It is assuming you're actually able to relate to women in a non-sexual context; have halfway decent conversational skills, or that neither of you completely defines yourself by whether or not you're in a relationship. I'd think you'd have to work or go to school together, have a common set of friends, have some kind of common ground.
I wouldn't mind being friends with wife #1 and #3. They were good people. Unfortunately time is the real separator. Now, wife #2 SUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCKED. and not in a good way!!!!
I think it only works if you weren't really serious exes, for example a few dates a long time ago. In the case of a relationship where you tried to share your lives, I would say not. I'm not friends with my ex, nor even in contact, because I realized I really did not like him as a person. That's why I left. For those staying friends (or worse, f. buddies) with your exes, think about this: how is that going to look to the next person you get in a relationship with? If I started together with someone and he was still quite friendly with his ex, communicating or seeing each other on a regular basis, I would see a big red flag there.
totally agree. i don't know if it bothers guys as much, but the "lingering ex" phenomenon is a complete turn-off for most women i know. my friend just dumped a guy she had been seeing for 4 months because he would still hang out with his ex one-on-one.
The reaction is like that because if someone is keeping an ex around....they're undoubtedly exchanging bodily fluids from time to time.
I'm still in contact with a couple of my ex's, since the rest are married. Both friendships are probably slowly dying, which is the way it should be. They'd just get in the way when you do find another girl. At least in my case.
My childhood best friend still talks and parties with his ex's. He brings them home for playtime with his bisexual wife. No issues of jealousy that I know of.
