I am not so much trying to get into his facebook & email to snoop around and see what was said or whatever. I am trying to get into his email for the sole purpose of being able to keep his facebook page up, because so many people still write on his wall every day, and it is basically a memorial page that has all his pictures, memories from people, thoughts, etc. If there was a way to simply get his facebook page back, I would do it in a heartbeat and forget all about getting into his email. I would agree that he was the type of person who kept things fairly private, which would explain why his death came as such a shock, and it was so unexpected. He also left no notes, no voicemails, no texts, no phonecalls. Just one day he was here and the next he was gone. He died on a Monday, and he was actually teaching his 9 year old to ride her bike the Saturday prior. So although it would be nice to get some more info on what the reason(s) was/were, I do have enough respect for my brother to not snoop in his business.
I wish I could understand why your brother decided it was better to leave his four children behind with no father. He must have had something awful going on inside his own head. A part of me was mad at him when I heard about it and will always be mad at him for doing what he did. And, I don't know him. But, I guess that goes with not being able to comprehend what goes on inside someone else's head. I'm sorry that it happened and you'll are left behind to deal with it. I can't imagine how difficult that has been. Sorry I'm not able to help you.
I am not upset or hurt or angry at you for being angry. In fact I go through anger at him every day. The day he died I was so angry... I can't remember feeling anything else other than anger. Thank you for your response.
I don't feel it is my place to "let the rest... know" how it was that he died. If you feel the need to know you can google it and I am sure your curiousity will be satiated. I feel that it is disrespectful to (what feels like) gossip about someone losing their life.
We miss your brother around here, and I hope your family is slowly healing. As for the password, I'm not sure if Clutch (the admin here) would be willing to do this, or if the passwords stored for the user accounts are in clear text, but it's possible his email and bbs password were the same. May be worth a shot.
Have you tried contacting facebook directly? I think they have a way of dealing with pages of the deceased which turns them into permanent memorial pages that a loved one can have access to, etc. Although that may have changed (I haven't been on fb in a while). It's clear you're not trying to snoop in Rhien's life. But I would also think you're his sister, so you would know him better than any of us and be able to answer the question yourself as to what his wishes for privacy might be. None of us here can answer that question, that's for sure. I know if I lost a loved one, I'd probably go back and forth on it. In Rhien's case, everything he did on the BBS was very indicative of who he was in real life, so I'd recommend looking back over his writings here, as I've done from time to time. They all show how funny, intelligent, creative, and yes, even how opinionated he was
This is correct. They will ask for proof of his death, and then give you admin rights to the page afterwards. process will take up to two days at most, 1 hour at least. You'll be missed Landlord!
I think that facebook does do that, however it wasn't requested since his death. I didn't know of the policy to shut down pages if they hadn't been logged into until my sister called me and said something. I had assumed that facebook would give a year, so I was thinking I had until August 1st to figure it out. I went on his page this morning and it was gone. So the request has been made to facebook, however I don't know if it is too late since it has already been taken down. I am hoping very much that we are able to get it back, either by his email or by facebook restoring it to a memorial wall.
I remember the thread about Rhien passing away, because it was a week before I lost my mother. The song you posted which was his last post, stuck with me after listening to it then. I wish you and your family the best.
Thank you for coming here and I am very sorry for your loss. Rhien was a very interesting guy and one who did something most of us never do here, reconsider his own views on things. I feel very sad though that might've led him to ending his own life. We sometimes forget the real people behind these posts and like Donnymost said I sometimes feel we as a community let him down. Unfortunately I didn't know him well enough to recommend what his favorite book might've been but I wish you and the rest of Rhien's family the best.
Every time I listen to this song I remember him for teaching me the awesomeness of post rock :grin: His views and perspective on life made me respect him quite a bit. Still sad that he's gone and my well wishes go out to your family <iframe width="420" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/YdqT3MDAG2w" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>
I can't listen to this song without shedding a tear. He rocked this song on guitar as well. Thank you all for your kind words!
It would be really nice if somebody can compile all of Landlord Landry posts and his top notch posts here on Clutchfans. Maybe a highlight of his time here on Clutchfans?
So I am thrilled that I may have found the answer to the book question in these forums.!!!!!!!!!!! I will not know until tomorrow when I can test the answer, as I have been locked out of yahoo password recovery for 12 hours. BUT! I am very VERY convinced that I have the answer. Will update tomorrow Fingers crossed!
I just happened to be listening to this while reading this thread. It's an alternate early version that has different lyrics that seemed somewhat apropos. <iframe width="420" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/8M7q5Mn3-oM" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe> Lyrics: I'll be there in an hour It'd take half a month there on foot Watering hole, scummy water tower Said I'll avoid if I could I'll be sad in heaven You won't follow me there Jesus rides beside me And never buys any smokes Hurry up, hurry up, I've got enough of this stuff Ashtray floors, dirty clothes, filthy jokes Lights that flash in the evening I guess we'll follow them there I'll be sad in heaven If I don't find a hole in the gate Climb on to the top of this scummy water tower screamin' I can't hardly wait I can't wait...
Audrey, So sorry for your loss and thank you for starting this thread. I have said this before and I'll say it again: I miss Rhien, even after all this time, I still miss him. Can't even imagine what his wife and kids are going through. Good luck on your quest and if you still need some help, drop me an email at manny_ramirez73@yahoo.com and I'll see if we can come up with an alternative solution.
