship. Trying to stay away though. LOL p.s. Previous relationship to this, I almost moved to Taiwan! LOL carry on...
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Thanks for asking. She's done with chemo now and is about to start radiation. So we're through the worst part. We'll get there.
You probably will never have one... you strike me as someone that is simple (I don't mean that as an insult) and very well grounded.
Agreed. I've had a couple posters on this BBS that I've looked up to and have tried to emulate in my real-life as I can based on what knowledge I have of them. bobrek is one of those guys.
I think I actually read an article that did a study on what makes people happier when they spend money. The hands down answer was "experiences." Things that generate memories such as sporting events for teams you love, going on trips/vacations, hobbies/sports that make you active. All of these things generated more happiness that "stuff" like electronics, toys, and cars.
I can see that...that's a 'Sunk Cost' my friend a cost and price you cannot avoid after all if ya want to marry her! But I see it, it's good you are like that, not many get life like you did, I hope I can live more freely thinking, not constrained to society's glamour like that, because I'm. It perfect...but hey look at it sorta like a tax you can't avoid haha!
Rockettman not sure if serious... He was ust making convo giving me a good example, he knows others have their choices if you read all his posts in this thread he stated a life he lived which included a lot of things-so I'm sure he sees both sides of the spectrum, he just weighs the opportunity costs in doing things now more than others now.. It's actually a good trait he obtained at some point...it's just bk n forth Then again to sure if serious... Take it easy mate
i see someone must have recently upgraded a kitchen. did i hit a nerve? the post is about my opinion on what i value most in life. it was a response to d12eminem's curiosity about how my mind operates, i.e. like a economist. i could give two ****s about how you spend your money. you can blow your money on hookers and coke. it wont' change the fact that i think it's stupid. i don't expect everyone to think like me. hell, a few years ago i would have loved getting a new kitchen. but now i feel life isn't about granite counter tops, cars, or big houses (it took me a decade to truly appreciate the message in Fight Club) which only provide short-term happiness. i'd rather do, than buy. i never said my way was right and anything else is wrong. it's just different.
