... "quite frankly my dear, i don't give a damn." so, partner puts on a pair of pants this morning, tucks in his polo shirt (sorry b-bob), and asks if his belly is poking out too much. i say no. he then asks if i'm sure and i say yes. he then proceeds to untuck his shirt after fiddling around with it for five to ten minutes and goes to work. this is starting to be a daily thing to where i have to suggest what he puts on now. wtf? i really, really don't care about the extra weight that he's put on the last couple of years that we've been together... as a matter of fact i dig it. i've always preferred extra padding (bears are cool). when we first starting going out, he was about 145 or so. now he's a few below 200. he's 5'9" btw. yep... he gets extra servings for dinner and it's usually followed by some oreos, icecream, or lately the bread pudding that he made last weekend. again, i'm comfortable with/like it, but i'm also getting irritated with the "i really need to go to the gym", "i promise i'll just have two cookies", or "after this trip to such and such, i'm going get a gym membership". he's quit buying new clothes because of the "why do i need new clothes if i'm going to start working out" thing and now he's starting to mope around a lot more feeling self-conscious about the weight. anyhow, how do you encourage your other half to go to them gym if they've already suggested that they want to go? of course i don't want to say "schit or get off the pot" or something to that effect, but it's getting pret-ty damn old hearing something so inconsequential in our relationship. have you suggested to your sig other that they go to the gym? if so, did you do it?
You show them this thread? Just tell him exactly what youre thinking. Either he stops talking or actually does it. It sounds like you'd be ok with either choice.
"Lifeguard: Sir you can't park your van on the diving board. Peter: That's not a van, that's my son."
More sex. That's exercise. That'll burn his calories. Good for both of you. Don't just wait for Sextember to do it every night.
Next time you are watching tv and like a P90X commercial or some other home workout comes on, say something like "I like working out at home, I always feel embarrassed at the GYM" because I'm pretty sure he might feel that way. Or, listen to sports radio when you're both in the car or at home so that a Quick Weight Loss Center ad will come in during a commercial break and you can talk about how every fat sports radio DJ in Houston is on that and have all lost weight. Can I get some of that bread pudding?
Just bite the bullet and get a membership for the both of you. Once you show that you're committed to going with him, he'll be more inclined to actually "schit".
showing this thread will result in hurt feelings. absolutely fine with either going or not going, but lack of decision and whining about is tiresome. i could go with him to the gym although i don't feel the need to. definitely not muscular and very far from being overweight. bmi is almost smack in the middle of normal weight. maybe it's one of those sacrifice thingees. lifting weights/cardio just sounds like torture for me, but i'm not the one mentioning it everyday. ah well... if it'll make him stop.
Gaining 50+ pounds over a couple of years is a lot of weight, and is likely incredibly unhealthy for him. Even if you don't feel the need to go, I think this is a sacrifice you make for someone you care about. The cardio/weights might sound like torture now, but trust me, once you find something you enjoy doing at the gym, it becomes a welcomed addition into your life. You will look better, feel better, and your overall happiness will increase (in your own life, AND your relationship). Trust me, NOTHING bad comes from leading a healthy lifestyle.
His confidence level is low. Encourage him to hit the gym. Excuse the pun but don't sugarcoat it for him. You might like the extra padding but I assure you that he doesn't. Extra servings and dessert every night just isn't going to cut it. He's going to get bigger by the day. Health is important. Dieting isn't hard. Pack on the lean protein, veggies, fruits and stick to complex carbs. Limit the sugar, oil, & processed foods. As I type this, I'm eating a crap load of chicken with some brown rice and a pear for after.
That weight gain can be pretty unhealthy. And he seems concerned. Self conscious. That's bad. So...yeah...go with him. Ride the bike, walk the treadmill...whatever...if you don't want to pump iron. And consider changing your diet. That will have a bigger effect then the gym. Replace the fatty stuff with healthy, tasty (that's the important part) deserts and meals.
damnit. ok. knew someone would suggest going with him, but didn't expect everyone to agree. gym memberships it is. i just really do not like gyms. used to run track a lift just a little way back, but seemed more like torture than anything else. ugh. ok.
Oh, so you're bigtexxx's living companion. Or life partner. Whatever it is that you modern trendy men call it these days.
Well, hubby was pretty a bit big when we first started dating. I've always been fitness/healthy minded individual so it really bothered me that he was eating unhealthy and not really taking care of himself. I don't suggest this but I told him that he had to go to the gym because he was getting bigger. I didn't sugarcoat it or anything. Well, that worked. Now he is in a good shape with muscles instead of flab.
If he is ashamed of his weight gain, no matter what you say about not caring, he'll keep bringing it up because it's on his mind. He obviously cares for you, otherwise he wouldn't give a damn what you thought. As for the Gym. He might be overwhelmed. What with having to eat less and having to spend a little spare time exercising. Build his confidence with portion control first. Make it a habit for him. The LB's should start flying off without 2nd helpings and dessert. He will have to do this on his own in the end. GL bro and props/rep for being confident enough to ask for help with your homosexual relationship. Real talk.
