Will Smith is a sensitive b**** and just embarrassed Black man

Time of healing?

 

He's AARP eligible now, after the ban, he'll be eligible for social security.

 

Man just won an Oscar for Best Actor and all people are thinking is the band playing at the Titanic.

Though I'm already sick of hearing about the Smiths, I hope this is staged because watching a man's soul die inside like a slow moving trainwreck is not my jam.

 

Saw somewhere that he got an Amazon/Apple/something project cancelled; a couple of production studios have said they don't want to work with him...

He'll be fine, but it is actually affecting his career on some level.

 

for those who dont get the reference...

 

I guess the Apple+ one cannot be cancelled, they finished shooting, he plays a slave on the run.

It is put on hold IIRC.

Ironically that is another Oscar nomination worthy role.

Name is Emancipation.

 

Yes, There are few roles/films/productions being put on pause, hold, cancelled. He will have to do some interview to address the situation (Oprah!).

 

Dude really needs to just get a divorce already. She almost dragged him fully into a money draining cult. She is a yoga weirdo sociopath.


Guy has battered wife syndrome for real.

 

What's the difference between a joke and a g*ngbang?

Spoiler

Will Smith won't let his wife be in a joke.

 

Dr. Melissa DeBose Hankins -

This is what the result of unresolved trauma looks like.
What many of us witnessed during last night’s Academy Award ceremony between Will Smith and Chris Rock was a TRAUMA RESPONSE.
While I am in no way condoning violence, I think this is a very public and very important opportunity for us to all understand what a trauma response can look like.
A trauma response can take many forms (some surprising) and look like:
Slapping someone for saying “the wrong” thing
Yelling at someone for not doing something “fast enough” or “up to your standards”
Avoiding or not responding to a boss’s emails about scheduling an upcoming performance review
“Having to” do everything “perfectly,” otherwise you feel anxious or unsettled in some way
Yelling at staff or throwing things around your office or OR when you feel frustrated or have a bad outcome at work
Not setting boundaries around your time and energy because you’re worried about confrontation and upsetting the other person
Working endless hours without taking time for yourself or the things and people you enjoy because your job is your primary source and measure of your own self-worth and value
When a person has experienced trauma (“Big T” trauma or “Little t”trauma) from their childhood (or, their adulthood), the brain and body store that traumatic memory in ways such that aspects of that memory can be re-activated by present-day interactions and situations.
When this happens, the person experiencing this re-activation is split-second processing (on a subconscious or unconscious level) the current event through the filter of that past trauma. This means that that person is, for all meaningful purposes, experiencing things as if they are right back in that previous circumstance of trauma. As a result, they are reacting (taking action)—emotionally, physically, and/or verbally—from that place of trauma.
Those past traumas can be diverse and range from:
Witnessing a parent being physically or verbally abused during your childhood
You, yourself, experiencing physical, sexual, or verbal abuse in your childhood or adulthood
Experiencing emotional abuse or neglect as a child
Being harshly reprimanded (this could include being spoken to by someone with an angry tone and demeanor) or shamed by others as a child for not doing a task “the right way” or not doing it “well enough”
Being told (and, perhaps, punished) as a child by an adult caregiver that it’s not polite and/or not acceptable to say “No” when an adult tells you to do something (including getting hugs from relatives, being made to attend events with your parents even when it’s clear your parents really didn’t want to go)
Being called out by a teacher in front of the class for having the wrong answer and feeling embarrassment and shame
While some of the above may be horrific, and other things may seem inconsequential, depending on the age of occurrence, the emotional, mental, and physical resources that person had at that age, as well as any prior traumas could determine the extent to which that person experienced trauma. A 2 year-old accidentally wandering into a closet with a door that shuts behind them that they can’t easily open, plunging them alone in darkness for 15 minutes before someone finds them is a far different experience than that of an adult in the same predicament.
In the case of Will Smith, he detailed in his autobiographical book, “Will,” that he witnessed trauma as a child in the form of violence at home. In his book he writes:
“When I was nine years old, I watched my father punch my mother in the side of the head so hard that she collapsed,” he wrote. “I saw her spit blood. That moment in that bedroom, probably more than any other moment in my life, has defined who I am.”
“Within everything that I have done since then — the awards and accolades, the spotlights and attention, the characters and the laughs — there has been a subtle string of apologies to my mother for my inaction that day. For failing her in the moment. For failing to stand up to my father. For being a coward.”
So, while the “joke” Chris Rock said was about Will’s wife, the fact that she was being targeted in combination with the look on her face (signaling to Will her level of upset and distress about what was said), triggered a split-second accessing of (and instantly being placed inside of that) memory to an earlier time when he was 9yo and wasn’t able to protect his mom (the woman he loved).
Will’s reaction last night was that of that 9yo traumatized little boy who simply reacted in the way that 9yo boy wanted to react back then.
Does having a history of trauma (big or little) give a “free pass” for the present-day trauma reactions that involve the harming (physically, verbally, or emotionally) of another? No, of course not.
However, it does highlight the extreme importance of understanding trauma and it’s many manifestations, and addressing it with effective trauma-informed approaches that address the emotional, physical (because we hold emotions in our body), and mental aspects of trauma.
Hopefully, rather than simply vilify Will, and say he has “an anger problem,” people close to him can help him recognize that this is “A TRAUMA PROBLEM,” and help him get the trauma-informed help in the form of therapy in combination with modalities as EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, or “tapping”), EMDR, or other somatic modalities that can effectively and efficiently release the traumatized aspects held in his memory and body.
Once his trauma and his emotions are no longer dictating his actions, he could have a much more measured and effective response to situations such as that that occurred at last night awards ceremony.
My further hope is that if anyone reading this finds that they are stuck in patterns of extreme reaction (such as Will experienced), or even less severe reactions, but you recognize are getting in the way of you living life the way you really want, please consider getting trauma-informed support.
Even if you’ve not experienced “Big T” trauma, ALL of us have experienced various “little T” traumas that have impacted each of us in various ways personally and/or professionally—some with mild behaviors and impacts, some not so mild.
As physicians, we are masterful at suppressing so many of our emotions, and the thoughts and memories associated with them. However, trauma has a way of impacting us in great big obvious ways (as we saw with Will Smith), and not such obvious ways (perfectionism, workaholism, lack of boundaries).
I’m not suggesting any of us go unearthing swaths of past trauma (please don’t do this unless you are working with a trauma-informed individual).
Simply be aware that it may be impacting you in ways you recognize and have yet to address, or in ways you never quite thought of as being associated with trauma. And, if needed, allow yourself to get the support you need by working with a trauma-informed therapist, trauma-informed coach, or other trauma-informed practitioner/modality.

