How to introduce my girlfriend who has 2 kids to my parents?

just do it and tell her shes who you like.

 

Bring the kids to the meeting.

 

Just tell your mom they're your kids.

 

Get a prenup.

 

If my (Asian) parents are any indication, having a girlfriend w/ 2 kids isn't a big deal as long as I don't put a 3rd one in her. But if I tell them I love her and want to marry her, then they'd freak out.

From your parents' perspective, it's really more a practical concern than any sort of bias against women with kids. If you think about it objectively, this concern is quite real. Such baggage may not seem like much when your hormones are overriding your brain. But when that get settled down you just might feel like you've screwed yourself over.

So your best bet is to make your parents feel you are mature enough and independent enough to know what you're getting into. And that you know the potential problems and is willing to deal with them. As long as you do that, I think they'll begrudgingly accept it.

 

What's the story behind your girl having kids? I don't know what your mom's definition of "used-up" is, but some women have kids because they left an abusive marriage or their husband died or they just flat-out made mistakes. I don't think they should be judged for it, and definitely not the poor kids who haven't done anything wrong except be alive.

If you like the girl, tell your parents what's going on.

If your mom has a problem with it, she's just being close-minded.

 

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Mom, Dad... I'd like you to meet soandso. Soandso, this is my mom and dad.

 

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I disagree with the few that said to tell your parents ahead of time.

I would have your GF bring her kids to the first meeting and say "Mom, Dad, these are your future grand children!!!".

You can't miss.

 

four words,

Trick or Treat, mom.

 

You've been dating a girl for four months, and have been hiding the fact that she has kids from your parents? You shouldn't have been afraid to tell your parents about that as soon as you were willing to share you were dating someone. It really isn't that big of a deal.

 

fixed your post.

 

I wouldnt introduce anyone to my mom unless it was a for sure thing. If you do decide to take her to meet mom, give mom a heads up. I dont think a surprise would be a smart thing. No one is good enough for their kids...especially latina moms. In the end, mom will come around if she doesnt agree. As long as she sees your woman taking care of you and is loving you. Its only been 4 months....slow it down man.

Personal questions;
How old are the kids? Do you love this woman? How long into the relationship were you introduced to her kids?

 

exactly what I was going to say.

I would also be sure to tell your parents before hand that she has kids and really, i'm not sure why you haven't already done so.

 

You're a grown azz man!!... Now make a grown azz man decision, and disown your parents.... Then when she dumps you and runs off with your bank account assets, take your grown azz back to your mom house, demand your old room , and patch it up with mom....

 

if thats the case, don't worry, all hispanics women have kids and baby daddy drama...In the dating world, I have only met a handful of hispanic women that don't have kids...

If she's a cool girl and you care about her, don't worry about what your mom thinks...Its you that has to be happy...

 

mommie dearest says:

...not in my house...
...no more wire hangers...
...i'll kill you...

watch your back, man.

 

No kidding (pun intended).

If you're mature enough to take on some woman's kids, you should be mature enough to not worry about what your MOMMY thinks of it.

 

why don't you just go home and cry to Momma!?

Spoiler

 

Waitress at a bar hit on me once... exchanged numbers. She was honestly pretty hot. I hangout with her the next day.

The following week my friends ask, "whatever happened with her." and I smiled...

"She has baggage" I say...

Friend - AIDS? She has AIDS?!
Me - worse...

Friend - OMG, she has cancer?!
Me - I wish...

Friend - What the heck is it?
Me - A baby, she has a baby.

Listen to your mom brah.