Sounds like she was playing that dude. Changed her status to "In a Relationship" to get him excited to come, so she get gifts and treated like a gf. Then he leaves; she changes it back, so now you will treat her like a gf. haha Hey, don't try to "Cheer her up." I mean; don't assume she needs cheering up. I recommend avoiding all conversations about the guy. The more you play the role of cheering up and listening to her talk about other guys ... the more you become a "Friend." What do you want? Sounds like it is easier for you to be her friend; well ... is it? If she brings up the dude, just say, "Who?" You can actually turn it into a joke. Say "Who" every time. She'll laugh and eventually realize she's talking too much about another dude, it is boring, and she needs to move on.
good advice. Don't mention the guy or be the shoulder to cry on. If she brings it up just say something along the generic lines of it's for the best. Just take her out and have a good time. Have some chicken, maybe some sex. You know, see what happens.
This is so complicated. OMG --- She changed her facebook profile -- what do I do now??? Crazy. If you want to pursue her, then do it. And keep at it until you no longer want to or she's wearing someone else's ring or they start enforcing the restraining order. If *you're* worth it, she'll see the light...
Chatted last night and talked like normal. No convo about the ex-bf. We'll see what happens but definitely not a shoulder to cry on
Take charge; be cool, funny, charming, and manly. Be available without smothering her with neediness. Proximity is half the battle, you will have her.
Show her you are a high energy guy. Take her to do something active that makes her heart race and gets her out of breath. Then make her laugh all the time. Keep the pace very fast. Don't ask her what she wants to do, where she wants to eat, nothing. Don't ask her what she likes. Then tell her you want a girlfriend and you are looking for a good one that wants to hang out with you and have loads of fun. Challenge her by telling her you like her but you don't know if she can keep up with you. Forget all the "slow" romantic b.s. That's the quickest way to being bored out of your skull with a pretty girl that just drains and saps your wallet and your freedom and keeps you on the string of "hope". All during the date tease her and joke around about her looks, her dress, everything about her. Ask her if she can water ski barefooted because her feet are so big. Tell her you bet her parents made her always keep her head inside the window of the car when she was little because her ears are so big they would beat her to death. Just kill her by making fun of her and making her laugh. And if she doesn't laugh or gets offended at your jokes, tell her to grow up, dismiss her and leave her high and dry. If she can't take it and doesn't like it, she's a waste of time. If she does take it and she ramps it up, then she's worth messing with. Be impulsive. After you get her ramped up, slam a kiss on her while she's babbling about something and tell her you wanted to see what that was like. Watch her reaction. See if she is stunned and aghast. Then go on to something else. If she says you're crazy, say well obviously, I'm with you today, and that speaks buckets towards your mentality, doesn't it? But if she tries to keep control, and gives negative looks, wants to slow down, doesn't like your thing, then drop her off at the house quickly, and don't contact her again. The whole thing is about control. The best girls want the guy to control them. The minute they sense they can mess with you, their interest in you goes down ten pegs. Or if they are a controller and they are more interested in you the more they control you, RUN! If she is a controller, ignore her, ignore her, ignore her, and get away from her quickly. No decent man is going to be happy with any woman jerking his chain. Get off the chain, get off the leash. There's plenty of hot women out there. And she knows it too, believe me. The whole thing is, do you value you? If you do, go get yourself what you want man. Every woman has to earn the right to spend time with you. That's the way it works. Otherwise, be another wimp, buying flowers and dinners and movie tickets, and spend the rest of your life buying and doing and getting very little to nothing back from your woman.
Ask her if she's ever plooked a tiny chrome-plated machine that looks like a magical pig with marital aids stuck all over it such as yourself before. If so, maybe you can have a groovy orgy with a modified Gay Bob doll that goes all the way... Ever try oral sex with a miniature rubberized homo-replica?
If she played that other guy, chances are she will play you. If you're looking to just hook up I'd go for it, but if you want anything serious I wouldn't pursue her.
