Just turned 42. I did come close to marriage a couple of times. The first time she did and I didn't and the second time I did and she didn't, not the same woman Yonkers. Requisite, not that there is anything wrong with that. At this point I'm not ruling it out whether I will or I won't but honestly reading some of the stuff in this thread is not encouraging.
Marriage is a risk just like anything else. It could go badly or be the best thing you've ever done. I think too often a marriage that ends in divorce is viewed as a failure. One of the things I realized is that even if a relationship ends or a marriage ends, there will always be good things, good memories, a lot of moments where you can look back and remember feelings of genuine happiness. It all becomes a matter of remembering those times. Ultimately happiness is singular and shouldn't be derived exclusively from another person. That is foolish. Sure, it hurts like a son of a b**** when somebody doesn't feel the way they used to... but usually after some time you realize... ****, I guess I kind of didn't feel the same way either and was in denial about it. Maybe when you really look back on it you're realize what an idiot you were, and how many things you overlooked, how many red flags you ignored, all because you hung onto some naive notion that certain people really are "meant to be together". But there are good ones out there, and when you find one... impregnate her.
I was with you and ready to rep until your last line. Kids...change...everything. They can be for the better or they can blow a relationship up. Don't be naive.
Yeah that was a bit of personal humor at the end, I didn't plan on the last step... but I think a child is something that will change my life for the better. It sucks being bored and self-absorbed, even if thats what being 20 something is all about... I'm ready for the big leagues.
I didn't mean it as harsh as it sounded, just reality. Congrats on the baby. My kids are a joy and give me enormous satisfaction.
It seems like with most things in this World that once lawyers are involved its hard to look back and remember feelings of genuine happiness. I'm looking at you MadMax and Sam Fisher.
Keep your head up Manny man. Everything will work out in the end and luckily there's a few CF brothers on here that have been through it. Stay strong man.
No he won't. Plenty of people drink, internet bully and smoke hashish and grow up to be great parents without quitting any of those things. Of course, quitting drinking and internet bullying would be good for his health and likely extend his life, but he won't have to. Also, there's not really anything wrong with pot or hashish. Coffee is as bad for you as those "drugs" are and eating meat is worse.
Sorry to derail Manny in his difficult time. Still feeling for you and rooting for you, my brother. Time is a healer. I mean ultimately it's a killer but before that it is often a healer.
thank you for this post. my wife has decided to leave me and we finally got the moment of determining the need for divorce yesterday. it's been unbelievably tough and this post gives me hope.
Late to your thread Manny, but sending positive thoughts and strong karma your way! stay strong my brother!
You can do a service to the world and [sarcasm]go die in a fire.[/sarcasm] (but really) (jk) (maybe) Anyway, I hope things work out for you Manny. Best of luck. Avoid pills if you can, that's all I can contribute.
