Going out to coffee isn't a date though. Otherwise you wouldn't feel the need to bring up the fact that you like her. That's having coffee and hanging out with a friend. Once you specifically ask her out on a date it'll change things and she'll know what direction you're trying to go in.
Dating? Going out? All semantics to me. I suppose I could say date instead... is that more acceptable? Actually, nvm. I'm thinking way too deep into this. I'm just getting in, getting out, and living with the aftermath.
Yeah, you may be over thinking this. You did say you were going out with her, yet said it was to find an opportunity to ask her out, so im not sure it's an official date. It may be semantics to you, but i'm sure using the word "date" will totally change it up for her. I just think pouring out your feelings unexpectedly will really put her in an awkward spot. She can't really say just yes or no to that.
Dude just tell her you think you love her.. so what are you so afraid of you're afraid that you're not sure of a love there is no cure for.
Isn't that what I said I'd be doing in the OP? ...or is that a song or something? Also, her sister surprised her by coming to town today, so she's spending the day with family. Coffee moved to Sunday. After the Texans game, naturally. Priorities are priorities.
It's (sort of reference to) a song. An old song... a bad one too, so you're not missing out Btw I did this with my ex. She was my best friend, then things heated up and I made a move. Just make sure it can work for the long haul, because you'll be losing your best friend if you two end up breaking up. If it works, it'll be the best thing evarrs.
i've said this exact same thing. this is EXACTLY the story of my wife and i...we were both dating other people and developed a completely platonic relationship...she became my best friend...after we had broken up with our others, it was still scary to imagine moving past that...risking losing my best friend. but we were going out one night and she walked downstairs in a little red sundress that is still burned into my brain, and i saw her in a way i really hadn't let myself see her before... we've been married 14 years. she was then and is still today my very best friend, without exception. but i remember being terrified that the risk meant i might lose my best friend.... now i'm terrified of the regret i would have felt had i done nothing. i've woken up from nightmares where we just went our separate ways after college and i went to her wedding as a guest. NOTHING is worse than regret.
Just tell her you like her, and you felt that she needed to know. Be casual about it though. If she's one of your closest friends there is no need to be creative or overdramatic about it.
Remember that you have the advantage of knowing her positive qualities or at least the traits she tries to project through her actions and anecdotes. Drop specific details about her life and accomplishments that show you've connected the dots.
Do ya'll watch Parks and Rec? You know how Rob Lowe Spoiler dumps Rashida Jones so nicely and tactfully that she doesn't even realize she's been dumped? That's essentially what she did to me when she rejected me. Not nearly as painful as I had imagined. Now the tension and questions are gone, and thankfully I'm not down a friend. Time to shake it off and move on. Thanks for the support, guys. Btw, I fail at being cool and collected. I turn into a blabbering idiot when talking about my feelings.
In this case, you should not feel bad about posting her picture here. That's your way to get her back!
That sucks dude. I don't understand how girls do the whole platonic relationship thing. Every girl I get to know, I do it for a reason.
