How long do you wait for a girl to respond to a text message before you give up?

Sadly i know exactly what you mean and what you're thinking. Trust me, it's the wrong thing. Right now it doesn't seem like a big deal, but if you keep after it and get nowhere you'll look back later on and realize how much time you were wasting over something that never happened. Not saying she isn't interested and maybe she really does want to go out, but now you need to let her be the one to find out when you're not busy.

 

Stop being a p***y.

If she doesn't call/text you next week, don't ever speak to her again. Stop trying. She's probably lying right now, trying to avoid a difficult situation - and, in doing so, she's just making it more difficult on you.

Here's what you do: Stop communicating with her, right now. Go find other things to focus on. If she calls next week, cool. If not, cool.

Otherwise, you're setting yourself up for a giant world of stupid and shame.

p.s. what's your mom's number?

p.p.s. nevermind, I already have it.

 

man i'm not trying Bogart this conversation but by saying that you are guaranteeing that she won't call. A guilt trip?

dude, she likes you. don't do that. just respectably decline next week, and say something like let's try it in a couple of weeks when both are schedlues can manage it. Then in a few weeks LATER check the temperature again.

 

You're overthinking it dude. Just forget about it for a while. If you really dig her then call her up in two or three weeks and ask her out then. If she says she's busy or sick or has to walk her dog then you have your answer.

 

Few weeks? She probably won't remember his name or what he looks like. I'm a guy and after like 3 days I forget about it all.

 

let me retract my previous post. i was so caught up in that bolded part, i didn't pay attention to the next sentence. just tell her, that's ok, you're busy next week. don't even bother telling her to call you to set something up.

 

She definitely wants buttsecks.

 

You should never let the girl try to initiate contact, never ever ever ever.

Be firm! Be determined! Be active! Call her on Monday, "let's hang out", if she agrees, that's good. If another excuse, then just move on.

 

I think what is dropping some great advice; no games, man. You like her she likes you. Stop over-thinking stuff.

 

No no no no no no no. wrong. you think like so many guys do.

If she's not into you, and does not contact you next week like she said she would, DO NOT CONTINUE TO PURSUE. she didn't "forget." the guys who think this way are the ones who, after being strung along (you're the one who asked for an opportunity to change her mind!) and then dumped, whine about how women are heartless and how nice guys finish last, etc. Blah. don't be a statistic.

Forget thinking "oh mayyybe she forgot." do not try to change her mind by contacting her. the only way to change her mind at this point is to make her jealous while completely pretending like she doesn't exist.

 

Lay back luke, don't panic and remain smooth. Girls will trash you if they got you at the fingertips. You probably ain't the only dude, so act like your the better one.

 

3 days? i dunno, that's seems too much like I have to re-arrange my schedule for that. good things come to those who wait. absence makes the heart grow fonder.

at some point you have to trust that your impression will keep her thinking about you.

 

Just accept the worse outcome

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This.

 

think about this. if she wanted to go on a date with you, why can't she make a commitment a few days ahead of time? and if she valued your time, she would have called to say, "sorry, i'm sick can we go out Thursday?" or whatever. what she's doing is asking you call her the day of to get together. and when you do this, you're basically saying, "I've got nothing better to do but put my day on hold in the hopes that said-girl will go out with me." no matter what tv and movies tell you, that's not romantic.

but much respect for accepting the outcome regardless how you act. the only way to learn is to do. good luck.

 

My opinion, if you really like her be a little more forceful and be like "K, meet me at (place) at (time).

 

if you listen to macula you ain't gonna get anywhere. lol I'll just say that some guys in here don't have your interest at heart. listen to the women in here if you don't listen to anybody else.

if you trust me, you will get a first date.

bugging her for a date is the wrong move - finalsbound.
trust that she likes you and isn't playing games - dreamshook

you've got her interested in you, which is the first step. but if you act like a desperate guy she is going to be turned off.

the last step in getting a date is to show her that you can walk away from it by putting off the date for a couple of weeks. by doing this it shows that you aren't desperate, but make sure that you sound cool and nice when you say thing. don't lay guilt trips, just say okay maybe in a few weeks. in that time, rarely text her. don't text every day. give her some space, show that you aren't going to pressure her and she WILL come around.

all of this macho, this is when we are going out - deal - will get you nowhere fast.

 

I didn't know you were a woman, listen to what, ignore what I've said.