Thanks for the advice, I know what I need to do but it can sound though.. One of her friends (towards whom she's always been jealous and said that she was into me) found out today that we broke up and invited me to her beach house next weekend, just the both of us. I'd gladly go, but it might be to early, because she could give me the "we've been broken up for 1 week and your already messing around with this girl!". And that might be a little too brutal if I want to get her back Btw, for those suggesting that she met someone else. When we argued last night I said "So you met someone else?", she said "No, I just want to be alone for the moment." It could definitely be possible that she has met someone else, she was almost never single in her life. Or at least never for long. So I don't really know. She's on a trip to Prague with her family for a week and is coming back on her birthday Friday. Should I text her a quick message "Happy bday" or not text at all? I certainly don't want to sound childish.
Do not text her, cut her off. Prague is the bad boy capital of Europe. She's probably on the prowl for tourist **** as we speak, and she might even jack their wallets when it's all over.
Sadly, I think that she has found interest in someone else. The key here is to not talk to her at all or you will lose her forever. She has left you because you are no fun and you have done the one thing one guy should never do " put the puss on the pedestal". Not saying you can't treat her good, but the way you are comes off as insecure. You have turned from exciting to the guy who is uninteresting, and the thing is most guys will probably go through this Atleast once. My advice is to do your own thing and if she wants you back then great. The key to that though, do not just take her back if she she's comes running. Make her go through something so she will realize to never do this again, because the consequences will be brutal. This all starts by no talking in any form. Good luck buddy.
I was kinda in the same situation with this last gal I was talking to. I can tell you this no matter what, the harder you try to get her back, the more it will push here away, because she will think that you will always be here sure thing that will be there, while she tries to find something better. I know this is easier said than done but I say kick back and let things play out. Thats all you can do at this point. She might have to find out that the grass is not always greener and realize she took you for granted. Or you could just do this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tq_qL79lejA
Dude, you're young. Stop over-analyzing everything. Believe me, I'm ALL for not doing anything to stir the pot, but SHE moved on. You're 21, you're not married to her, be young and have fun. If her friend invited you to hang out with her and a beach house, and is someone who you are attracted to (or hell, even if you're not) just go. Have some fun. Turn the page. No offense, but she sounds like a twit anyway. You're going to find better and maybe her friend is just that. I know, I know, easier said than done when you have deep feelings for her. But, the best thing you can do is just be 21 and have fun and try not to think about it too much. Odds are is you'll discover, despite those feelings, you're better off without her anyway, which will make it all the more sweeter when she comes begging to be back with you and you tell her to "shove it". To answer you're question, text her but keep it simple, short and informal. Like, "Just wanted to wish you a happy bday" That's it and, if she responds, ignore it. But, if you don't think you can stop from getting to emotional with it, just don't do it at all.
It's pretty much over...unfortunately, at that age a lot of girls don't know what they want, even if they act like they do. she may have met someone else and probably will do the same to them eventually when her interests change again...or maybe she got fed up of being "attached" and wants to be "free'" because she sees her friends that way. Maybe she'll come around years later, but maybe not.The good thing is youre only 21, i'd be worried if this was happening to you at 30. Go out with her friend, if you like her. There's no point in missing out on a potential girlfriend over a girl who doesn't want you anymore.
Whatever you do, do not do this. Worst. Advice. Ever. And I stick to my $10 bet to the tip jar if she is NOT bi-polar or if she does NOT have a history addiction.
Some girls would never admit it. She might not have "met somebody else" but at least one dude has caught her eye to make her want to cut ties with you. This is the last type of girl you want anyways. Hang with your boys, you'll get over the girl in time.
Um, the keywords there are broken up. If she holds it against you that you went out and had fun while you were single, she's very immature and not worth dating (and so far it sounds like this is the case). So, go to the beach house (assuming you want to go). Don't base it around the immature ex-gf. Personally, I would cut off contact from her too. And when you get another g/f, don't become a softy. You can be nice without being a softy.
You cats are like the Goldman Sachs of relationship analysis... hedging against reality. Over confident on speculation. Overrun with libido yet lacking in hair.
Then it is your nature... if it wasn't your nature you would not have modified your behavior out of fear of losing her. You are better off... she has some serious issues if she thinks you have all of a sudden become too nice, people usually do get nicer as they become closer.
OK, so you're the Nice Guy. I don't think she actually dumped you because she can't handle how "nice" you act, or how well you treat her. Either she: 1. is one of those "only-wants-what-she-can't-have" chicks. in this case, you can't win. 2. sees your niceness as weakness, and is attracted to more domineering men. her dad was probably mean, so you probably won't win here either. you can't, and don't want to, change who you are, nice guy. When I was 18 I was in this situation, the situation being the "love of my life" leaving me. I thought I'd never love or date again. I'm only 24 and I've been in and out of so many relationships since then I feel like I don't even know that 18 year old sap anymore. The difference in the dating dynamics of 21 year olds and 24 year olds is day and night. Same for 24 to 27. The older you get, the more credit "nice guys" get. Remember, you can still be the Nice Guy, and plenty of girls will like you for that, but you will still have to remind her you are the "tougher" gender. Easy fix: nice guy by day, guy who erupts into a sexual beast by night. If you f**k her right in bed, you can be as soft as you want, lying around in your snuggie, watching gossip girl in between sexual combat sessions. Also, stay away from doing things for her, like flowers or chores, or "thoughtful" help. Women can sometimes feel undermined, and even in the best case scenario, you've set precedents that can be dangerous, and hard to live up to. Birthdays and Blow Job days only. Infrequency illicits appreciation.
Tons of fish in the sea, although she was your real first love...there will be others and they are going to be much stronger love. If she could not appreciate you for who you are then it's time to move on. That said, be aggressive and assertive...never back down and be open to your thoughts. I was the typical nice guy and wound up with a bunch of friends that were girls but once I started to express myself and impose my will, women looked at me differently. If her friend wants you over, then go for it. If something happens, all you have to say is.."you broke up with me, REMEMBER!?!?".
You should be all over that beach house invite. Your former girlfriend wants the bad boy back. She can hear all about it from her friend you are going to be the badass around when she gets back to town.
1) talk to her friend. She will give you info...and maybe a BJ. 2) Do you think she would actually tell you she met someone else? She wants to be alone? you know what that means? She wants to be free to hook up. Sorry, but it's true. 3) Don't text her. You are just making this worse for yourself. maybe i missed it but how long did yall go out for?
Hey FredV, I will be at my beachouse this weekend. if you are going to be on the west end, you and your new lady friends can come over and hang out if yall want. I'll supply the beer!
I had a chick get mad at me when I said I wouldn't fight for her if she was with another dude...*shrug* **** outta here with this "too nice" garbage.
I can't find a facepalm pic big enough for this part. Sort of reminds me of the ending of Dumb and Dumber... Oh, well if she says she didn't meet someone else, then I guess that proves it!
