If I'm holding a door or something for someone, I'm not expecting any thanks. It doesn't make any difference to me. I do say thanks to people holding the door for me, but it's perfunctory. I'm not sincere, it's just the custom. I really can get my own door without any trouble. I'm sure the women can too.
my responses are so habitual that when someone says something to me unexpected, my responses dont make sense expecting: thank you actually said: have a good day my response: you're welcome -.-;;
heheheh. do they? or do american people just have a sense of attention entitlement for not necessarily doing something that they're supposed to do, but for doing the right thing? humility? modesty?
the women in the building i work with whenever i go out i always hold the door for them and I've noticed that the older women (40+) tend to at least acknowledge it with a thanks or a smile while younger ones just not say anything sometimes they give me a weird look this isnt the case for all of course but just what i have noticed. that sucks for your ima - while i dont really expect a thanks or anything some sort of acknowledgment every now and then would be nice - seems like you work in a building filled with b****es.
I remember one time after watching a movie @ the drafthouse, this couple hold the door for me when I was walking out and I said thank you and smiled, she looked at me all weird as if I didn't belong at the movie theater or something.. This was the release of the new Scott Pilgrim movie and I guess I didn't fit the demographic, lol....
Am I the only one that read the title and thought that when you opened the thread up it would simply say, "are all nuts!"
I hold the door for good-looking women so that I can check them out as they walk by. I hold the door for other women because it make it seem like I'm a gentleman, so that I can check out good-looking women.
Why would a woman in pants want to walk through your oppressive door when she can break through the glass ceiling?
I've learned tricks to slow down while approaching a door, this way someone else has to open the door for me. I only open doors for old people or people carrying stuff. Otherwise I slow-play my way to the door.
If being a gentleman isn't enough for you... I think wes nailed it. It allows you to scope out the pretty girls, and for the not so pretty, it lets you retain your non-pig status when they catch you scoping out the pretty ones . Plus good manners cost you nothing. (bad manners cost you everything...).
so you only do something to get something in return OP? Sounds like you are pretty hollow.. Forget doing something because you are courteous or a nice guy that's for losers right? God forbid you have manners. 2 wrongs make a right.. I get it. Thanks for contributing to the crapification of society. Why don't you move to NY with that attitude, and be part of the scowl that is the NE United States. Next time they better damn well appeciate you. Good thing you are not being selfish about it OP.. after all it is about you.
reminds me of why larry david doesnt hold the elevator for people anymore. Seriously, such an annoying letter. If women want equal rights, then golf from where everyone golfs, shoot with a real basketball, and pay for your own meal.
Yes, being moderately annoyed when someone is rude to me after doing something nice for them clearly means I'm hollow, selfish, and contributing to the crapification of society in general. LOL.
Yeah okay dude you are the one not holding the door for other people and actively being a dick because someone else didn't smile for you? Who the f are you? Are we supposed to give you a cookie for doing something that is base courtesy? get over yourself and its fine to be annoyed ,but be courteous and have manners. unequally re distributing the lameness back to society is contributing. You are not part of the solution, but part of the problem. Turn the other cheek, and next time someone does that, patronize them by saying 'your welcome' ..that way you still get to be the douche you want to be, and at least then you are being courteous. oh yeah ,and stop doing stuff because you are looking for some positive re-enforcement, that's hollow and this isn't 2nd garde. try doing something because it's the nice thing to do.. it's so much more liberating.. and you don't have to carry the burden of hoping people care about you. a win-win
