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Being Friends With Your Ex

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by King of 40 Acres, Jan 13, 2012.

  1. Relentless

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    Repped for SCK reference.

    But on topic, no.
     
  2. studogg

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    i have kids with my ex and we've been working towards this, but it's very complicated.

    plus, being friends with the ex keeps around the lingering need to bang and that just complicates everything (although the sex is even better after it's over)

    all said and done, i think it's very possible to care for each other and be there for each other, but close friends is almost impossible
     
  3. bigtexxx

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    gotta have the bennys

    but even with that, it's a mine field

    avoid.
     
  4. King of 40 Acres

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    I'm trying to be friends with her but we argue all the time. Almost like we are still together. We used to do the casual sex thing for a few months but she's cutting that off now too. Just don't see the point anymore but hate to lose her as a friend but maybe it's for the best?
     
  5. studogg

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    you're just having trouble letting go. I understand all too well and it does suck losing someone that you've shared so much with, however, it is a rite of passage.

    At some time, you have to move forward w/o her.
     
  6. htownrox1

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    Unless you didn't have feelings i'd say no.

    I've only been friends with ex's that I didn't give a damn about.

    The only girl I truly loved is a no-go on the friendship-after-relationship topic.
     
  8. nolimitnp

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    No. Its just like after you sex with a female friend, things are forever awkward.
     
  9. Yao11

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    This.
     
  10. studogg

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    not if you do it right
     
  11. morpheus133

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    You can only be friends if both people really only want to be friends. You can't "just be friends" if one of the people involved secretly is hoping the friendship will lead to you getting back together again.
     
  12. DaDakota

    DaDakota Balance wins
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    You can never be just FRIENDS with an attractive girl - lol....

    It is just nature.....the way we are made.....after a little while you will want to boink her.

    DD
     
  13. finalsbound

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    "friends with bennies" is NOT a real friendship.
     
  14. rrj_gamz

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    What he said...it's always possible, but when she gets PO'd about something, it'll start drama for no reason...
     
  15. macalu

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    still friends with my first ever ex-girlfriend 17 years ago.
     
  16. RoxSqaud

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    ...better to be friends with someone elses ex.
     
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  17. IBTL

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    you said it yourself what's the point?

    also if she is not giving up the skins then what is the point? I mean seriously ask yourself.. Is she REALLY a 'friend' come on..

    besides if you really want to hit it again playing the 'friend' isnt going to get you laid anyway. she is chumping you up and you need to take charge by owning her BS.

    You are the guy that has 'moved on' and be sure to let her know casually that you are getting laid elsewhere a lot... continue to be the mysterious guy that gets laid a lot and she will be calling you for booty calls begging you.. then if you can find the time between getting laid by other girls throw her a bone (literally) and let her back in temporarily, but she needs to understand you are moved on and you are by no means her 'friend' she had her chance and she blew it.

    yeah it sucks if you 'like' her want to 'friend' her but the you've already been there and got the tshirt.. at this point you allowing her to have sex with you is doing HER a favor and showing you can be a 'friend' by tagging that ass.

    you are either the f8cker or the f8ckee what's it gonna be?
     
  18. Manny Ramirez

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    I wouldn't call it "friends" but rather trying to co-exist since we share a child together. Life is much better when we get along but it doesn't happen often.
     
  19. Jontro

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    If you don't really have to, you shouldn't bother.

    There are exceptions I guess, but in general I think it's healthier to move on. That's why when breaking up, it's best to go out big so the thought of friendship afterwards will never even come up.
     
  20. King of 40 Acres

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    Yeah our break-up wasn't messy. She just said that she wasn't in love with me and shes ready to settle down have kids the whole nine yards. She's dating to find a husband and she doesn't think I'm that person. Crazy thing is I don't really see myself marrying her anyways. So we would probably be wasting each other's time
     

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