There aren't male or female roles in my relationships. I mean, I pay for the date and open the door for her and everything but that's superficial stuff, a matter of social mores. I date strong, accomplished women. I prefer them, I am more attracted to them. I prefer my partner to be my equal. That doesn't mean I'm weak in the relationship; it just means we are both strong in it. My partner now, of five years and probably forever, is a brilliant actress and writer. She's the smartest person I know. I couldn't date someone I didn't respect the hell out of, in part for her own talent and wit and accomplishments.
I feel for you man, i've recently been dumped by my girlfriend (4 months ago), and its still hard today. Women think really strangely, for instance a couple weeks ago she told me that she just couldn't stand seeing me anymore and that I had "done something", I never cheated on her, never criticized her when it was over, nothing. Its just how it works. Best thing to do is move on, and it will take a new, hotter chick to do that. Also, don't let HER problems become yours, for example in my case, I was asking myself "what did I do wrong?" and I was hurting myself doing that. I realized that it was obvious that she had a problem towards me, but it wasn't MINE, so it shouldn't affect me. You shouldn't pound yourself for things you can't control.
This is absolutely true. My ex-girl fell in love with me because at the beginning she said I was "a badass who didn't give a **** about anything", and after a few months when I started getting feelings I wasn't that badass anymore, and she lost interest, thus love. Beautiful women (even more the ones who have "Daddy Issues" and seek recognition in the male-sex), tend to get hit-on all the time. They know they are hot. They know 99% of men would crave to be with them. So when you're the dude that doesn't give a *ù^*ù`;lm they are intrigued, attracted, etc. Obviously, you need to find some balance, because not giving a ^$ù`too much will drive her away in the end if you don't show that "romantic" side sometimes. You'll find your balance with experience. In my example, this is my second serious relationship with 2 really good looking girls, the first one left me because I didn't give a **** (really didn't), I didn't even try to get her back because I had told myself so much times "don't care" that I really ended up not caring. The second one on the other side was the exact opposite, I turned into a wuss because I finally "loved a woman", then forgetting all my "alpha" qualities. The third one will be a nice balance of both of those
My personal opinion on love? Don't force it. Just try to realize your dreams and you'll eventually bump into that person who's heading the same way.
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I'm really sorry to hear about that. I've been where you are, although not broken up by text but by email, and can sympathize. It hurts now and will hurt for awhile and the only thing that will lesson it is time. The most I can tell you now is to stay strong personally. Bad things happen in life especially when it comes to relationships but nothing is permanent though and the pain you feel now will pass. I am guessing you are relatively young so you will have other opportunities and learn from this relationship to make things work out better in the future.
