I just clicked on this thread. Jeez. Having two daughters, that video made me physically ill. There's no defense for it and even before I read the later posts it was clear to me that it was not a first-time/one-time action. I find it difficult to justify any spanking, much less beatings of kids. I think it's lazy parenting and that there are much better ways to make the point. The guy thinks that being the father entitles him to respect and authority. Nothing could be further from the truth. You have to earn it every day, every minute with your kids and you can't only be Father. You have to spend a lot of time being Dad, especially with girls. He is incredibly selfish. The statements he was making were all about him and his "position" in the family. I guarantee that throughout his life, he thought he was checking all the marks you were supposed to check but he never figured out that it wasn't about the boxes you check for yourself. Now he has a daughter who is scarred for life and will literally hate him at some level forever, a divorced wife, a career in ruins... and the likely most important thing to him when all is said and done, his reputation is shot. It would shock me if he allows himself any opportunity to look at his choices realistically. He will be the victim until he dies. He doesn't get it. I have never spanked my daughters, though I have been sorely tempted a time or two. Of course that desire to act reminds me that at that instant, it is more about my emotions than the discipline. Before they are teenagers they are toddlers and preschoolers and elementary kids. You lay the groundwork there. If you haven't done a good job building the relationship with your chiild and teaching that they are a part of the world (instead of letting them continue the 2 yo view that the world revolves around them) you will have problems later on. It takes a lot of time and energy, both physical and emotional. If you have kids and you don't put in the time, you may find yourself with an unpleasant child or maybe one that you cannot understand or one that doesn't share your values or beliefs. At that point, appealing to your position as Father or buying some charlatan's book or carting them off to every church function possible isn't going to make a huge difference. There's no formula to raising kids. You have to adapt and adjust while you go and you have to put forth the time and energy and love.
Kids these days are very evolved indeed. http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504083_...on-woman-after-candy-theft-joke-on-halloween/
Do you suppose it would have been different with boys? The difference between boys and girls in terms of behavior as children is quite amazing.
just bitter and irritated at ****tards that inhabit this board. that's all. my life is pretty ****in' perfect, thanks for caring.
If that's a compliment, I thank you. If it's not, I'll tell you that my students were a very well-behaved bunch (with a few exceptions, of course) who had respect for me because I earned it. And I didn't have to yell, and I didn't have to scream. I took the time to know them, I used examples from their interests to convey themes from literature, and I kept things humorous without going overboard. I took on probably about 10 kids in my 4th year who had been removed from other teachers' classes per request of the teacher because they couldn't handle the kids. As a whole, my students' grades improved from the beginning to the end of the year, and I imparted valuable techniques/lessons to them (this is what I was told from anonymous evaluations that I had the students conduct on me about my teaching performance at the end of the year). Over 600 students benefited from my teaching- and that's not bragging, that's fact.
I'm reading the responses in this thread and seeing how everybody's response is being thrown out as "absolutely right". You have the guys who were beaten over the head with tire irons, body slammed into a brick wall, then had their heads driven through the drywall thanking their dad for ramming a baseball bat down their throat because it made them a better person. You have the guys that say spankings are wrong after a certain age, because as you know the younger the kid, the more beneficial the whippings. Hell yeah. You've got the people screaming "she had cerebral palsy!!!!!!!!!!!" I agree, that's kind of bad, but damn, where's the disease cut-off on spankings when it comes to kids? "she has diabetes!!!", "she has an irregular heartbeat!", "she's got a bad case of acne!", "she's lactose intolerant!" Then you've got the suburbanites who were sent to "timeout" for 5 minutes, denied their karate and ballet lessons for a week, and given a hug afterwards saying they don't condone punishment of any kind. Personally, I was shocked at how quickly that girl recovered from the whippings. She's hardcore. I mean, she was screaming bloody murder, and within a minute, she was on her feet, booting up Adobe Premiere, editing that bad boy, and scheming her 7 year plan of revenge... muhahahahaha! Truly fun reading. :grin:
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Sure it would be different, as it would with any other kid regardless of sex. That said, there probably has to be a more physical element to raising boys. I'm not talking whippings, but chores like yardwork and chopping wood or activities like sports and hiking... something to establish you're the alpha intellectually and emotionally and will brook no challenge even if he grows up to be bigger and stronger. After that's established, you work on what it takes to make him an alpha you can both can be proud of.
He just threw his daughter under the bus in a well reasoned, well written legal brief. Hard to believe his family crumbled. William Adams regrets the interruption and inconvenience his daughter's post has caused to the Aransas County, Texas community. Wow. That's special.
The language was bad, but adults might feel the need to talk to teenagers that way to get their attention. Obviously combined with the spanking it seemed unpleasant. Certainly usable in a custody battle or a sentencing hearing, but nothing here that CPS would ever waste time with (and the judge probably knows that). Save your money, keep your grades up for the next two years.
