when you're the token shy asian in a predominantly hispanic high school, you're not really at the top of the social pole. by my senior year i did improve my social skills enough to catch a date to the prom so it wasn't a total loss.
For a second there I was wondering how you knew about me and my high school and then I realized you were describing your high school years haha. Everything is a match except the "token shy" part for me. I found out by the middle of my freshman year that basketball is a great social tool for getting along with everybody and meeting girls. :grin:
The more **** you take the more you care less. But what riles us up inside is who is doing it. If you say no then you must also not care what positive things people say about you huh? Contradicting.
Those who say that they don't care about what other think about them are those who want people to believe that they don't care about what others think about them.
I don't care nearly as much as some people but I won't pretend like I don't at all. It's just human nature.
depends of the person, if its a good friend, or people that are going to hire you in a job. and obviously you care what the girl you have a crush on, thinks about you.
Absolutely. People have this delusion that "not caring about what others think" is a sign of bad-assness, when in reality caring about what others think is an integral part of furthering your life, your education, your career, even your ability to empathize, etc. etc. Let's see how far we get not caring about what our classmates think of us. Or not caring of what our co-workers think of us. Or our boss. Or that judge. Or that mugger on the corner. Or that cute girl who's giving the eye. The entirety of society and civilization revolves around caring about others and caring about what others think of us, and trying to judge how our actions affect not only ourselves but those around. Our degrees, our promotions, and our relationships depend on it. I know the question was intended in a simpler way, as in "I can wear whatever I want and not care that others judge me!" and that's fine, but that kind of "not caring" is highly dependent upon the context. As I said, it might be fine to wear that snazzy jacket on the street, but once you're in the office, you might want to start re-thinking that whole "not caring" thing.
Yep, this. Seriously, everyone cares what other people think to some degree. It's a social urge that's programmed in. You don't do outrageous things that might make you a social outcast even if you have the urge to. Even when meeting perfect strangers our tendency is to be polite, because who knows when bad behavior may come back to bite us in the ass? Of course, in the US -- the most individualistic culture in the world -- we're told that we're not supposed to care what other people think... which seems to me to be a poor sort of attitude to reinforce. Unless we want to live totally isolated and alone, we should care what other people think. Worrying too much isn't good either, but c'mon, people. Anyone who said "no" is talking about a matter of degree, otherwise they'd be totally dysfunctional.
I used to not give a ***, now I give a *** less. What do I think of success? It sucks: too much stress.
if i respect someone, i care what they think about me. if my family or friends are disappointed in me or feel i let them down in some way, i care. if they are proud of me or something i've done, i care. i don't always base my decisions on their opinions, but i take them into consideration. it's ok to care about what people think about you, just make sure they're the right people.
I disagree. I do not care what others think of me (except for my wife and parents). I want to be a good person according to my standards and act accordingly. My standards are pretty high, so I do not act as a inconsiderate *******. If others disagree with my standards that is their problem, not mine.
That's my standpoint as well. It's by no means ignorant or *******-esque to not care about peoples opinions of you, unless maybe they're your closest family or friends. Even then, I still don't bend for anyone and don't try to change my attitude or actions to achieve being liked or respected more. It's my life, I behave how I want to and if someone has a certain opinion about me I don't mind it. I barely ever think "do they like me, do they hate me?" because it doesn't help one bit(unless if it's your boss or someone crucial in some situation). All the hobby psychologists here should stop dismissing people's views, labelling them as assholes or attacking them for their way of handling life.
Honestly, I probably care a little bit too much. I can't stand it when people don't like me in real life.
