Don't remember your old thread in full detail, but does she have another man yet or regret splitting up with you? If she's single and regrets leaving you I'd go to the hospital(or is she out of it now and you asked us too late?).
Try to get in touch with her and ask if she's healthy now/if you can help or something. I understand how you feel, if you really love that girl go for her and don't listen to some of these cold-hearted guys here. People shouldn't judge when they don't go through it personally. If she hooked up with multiple guys after leaving you I'd understand if someone calls her a b!tch, but it seems like it was a one-time thing and she maybe has no other guy because she still has feelings for you and regrets her actions.
If that's how I sound, cool. I guess I'm not that tough in making decisions dealing with relationships where I could say, "F this girl, I'll find another one". I embrace this weakness. I'm learning. I'm in touch with my emotions. I'm a hopeless romantic douche. So what? I'm proud of it.
I'd say F it and go for her, otherwise you'll regret it and play the "what if?" game for many more years, cause it sounds like you really care about this girl. It won't hurt you to try, doing nothing is the only thing you'll regret over time.
What happened to you happened to me, and then she married my good friend last year. I was able to be indifferent about her and happy about them. That's where you want to be. The way you get there is you find someone who you are sure you want to stay with for the rest of your life. If you don't find someone it's cool, but that's highly unlikely. You'll change a lot as long as you want to keep developing as a person, so it's not rational to think that the person you want today is the same as the one you'll want tomorrow, just like I'm sure your break up has somewhat altered your taste in potential partners. Just like with anything, if you keep watching the clock, it will seem like it's taking forever and you will start becoming pessimistic and bitter, and that's how some people totally shut the door on themselves. Live your life, spend time with friends and family, and keep working on improving yourself. When you want to sell a house, you can either go out looking for buyers, or you can renovate it and soup it up and then sell to a bigger buyer. This is possible in relationships because feelings are not like money, we don't have a spending limit. So the better a proposition YOU are, the better the person you'll get. You may want someone to love you for alll your faults, but that is a recipe for disaster. Usually a person looks past your faults because they want you to look past their faults. That's not a way to start a relationship. People are meant to improve themselves in improveable areas. A relationship is meant to improve both people, and there are tons of people who are complimentary in that way, it is not particularly unique, yet it is extremely critical to the growth of your relationship. What kind of relationship grows out of "let's ignore each other's faults and get offended if mentioned, mmkay?"? The time when it's right to get into a serious relationship is when your self-esteem is justifiably high. Reason being, an insecure person is a project you may not want to take on. High self esteem girls will not indulge a low self esteem guy, unless out of pity or she is a psycho. In my experience, I was far too willing to find another person without thinking about myself. Sometimes when we lose something important, it diminishes the importance of self. It's like going to war but your home base is a piece of crap. What's the point finding that person if you're not yet on the same level as that person? You may think this is at least a bit selfish. There's nothing wrong with a bit selfish. There's something wrong with totally selfish. You know what's total selfishness? "I care 0% about who I am, but I want a 10/10 girl." You know what else? You wouldn't want a girl with that attitude, but you expect her to not mind that attitude. Anyways, just my 0.02 fils.
Should've went homie. Next time when that happen get a hot escort chick to pretend she's your current girlfriend and come visit them in rental Lamborghini. That should show the mom and sister not to call you again. Your gf has to live and learned from her mistake that she let a good thing go and move on. You should too
