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How to introduce my girlfriend who has 2 kids to my parents?

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by pge71188, Oct 27, 2011.

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  1. AroundTheWorld

    AroundTheWorld Member

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    How old are you?
    How old is she?
    How old are the kids?
    Are both kids from the same father?
    Is the father still in the picture?
    Do you have "more serious intentions" with this girlfriend (could you imagine marrying her)?
    Who pays for the kids?

    Most importantly, post a picture of your girlfriend so that we can give better advice.
     
    #41 AroundTheWorld, Oct 28, 2011
  2. Rashmon

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    As an adult, it ultimately doesn't matter what mommy and daddy think.

    I have had to remind my own adult son of this on more than one occasion. I was appreciative of his concern for my feelings, but had to remind him that his own well being was more important than my feelings.
     
    #42 Rashmon, Oct 28, 2011
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  3. bobrek

    bobrek Politics belong in the D & D

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    It is good that you have concerns for your mother's feelings. Nothing wrong with that. It is a sign of respect to one's parents when they take their feelings and opinions into consideration when making decisions. That being said, it is ultimately your happiness that you have to live with. The sooner you get the talk with your mom out of the way, the sooner you can cross that concern off your list and quit fretting about it. I suggest telling her prior to meeting your girlfriend and her kids, just in case she does or says something that may offend her/them and play everything else by ear.
     
    #43 bobrek, Oct 28, 2011
  4. shipwreck

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    Don't. They don't all have to know EVERYONE in their family, jesus. My wife doesn't even know we have kids.
     
    #44 shipwreck, Oct 28, 2011
  5. GRENDEL

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    Be honest with your folks, parents should be happy if you are happy.
     
    #45 GRENDEL, Oct 28, 2011
  6. SwoLy-D

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    Do you still live with your mom? Does she still pay your bills? Are you an irresponsible adult who cannot make his own decisions?

    If you answered YES to any of those questions, listen to your parents, dude. They're telling you what's best for you. :eek:

    If you answered NO to any of those questions, listen to your parents, dude... but make YOUR OWN decision. :cool:


    :confused: contradiction city? *what about "outside" the dating world? ;)

    Lucky #@*)$&^ SEAGULL. :mad:
     
    #46 SwoLy-D, Oct 28, 2011
  7. ima_drummer2k

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    Say what?
     
    #47 ima_drummer2k, Oct 28, 2011
  8. Bleeding Red

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    How's that possible? :confused:
     
    #48 Bleeding Red, Oct 28, 2011
  9. Prince

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    ... and make sure to bring the kids as well.
     
    #49 Prince, Oct 28, 2011
  10. Mr. Clutch

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    Introduce one of the kids first.

    When the shock wears off, bring in the 2nd kid and the gf.
     
    #50 Mr. Clutch, Oct 28, 2011
  11. Mr. Clutch

    Mr. Clutch Member

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    So you have kids from a previous relationship that you haven't told her about?

    Sounds like a trainwreck, not a shipwreck.
     
    #51 Mr. Clutch, Oct 28, 2011
  12. shipwreck

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    I keep her on a very, very short leash.
     
    #52 shipwreck, Oct 28, 2011
  13. SwoLy-D

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    :confused:

    HE SAID:
    :eek: You're welcome, ima. :cool:
     
    #53 SwoLy-D, Oct 28, 2011
  14. Rocket River

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    DO IT LIKE A BOSS!!!!
    and not like a BOSH!

    Rocket River
     
    #54 Rocket River, Oct 28, 2011
  15. cod

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    [​IMG]
    Another Lorraine Bobbit in the making
     
    #55 cod, Oct 28, 2011
  16. Daedalus

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    unlucky Lady Di
     
    #56 Daedalus, Oct 28, 2011
  17. Big MAK

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    You've only been dating 4 months and want to introduce her to your parents? Wait another 4, then do it.
     
    #57 Big MAK, Oct 28, 2011
  18. DrLudicrous

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    Just make sure you work a "Grandma" reference in and you'll be fine.
     
    #58 DrLudicrous, Oct 28, 2011
  19. Blake

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    How old is she?

    If you say 18, then there may be a cause to worry...
     
    #59 Blake, Oct 28, 2011
  20. greenhippos

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    time to cut the umbilical cord. If you're not living with your parents or having them support you financially, who gives a flying **** what they think.
     
    #60 greenhippos, Oct 28, 2011
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