I used to be that guy. Too nice. Too stupid, too naive to understand women crave to be dominated under the thumb of a powerful douche because their daddies didn't love them enough. Sadly, what has already been said in this thread is true... as soon as you started clinging to her you lost all attraction value in her eyes. Your only play at this point is to **** her sister.
Just go have fun find some time for yourself, don't text her or call her for a while. She will realize what she is missing out on within a month and come crawling back. Then it will be your turn to decide if it's worth it to get back into that relationship or not. I suggest finding a new hobby or picking up an old one. I had a situation where I had gotten dumped and began to work out right after. During the relationship things you used to do become second fiddle as you are spending so much time with your SO. This is a good part in your life don't waste it whittling away.
Cut off her pinky then ask her if she still thinks you are nice. Forgive me if this has already been suggested -- I haven't read the whole thread.
Go skydiving and send the video footage of you doing a back flip out of the plane and put text on your hands to communicate stuff on the way down with her name on it. You will be back in "badass" status again and she will come crawling back. Chicks want to hit skydivers. Or, the ground does.
This is a win/win situation for you. 1. You get laid. 2. Your ex hears about it (and she will, buddy), and she wants you back (and she will, buddy). Nothing gets a woman hotter for you than competition. 3. You now have a choice between two women. Or keep stringing along both. Heck, get them drunk and maybe you can have them both at the same time.
I dunno. I thought this at first, too, but this is grey territory under ladder theory as you know. I mean, he was on the real ladder, and slowly build a thread between it and the friend ladder. He now hangs precariously from a strand between the two. Viewing the abyss and the friend ladder clearly now, is the thread strong enough to get back, with help from such impetus as getting with her friend? My instinct says no, the thread was built on weakness.... not permanently, anyway. if the 'nice' thread is traversed back to the real ladder, the thread will be strengthened and he will be continually forced to it until he either crosses it or falls to his doom. That said, it is still the best option at this point to go to the beach house, I would say. Perhaps not in the short term, this will be held against you, and maybe so in terms of getting you back on the real ladder temporarily, but really only because that's the only gain left in it for you at this point. Sucks, dude, but seriously, if she booted you for being too nice then it's best to move on before the pain gets worse. Unless of course you are just sickly wussridden, and she is legitimately dying for you to just not be an amoeba. It's more likely she knows she has been getting smothered, and no amount of bad boy treatment on your part will undo that happening. You've showed your hand. Now go on the beach trip or ... treat her bad, hoping... waiting with your hand.. that it will undo this thread after allowing you back. I see no precedent.
Agreed. You absolutely have to go to the beach house with the new girl. You absolutely also have to keep us well informed of everything that transpires. With enough details, you'll reach SCK status in no time.
She found someone else. Just because she says she needs to be alone... What she really means is she met Kam..... But no seriously... She found someone else. It happens all the time. Just cut her off completely. Don't text, call, email, facebook, or even really reach out to her friends. I know you mention something about her friend wanting to jump your bones but to be honest, the best thing to do is leave all that alone. When it's done, it's done. She'll call you soon enough.... It always happens.
I haven't read through any of the thread, but if doing her friend is an option, I say take it. She wants someone who will treat her like her feelings don't matter?? Well, I think the fastest road to that destination is getting with someone that she cares about. Only a morally devoid, emotionless ass**** would do that, and that's exactly what she wants.
She probably hasn't found anyone else, but she's clearly fed up with what she perceives is neediness (by your eagerness to please). Just a fact about chicks, man -- they view kindness as desperation, as if you must not have any other options but them, which somehow causes you to be fake-nice in order to cling (or somethin'). If you want her back, don't contact her at all. Let her see pictures of you and other girls on Facebook, and pics of you having a great time without her. She needs to know she's not your life. Then leave it in her hands, cuz if she wants you back, she'll call. Problem is: she's going to be on the prowl for foreign sex soon apparently. Sounds like she broke it off so that she could go to Europe and sample the exotic men without guilt. You gotta ask yourself if you'd be cool taking her back after you know she's gotten around in the meantime. I'd take this one as a blessing in the skies, dude, and move on. (And nothing helps you move on better than a hotter girl...) Your fault was that you actually cared. Everyone knows that apathy is power.
lol, don't give stupid advice just do what you do to get your post count up. this is the internet playground. he is not good with women. we are all avoiding doing actual work. mutualism.
Tell her to grow the f*** up and stop watching jersey shore. And yes, she'll be banging 2 or 3 guys in Prague. End all communications with her permanantly.
I wouldn't go with the other chick thinking it'll get your ex to want you back.... Unless she's a slut literally or a serial dater who doesn't get attached, she's not going to be happy about it. Technically it is still very early. The earlier it is, the more chance there is she'll change her mind. It doesn't seem like she will, but sometimes people make mistakes thinking they want something and then realize they don't. Contact her and ask her if she's absolutely sure of her decision. If she is, AND you like the other chick, then go to the beach house with her. If you don't like her, then i'd avoid it, simply because you're likely to sleep with her or get with her because you just got dumped and are an emotional wreck. Last thing you need is drama or a baby with someone you don't even like. Wrap that sht up if you end up going!
Nice guys finish last. It's all about equilibrium when it comes to most things in life. It's crazy how most chicks like to be choked or slapped around while doing the nasty.
