You did the right thing, probably should have opened the door and yelled that the COPS were on the way....to stop anything that might still happen. But that no snitching thing is for idiots. DD
I asked him that. His sister and brother in law used to fight all the time and the next day hugs and kisses while she has a black eye. He used to try and defend her too many times and she kept going back to him. He said since then refuses to get into "domestic" disputes.
I never said anything about him beating her, I clearly stated that she was screaming for help to the top of her lungs.
Ya still doesn't make sense. He wouldn't know anything about the lady yelling "help!" other than she needed help. So try to help her or at least call for help its really common sense and just being a decent person.... If it was one cry of help on a Tuesday night which woke me up. I might ask myself did I hear that? and continue sleeping...But 230 AM during the weekend and multiple cries for help something in all likely hood was going down...
If it was a domestic, you did the right thing to stay away. The likely outcome of that situation is they'll both turn on you.
in some states you could actually goto jail had there been a crime committed against the girl if you had just ignored it. according to the ratings for the last seinfeld episode, at least 25% of americans should know this
Sounds like you need to find a new friend because I wouldn't want to be around a guy who can find an excuse not to help a woman in destress.
You're right! OP could have poked their head out the window and asked if everything is okay and could have gotten shot at. It's a crazy world. Calling law enforcement is the minimum everyone should do. Does not make you a snitch. The rest is your own preference. As for the OP mentioning that that was someone elses daughter/mother/sister/etc... that is irrelevant. The whole world is full of relationships. What if you try to help her out and get harmed. You also hold these valuable relationships with others and those people love and care for you. Is it fair if you tried helping someone out by even the slightest gesture of asking if everything is okay and got killed??? No. Don't want to go off one weird tangents, in the end, calling the people whos job it is to enforce the law is the minimum. Not doing more doesn't make you a b**** or anything. Actually, even if you don't call the cops or anything, still doesn't make you a b****.
You need to make better friends. I live near a bunch of bars, so if I'm home I hear a lot of screaming when they let out at 2am. Usually it's boisterous, but it's often couples drunkenly upset with one another. (I've gone outside a few times when I thought I heard a struggle, but it's always been drunks having fun. Similarly, I've walked past [fair] fights in the streets, without getting involved -- classic two guys telling their friends, "No, hold me back!" type stuff. Why bother?) Hearing "Help!" is quite another matter, though. The only time that something similar has happened was in a female neighbor's apartment, several years ago, with a loud row and strange sounds of furniture being moved. I feared the worst. I knock on the door, not sure what I was going to do, and the shouting guy turns out to be comically tiny, like 5'0" tall. The woman thankfully didn't have any marks on her, but I went ahead and threatened/forced the guy to leave anyway. Best of all possible outcomes: no one was hurt, and I got to momentarily feel like I'd done the right thing/was the [literally] bigger man. (When the neighbor came over later that night to thank me, turns out she probably was crazy to begin with.) That said, I've never had to truly put my --- on the line in a Genovese-like situation. If the guy who answered the door in the anecdote above was built like a linebacker, and the woman bleeding, I'd like to think I'd behave similarly, but can't really know for sure.
Your friend sounds like he watches too much TV. "Snitching" is when you are involved in something yourself and you tell on someone for your own personal advancement. Preventing something that could be rape is by no means "snitching". Your friend's a douche.
QUESTION: What is the difference [in your mind] between being CONCERNED and BEING NOSEY? I think as a society we have completely confused these two things to the point . . . alot of folx think they mean the same thing. Rocket River
I intervened once when a guy was beating a woman up inside a car in a parking lot. As soon as I laid a hand on him they both started beating on me. I would do it the same way again.
Yeah, exactly... Seriously, if your friend thinks calling the cops on a rapist is "snitching" then he needs his clock cleaned and his brain readjusted.
I should clarify that there's no evidence that the guy is a rapist, but the fact that it was potentially a male assaulting a woman means the point stands.
You did the right thing calling the cops, and your male friend is an idiot, especially for not saving someone if they fall in a pool or at least yelling for help to get someone else to get that person out of the water. I dont know if I would go out in that situation, if he had a gun, he could shot you in panic or because he doesnt want any witness, so you can see through the window but make sure he doesnt see you, because the guy can get more people to get at you because of retaliation so you dont call cops next time or try to help the victim. also this could a scam to rob you or break into your house, (it seems this wasnt the case) I heard about a couple that did that, the girl yelling help, but when the people who is trying to help her got there, the couple grabbed the samaritan and assaulted the person, so just be careful, of course this scenario doesnt happen if you see the guy hurting the the girl.
Sorry, I guess I'm misunderstanding this part of the OP. It sounds like the first two sentences are about what you saw.
