Sorry to hear about the rough times, Manny. Remembering back on earlier posts, it seems like you really worked hard at making the marriage work. Sometimes no amount of hard work will save it, though. Hopefully it will all work out for the best in the end.
Batman, I understand what you are saying and I'll probably do that sometime in the future, but I don't even have insurance take effect until September. The doctor visit I took last Friday had to be paid with cash. As for getting her to see a psych?? That is not going to happen; she doesn't even think she has done anything wrong (which is another symptom of BPD people). Hard to find a solution when you can't admit you have a problem.
I haven't spent any real time with Bright Eyes, but Elliott Smith is always good for me, dark or light. There are days I agree with Kurt Cobain who said Elliott Smith was the only reason he got up in the morning.
Music is the great commiserator. Manny - I too went to the whole "self-diagnosis" thing around that time. I convinced myself I was completely bi-polar, there was no doubt in my mind. I think its common in the early stages to try and cover up gunshot wounds with band-aids. All you can really do is let it heal.
You can't take responsibility for her emotional health, beyond recommending therapy to her. If she says no, don't even try again. This lesson was hard for me to learn in my own relationship(s). But you can and should take responsibility for your own care. If money is the issue, post your zip code (or PM it to me) and I will find you someone that will see you at a rate that works for you or for free if you can't afford to pay at all. Or you can find someone like that. You just have to do an internet search and start calling. University programs are usually a good source for affordable psychiatric care.
I have friends who are unemployed or broke for whatever reason but who see psychiatric professionals for like $25/week. There are programs for this (even in Tennessee, I expect). Avail yourself of them.
Do you have any recommendations for talk therapists around the 77092? (apologies for semi-hijacking, but I really could use one)
Sorry to hear Manny. Hold your head high and do what you need to do to be happy. Life will become beautiful once again.
I'm sorry, I don't. But I know that Baylor and UT have good programs for people on a budget, if you're willing to drive to the Medical Center.
No need to email. I don't really have details. I just have friends that have had good things to say about both programs. Here are links. I'd suggest calling them to explain your situation. If one of them isn't helpful, I'm sure the other one will be. But I expect they would both be able to help you out. The advice I give everyone that thinks they might benefit from therapy or psychiatric care of any sort is do not put it off. Call as soon as you are able. Treatment can take a long time and whenever you get started with it I can guarantee you you'll wish you had done it sooner. I'd try Baylor first. I feel like I've heard more good things about them than UT, though I hear both programs are good. Good luck. http://www.bcm.edu/psychiatry/?PMID=2027 http://www.uth.tmc.edu/med/departments/psychiatry/patient-care.html
Damn, sorry to hear that Manny. Agree with others who say you never really sounded happy in your marriage (as much as you can tell from music-related posts on a basketball website...). You disappeared for a while, then to the surprise of all the regulars here, came back married with a kid. Coming from divorced parents myself, only advice I can offer is to ALWAYS be there for your kid. Makes a tough situation for him/her a lot easier. Channel all your energy (positive and negative) into being a good dad. It will make it easier for you as well. Also, as much as a cliche as it is, it DOES get easier with time. Learned that while going through my own tough times back in 2009. It was the darkest time of my life and it seemed there was no light at the end of the tunnel, but I made it through and lived to tell the tale. Better person for it, too.
currently whats in mannys cd: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_t1xnnrUkGU when it rains in here.. it's storming on the sea
I will second BJ's post. While you might feel guilty and responsible for your wife she has to be the one to decide to get help. Maybe this situation might be a wakeup call to her also.
