So then why even bother commenting at all? He asked a simple question, and the people that felt like giving him advice did. He didn't specifically ask YOU for help....it was a general query.
You won't be hurting his feelings. Hurting his feelings would be saying he's too fat for you, but you said he's not. He's probably already thinking you think he's too big and that may be why he's always talking about cutting down. Let him know what you think and if he wants to go to the gym, then just go with him. He may just need someone to push him and for there to be an official work out time/day. You may even get away with sitting on a bicycle watchign tv, which is hardly torturous. You could also just start by helping him not eat as much. That alone should help him drop some pounds. He or you could even by a treadmill or exercise bike to make it more convenient for both of you.
count me in on BrieflySpeaking's team of wanting to know whether Omega Supereme is indeed a chick or is ghey before commenting on this thread.
Omega is a guy. Omega, as to your question, just go to the gym with him. Or just tell him to stop talking about it, as it bothers you.
I don't think you necessarily have to go to the gym together. The important thing is to somehow communicate that (1) you are not dissapointed in him and (2) you CARE what he looks/feels like. There are a variety of ways to do that, so don't feel like you have to go to the gym if that means replacing one kind of irritation with another.
Probably not...I know I should have did it in another way but it worked! Really, if people don't want to comment on this thread, then don't even comment. Stop bringing attention to yourself.
5'9 and 145 almost seems too skinny for a guy. Although gaining 50 pounds that quick probably isn't healthy either. Tell him to go on weight watchers. There are enough free phone apps out there that you don't need to pay to do it. I dropped about 30 pounds doing it last summer and I've kept it off since then.
i learned this in the book Scorecasting (it's a great read for sports fans and stat geeks)...losing something hurts twice as much as winning feels great. in other words, incentives are a poor motivator when it comes to losing weight. if i say i'll give you $500 if you lose 15 lbs in a month, you may start a diet and exercise regimen. Your new plan will last one week, you won't lose the weight and you probably won't make too much of a fuss about not winning the money. But, if I made you hand over $500 of your hard earned money, and then said I will return this to you ONLY if you lose 15 lbs in month. I'm sure you'll try much harder because the thought of losing the money hurts too much. In economics, it's referred to as loss aversion. So, unless you can convince your partner to risk something of value if he doesn't meet his goal, he'll never take the initiative to lose the weight.
