Apparently she set up a video camera in her room because she "knew something was gonna happen" and apparently these beatings have happened before. But yeah, it's weird it shows up 7 years later.
So . . . seems like she might have tried to blackmail him he called her bluff she released it She wins. . . . . bratty kids win Rocket River
I haven't seen the vid yet (at work now), but from descriptions I can make up most of it. My stance is, I'm all about whoopin some ass. BUT, you have to be calm, collected, and show restraint. Take a moment to calm down, tell your child, "go sit there, until I'm ready for you." Think about what you are going to say to them, point out their mistake, then proceed to whoop that ass in a deliberate way. Afterwards, reinforce the lesson to be learned and remind them you love them even if they can't see it. I never did as a child, but I certainly do as an adult. Every ass whoopin my dad ever gave me went in that manner above. I don't tell him nearly enough, but he was about as perfect of a father as there can be and he was a tough son of a b**** on me.
There was no calm, collected or restraint shown. It was a beat down both physically and mentally. Wait until you see it.
Man for real? Sounds like someone should do what I said to him. "Go sit there, until I'm ready for you." Here's why what you did is wrong. Here's your ass whoopin'. I don't love you, but this is why you got your ass beat.
You said it. Punishing your kids shouldn't involve any emotion on your part. Yelling, screaming, being angry = getting revenge/sadistic satisfaction.
So I had a chance to watch it, and waited a while and thought about it... He was definitely way too emotional about it, and I understand it's hard not to be with your children. The whole time, I couldn't help but say, just turn over and take the spanking on the rear end so you don't anger him worse knowing he's like that. Through his anger, he kept just telling her and trying to force her to just taking the spanking on the rear end basically. In no way am I excusing him for not controlling his anger. He obviously did not do that. His point the entire time didn't sway. It was not like he was just lashing to lash. The daughter did not help in the situation, but then again she has some kind of condition right? Not sure if that had anything to do with it. He was "more calm" once she just did what he said and answered with "yes sir." He was still pissed, but certainly didn't lash out violently like at the beginning. It's all over a bad situation, and although I know there are worse things going on out there it really saddens me that some parents think that this is acceptable. I'm hardly a perfect parent, but geez...that judge guy has to have SOMETHING in him telling that he lost his cool. Apparently not.
I saw it.Is there anyway to make an ass beating with a belt not seem like child abuse. He did not hit her in the face, brake any bones or physically damage her in any way. Yes he was pissed and you could see his anger grow with every second that she did not cooperate with him. He tried to get her to bend over so he could smack her on the ass but she did not cooperate, therefore she took it in the front of the legs as well as the hips. The whole thing probably would have been over a lot sooner if she would have excepted responsibility and bent over and took the licks in the ass like she was told. The girl seemed defiant and stole music off of the Internet placing her parents at risk for pirating music. Then she refused her punishment. Anyone else find it odd that the judge is being vilinized and the girl is getting a free pass? I would need the rest of the story before trying to determine if there was child abuse. I got my ass beat a lot worse than that growing up as was the norm 40 years ago, back then it was called disciplining your child not child abuse. BTW, my parents may have beet my ass but they were also the ones who were always there for me and would have gladly jumped in front of a speeding train to save my life. I'm guessing the same applies to the girl and her father the judge, but like I said I would need the rest of the story. I think what it boils down to is that either you believe in corporal punishment or you don't. And also where you draw the line.
And who exactly are you supposed to separate your children and your emotions? Are you a parent? I am and let me tell you nothing causes more joy, agony, pride, embarrassment, anger, frustration, excitement and love than your kids. I've been just as pissed at my kids and yet there is not one second in my life that I would not have eagerly taken a built for them. There is no way that I will ever think a normal sane parent could ever separate his feelings and his children.
So you never touch them, raise your voice towards them, and if you have gas you fart rainbows at them. Got it.
Not sure if it came across in my last post, but I have some of the same sentiments. It really seems like she was extra defiant for the sake of the video. I don't think my point of view stems from my standing on corporal punishment, but it certainly is with where you draw the line. The deal is, inflicting pain for the sake of teaching a child a lesson on someone that is 16 takes much more force. In my humble opinion, too much force. Parents typically figure out that spanking becomes less effective, and grounding is a worse punishment for children that want to go outside and play, watch tv, spend time with friends, etc. Why he's spanking a teenager doesn't make sense to me. Grounding her would have probably been more effective.
Is this the thread where people justify beating their children? I hope it is. I'm getting sick of your screaming, whining, smart-assed little brats taking up space in places I'm at.
Hahaha, I feel ya man. One thing of note though... Beating != Spanking (to me) Beating is closed-fist, breaking bones type stuff to me.
