Just got dumped by my girlfriend...

girls will always want what seems difficult for them to get, if a guy comes off too nice they get turned off.... the old saying nice guys finish last could not be further from the truth...

younger girls will always fall for the ******* over the nice caring guy

 

Here's how your conversation should have gone:

Girl: I'm dumping you because you're too nice. You used to be a badass, now you treat me like a queen. I'm far too sexually liberated to accept that.

fredv: **** you.

Girl: Do me.

Problem solved.

 

1. She's lying, you aren't "too nice."
2. She found somebody else.
3. Move on.

 

OK, I think we've gotten "be an ******* for girls to like you" figured out. So, what do we suggest OP do?

 

Its not you its me=she is bored with you

I hate it when a girl says this cause you know its bs

 

This.

 

Better that she broke it off now, before you come home and find her in bed with Lars from Norway.

Who's Lars from Norway?

He's just some guy she met at the gym, with Brad Pitt's face and Jesus' abs.


To be serious, I agree with everyone else who has said she probably met some other guy.
I got no real advice on trying to get her back, if you weren't good enough the first time, same thing will probably happen.
Eventually she will probably just get bored, and do the same thing to you, when she meets some other dude.
Move on, find someone else.

 

Maybe some of the females can chime in, but I would pin your issues on some of these statements.

 

Don't call, Don't text, don't facebook, don't do anything.

She will have her fling with the thadeus and come running back...

 

fredv, you've answered your own question. stop being a door mat. she was attracted to you because you challenged her, you didn't automatically give in. but then you started getting jealous and turned into a b**** ass punk, straight up.

you've got to get back to making her feel you want her, but you definitely don't need her. knock her off the proverbial pedestal by staying away and not answering every little note she writes to you. don't try to win her back. throwing yourself at her whim only pushes her farther away.

don't call her. and when she calls you, tell her you're busy. then you can call her back at a later time but don't talk about how much you miss her. don't sound depressed or happy, just indifferent. you have to replant the seed that she isn't the only one in your life.

 

This pretty much applies to every bbs relationship thread. Clutch, can we make it a template or something?

Seriously, 21 is WAY too young to start being nice to women. That shouldn't start until your 30's.

 

C'mon dude... 30 is the new 21... you gotta wait until 40 in this day and age

 

Sadly, probably true. Women are like monkeys. They won't let go of the last vine (you) until they grab the next one.

My advice:

www.laddertheory.com

 

True post is true.

 

$10 to the tip jar if she is NOT bi-polar or if she does NOT have a history addiction.

 

Show her you are the bad boy - do something illegal, especially bootlegging!

 

Moestavern had the same problem and then he started taking enzyte. Talk about a reversal in fortunes.

 

DDT her through a table.