How do you approach a female coworker through the internet?

why does it have to be through the internet? If you're seeing her consistently than that's just weird.....the only option online would be through an email, but im not sure if that's what you meant. If her email is known and public it shouldn't seem stalker-ish. Just let her know you did not want to bother her while she was working.

 

Damn bro, you making it really hard.

1.Do you have her facebook already? If not ask her for it since thats probably your preferred method of approaching but I wouldnt recommend it since everybody is going to see it and you might get cockblock even if not trying.

2. Grow some balls and ask her do you have kids? married? why not? you live by yourself? and build momentum from there. But make sure she is biting back before you insert your date or whatever.

 

That's what she said.

 

Lol. Repped.

 

confusing explanation.

1. do you literally just want to be friends as you stated, or is this a selling point?
2. what brings the internet into play? if it is just shyness, leave it out.

it probably sounds like machismo, jersey-shore inspired dude advice from the internet peanut gallery, but it sounds to me like you need to MAN UP and ask her what her off-the-clock plans are. start talking about what you guys are leaving to do, even if nothing at all, and you will notice how cumulative romantic construction can be. on monday, you can take the next baby step up to "man wasn't THAT a boring weekend" or something, and soon enough your rapport will have grown and more opportunity to woo the girl will present itself to you. if you force it, it will show.

no offense, but it sounds like you are stuck on some elementary levels of womanizing. a few general tips:

1. you can't be afraid to strike out. you ARE going to get shut down, at some point by some one. get it over with. you will feel much more comfortable after.
2. patience. if you are going after a specific girl, you are likely to be on the friend ladder first, but many women use this to screen out the players and "non-boyfriend" types. it doesn't sound you just want to bang her, so keep your pace slow and steady with each interaction. she WILL give you feedback, which you should read intensely. if you think she is not giving you feedback, it is probably the wrong kind of feedback.
3. always have other things going on, whether its at work or at home. being confident and engaged are the two most attractive qualities. walk a fine line of accessible and aloof.

best of luck.

 

Man you need some animal instinct. When the helpless prey is occupy at work. Pounce that B**** and give her a surprise butt sex!

 

If the OP knows her email it is probably her work email and it would be inappropriate for him to email her through that to strike up a friendship. It would also be stalker-ish as he is following her around through the internet than just saying "hello" and striking up some chit chat in the course of normal interactions at work. Obviously its not good for the OP to try to take up her time during work but as a matter of breaking the ice it would be better to just try some small talk at work as a way to get to know the woman first rather than emailing her out of the blue.

 

LMAO!!!

 

He already knows her, so it won't be out of the blue. He said they've talked and worked together. That's how he knows she's worked there for a while and how she mentioned places she's been to. Ice is broken, so this is just a way to set up the "date".

It really sounds like he's trying to ask her out on a professional level to get her out of the office environment and then see where that leads. The problem with asking in person is that you have to be really casual about it and make sure it doesn't sound like he's coming on to her. Seems easy, but some people cant pull it off and that may be why an email would work best for him.

As for sending personal emails at work, in some offices it's more acceptable or common. This isn't going to be that personal anyway. Could be the equivalent of one employee emailing another to ask what time they'll head out to lunch and where.

 

it depends on what level mage you are

 

If the woman was interested in you, she would have said yes to that invitation. If you're really interested, you can continue to push on ahead, but that right there is a big hint.

 

Define "no response"

Has she not emailed you since?

Did she email you and ignored the question?

It does sound like she was being nice and ignoring it rather than saying no, but she could have just forgot or not wanted to go at the moment.

Are you even sure she's single?

 

Brett Favre has a sure fire way of texting women to break the ice. Try it and see how it works for you.

 

Yeah it sounds like you've been friendzoned. Sorry to hear that but at least you gave it a try.

 

At the sametime using email might display a lack of confidence and women admire confidence.

True its probably different depending on the office but in most cases interoffice romances are discouraged and its probably not a good idea to pursue one on office email. For one it depends on what company policy and attitude is and two, if things go bad email provides a paper trail that could cause problems for the company.

 

As Xero's link will explain, it sounds like you're trying to scale up both ladders at once, and setting yourself up for a big fall, but to answer your question... how do you approach a female coworker through the internet?

Using 1's and 0's, of course.

 

don't sh$t where you sleep...