I find it ironic that someone who has been hurt by infidelity is urged by so many to go around having casual sex with strangers.
Please post pictures of the girl so that we can judge if she is worth obsessing over. Thanks in advance.
You have to break contact completely if you really want to move on. Stop texting her mom, sister or whoever. Just stop. You haven't been able to move on because you haven't let go yet. Turn again, banging the sister and mom isn't a bad idea
Posters are being to "sweet" and "nice" to you... Look, she too affection and attention to you, she lied to your face and mocked you, all the while she had another man on top of her, inside her and constantly in her thoughts... this went on for some time. Rather than tell you, or accept that SHE screwed up, she said you both need to mature, which is a convenient way for her to not feel bad about herself. Of course her family keeps in contact with you, you are a nice guy, and they think that you will put up with the bull$hit from her that other men will not put up with, as she has already broken up with the man she cheated on you with. You can be a nice person, a sweet guy...... but you MUST grow a pair and be strong and stead fast or women and men will $hit all over you for the rest of your life.... girlfriends, coworkers, your children, your friends all will think you are a sucker and loser... you dont want to be that guy, no one does. Get out and date and be open to sleeping with other women... have fun. If after a month of dating you still find it hard, then stop communicating with your ex's family, they will understand that your ex played you like a fool and betrayed you. It is simple, sometimes as a man you need to see things in absolutes and black and white... she cheated on you, she had another man inside her mouth and body. If you take her back, you will be exposed to her, and her family and all your friends as someone with no self respect or self worth. She may date you, but will never respect you, and will know that she can fukk you over and you will take her back...... being in a relationship where you love the other person way more than they love you is a disaster. Become a man, move on and that is it.... If you pursue her, and she cheats on you again (she will) I dont want to see a thread on it. She does not respect you....
Casual sex with strangers is not the same as infidelity..... there in lies your problem.... two unattached adults having sex is completely different than being in a monogamous relationship.
Do her again. But like you've done in the past, don't use any contraception. Make a baby in her. Now you two are forever together.
I've always favored Jen Anniston over Jolie but my God, this girl is pretty damn good-looking....I would definitely take her over the real Jolie!!
I'd like to ask how your life is going in general? What are you doing? Do you have a good career? Are you working on building any businesses? Do you travel much? How about traveling outside of the country to experience new cultures? Do you work out? Sounds like you don't really have much going on and you are looking for a "her" to make you happy which is a huge ass mistake. Make yourself happy first, live your life the way you want to live it and then "she" will come when the time is right.
Who are those strangers? Are they wives or girlfriends? How do you know they are "unattached" if they are strangers? "Therein lies your problem."
Oh yes they are. You don't know who a stranger is... might be your or your friend's wife on a business trip or a bit tipsy on a girl's night out.
If they are looking for sex with him, and they are married or have boyfriends and are looking for casual sex, then they have issues that go beyond him, and THEY are the ones cheating, not him. Further, in most cases they do not have husbands and boyfriends... If they tell him they are unattached, then they are unattached.
Do you have any idea how unlikely that it is a friends girl?... come on. Further, the women are adults, they know what they are doing. If they choose to cheat then they obviously do not value their relationship or marriage. If someone tells you they are single, then you should trust them unless you have a reason not to. Just sounds like you have not thought this through... then again, from what you have said about your wife on this forum, not surprised.
Some girls you never do get over. But you can still move on. But you do need to come to peace with the reality that your relationship didn't make it.
