Look, you can go through life cowering in the corner, worried about every little thing that might happen to you, or you can take a little intelligent risk and see what happens. Reach out smartly, through business, don't be overt, be covert..... Don't fall for the advice of folks that are afraid to live, cease the day, don't spend your life working for the man, BE THE MAN !!! Sometimes you just have to take some risk to succeed...... Chances are you will not be at that job for the rest of your life, and you might miss out on the love of your life. Life is too damned short to be a coward, take some risk, enjoy it. DD
Life is too short to let a b**** cost you your job. Also, the OP never said she indicated any interest in him. She was there for business and that was her interest.
There are other jobs, and if he is smart about it, the chances of that happening are pretty small. Live a little, don't be afraid to fail, that is where you learn your biggest lessons in life. DD
Any way he approaches it it would be creepy. Finding her on Facebook is creepy. Calling her mother, a client, and asking about her daughter is creepy.
LOL - I am not drunk, I am just not afraid of failure, you have to take some risks in life, just do it smartly. If you are satisfied working for someone else and being a cog, by all means, stay safe. But if you want to be the center hub, then you got to take some risks, and not worry about what all the naysayers recommend. I find it funny that people assume automatically that the girl is a "b****" or it won't work out, but the chances are that she felt that chemistry too....and they hit it off, there is nothing wrong with taking a smart risk. Do it...have fun...don't let the fraidy cats ruin what you felt...go for it.....be smart, reach out, see where it goes.... DD
The OP never really had a chance...life goes on. I think the mom used her daughters looks to help get what she wanted out of the meeting.
If by center hub, you mean being disconnected from reality enough to take risks like becoming a wannabe internet basketball video making expert like you, I'd say he give up sex altogether....
This! dont do it, no matter how pretty she is, this has the potential to be a headache and awkward if she turns you down, there are SO many pretty girls in the world they are endless. If anything just give it time.
Right so in the middle of an economic downturn with high unemployment he should just go for it to not be a fraidy cat.. At the risk of sounding unromantic in this economy you probably have a better chance of finding another girl than you will another good job.
I hate to generalize here, but i'm guessing that a guy who is posting for advice on how to approach a girl on a basketball website might not necessarily be a chemistry wielding casa nova.
LOL @ basing your interest for a girl on the economy. Well, nyar, the economy isn't great and gas prices are high so I should probably stick to masturbating. You cats never fail to surprise me. Put the pedal to the metal and go for it. I would be direct and honest with her to show her you respect her space but also want to invade her niece's space. There's nothing wrong with this and if the niece really is attractive she'll be used to it. It's her fault for bringing her along with her in the game of life where it's all fair game. "Hey, Sally? It's me, Harry. How are you doing? Yeah those numbers are looking great. Oh really, I don't give a crap. If you don't mind, I'm just going to be blunt and ask you if your niece is single because I found myself wanting to get to know her better. Oh she is? Well now that I have your stamp of approval I'm relieved... only the parents to go HAW HAW. 832-456-4392, thank you so much." Go for it but be honest. None of this covert operation bull****.
sw847, long rant... I know how you feel as I am in a very similar situation. The woman is the granddaughter of one of our clients. To deter me from asking her out a co-worker mentioned that she is very young, possbily younger than 18, but it turns out she's actually 24, and looks much younger...petite and sweet.:grin: I don't think there is a damn thing I can do that wouldn't make it seem unethical if I asked her on a date. I can shoot the breeze and what not with no worries, but I don't think the boss man would appreciate me dating a client's granddaughter, but... If you want my honest opinion, next time I see this woman I am going to ask her out...as long as her grandmother, father and my boss/co-workers aren't there, so yes I am a little skiddish. She is not our client, so who cares? My intention is not to manipulate her, discuss private business affairs with her or anything else unethical. We are just two people, and I want to have the best time I can so why should I let that keep me from giving her the best time possible? If you were a bartender, would you date a customer/client or whatever the hell you want to call them? If you worked at a retail store would it be ok to date a shopper? I say this because there's also a receptionist at a company we frequently visit, my god this woman is gorgeous. But because we are related by business does that mean we can't date? ------------------------ SUB THREAD Honestly, I want to ask the receptionist out. I saw her once for 1 minute while signing in. I think I was left speachless because I just couldn't say anything. I made a couple comments and got what I believe to be laugh that said "say something else you seem cool". So what should I do clutchfans? Should I stop by and ask her out?
Send an email to the client and tell her that you found her niece very attractive. Let her know that if her niece is anywhere as attractive as her she can rest assure that you can hande her niece's pleasure as well as you handle her business. Can't miss.
