When you have duties as a father and a husband, your "passions" tend to take a back seat to reality. It's great that he's found something he loves to do, but he's using it as an outlet to stay away from his ACTUAL job, which is being there for his family. This guy sounds like a selfish tool bag who is going to regret his decision to train so extensively for a race he's probably going to finish 184th in. He's ESPECIALLY going to regret it when he wakes up a 50 year old man who is all alone because he went about his mid-life crisis in the worst way possible.
oh so you're one of BoBrek's disciples.......explains the talk of old man activities...But anyhow, yeah you a lil too sensitive regarding someone else's relationship...Sounds like you leaning toward going off on his wife....That alone tells me youre either gay(ding) or yall are partners for life (still gay)........
First Laziness, now Triathalons? Vows and the people who take them must be different today than I remember, or there's a lot more to these ending relationships than meets the eye.
Holy crap, are the responses in this thread for real? Geez. [Insert Tron reference here] rhad, i'd rep you a billion times in this thread if i could.
Sure. It's about priorities. 4am-7am, an hour at night. Still plenty of time for your family. He may need to cut out other things like video games, TV shows or whatever. My comment wasn't meant to be flippant. It's truth. The most grounded people I know spend time bettering themselves. You cant just give and give without giving to yourself. I do believe the ladder theory works because it understands what women want. But it doesn't really apply in this situation. Also, I do think that the kids are priority 1 here, like everyone else. The friend needs to reach a compromise with the spouse.
(repped) Agree whole heartedly with gucci888. Btw, congrats, gucci. I know your effort having trained with someone training for the Ironman in Hawaii. I was never an obsessive triathlete, but I sure as hell lived with one. She has won her share of HammerHead awards (person who trained the most over the season). She worked from home, raised a fine son, had a filled social calendar and still had time for me. But not once did she let training interfere with family. Of course it helped our relationship considerably when I chose to start training with her. And certainly her working from home made it a lot easier to sneak in an hour or two of training during the day. I think she had fine tuned her training over the years she's been a triathlete...that helps too. Let me say again, family was always first with her. So I say your friend, although probably doing something he loves, is losing perspective a bit. That's all you need to remind him. Let him make the decision. A question I have is how is the wife's support of his hobby. Did she reject it from the start or did it grow has his enthusiasm for the sport grew? And raj87, calling triathletes losers is pretty naiveté. I have never won a race in triathlons or marathons, but I freaking crossed the finish line. You want to call someone who just gave his all to finish a race a loser to his face? Respect effort, dude.
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shouldnt your attention be paid to people who actually are fallin for your "concern" for a friend that chooses "runnin the triathlon over his family"...Dont stoop to my level bro....This lets me know you're bringing up some hypothetical BS just for the sake of hypothetical BS....Sorry to expose the obvious mane
this. luckily most of these responses are from guys whose idea of a date probably consist of their mom bringing them their fifth hot pocket of the night.
24 hrs x 7 days = 168hours 30hrs/week training 40hrs/week working (assumption) 54hrs/sleep week (assuming 8 hrs per night) = 124hrs 168-124 = 44 44/7 = 6.2 6.2 hrs per day not devoted to training working or sleeping. Maybe I am overanalyzing but this seems like a reasonable enough amount of time to maintain a family life. The triathlon probably isn't the problem but I haven't read much of the thread and of course I don't know the guy personally so I could be way off who knows.
I agree with what you are saying, Raccoon. He just needs a reminder. As far as his wife goes, she was always supportive of his training, and cheered him on during his race. However, he has missed important events, like her grandfather's funeral - because he could not interrupt his training for an out of state weekend trip.
Am i the only one who caught this in the OP. How does his son know about his shortcomings in performing "marital duties" bc of no energy???
ah ****, the old man is dead, why does his b**** wife care if he's not there if the dead grandfather doesn't know. signed 95% of this bbs.
I'm guessing it's not as simple as an equation like that. There are lots of little hidden costs involved and factors to consider that eat up your time. And it sounds like he has lot more family responsibilities than most guys do.