 

Just listen to the song and stare at the picture.

 

In 6 Months to a year
Will we be back on top
Chris will be a bit richer

Rocket River

 

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-11062209/Will-Smith-FINALLY-apologizes-Oscars-slap.html

Will Smith has finally apologized for slapping Chris Rock at the Oscars and revealed that the comedian has not yet forgiven him.

The actor posted the video on Instagram on Friday where said he was 'fogged out' during his acceptance speech, and that is why he did not apologize to Rock.

'I've reached out to Chris and the message that came back is that he's not ready to talk when he is, he will reach out.

'So I will say to you, Chris, I apologize to you. My behavior was unacceptable and I'm here whenever you're ready to talk.'

He also apologized to Rock's mother and his entire family.

'I just didn't realize how many people got hurt in that moment, so I want to apologize to Chris's mother. I want to apologize.'

Smith said his wife Jada did not instruct him to slap Rock, and that he takes full responsibility for what happened.

'I spent the last three months replaying and understanding the nuances and the complexities of what happened in that moment.

'I'm not going to try to unpack all of that right now but I can say to all of you, there is no part of me that thinks that was the right way to behave in that moment.

'There is no part of me that thinks that's the optimal way to handle a feeling of disrespect or insults.'

Insisting that his wife had nothing to do with the slap, he went on: 'I made a choice of my own from my own experiences from my history with Chris.

'Jada had nothing to do with it. I'm sorry, babe.

'I want to say sorry to my kids and my family for the heat that I brought on all of us.

'To all my fellow nominees, this is a community. It's like, I won because you voted for me and it breaks my heart to have stolen and tarnished your moment.'

Smith went on to claim that 'disappointing people' is his 'central trauma'.

'I can still see Questlove's eyes. You know it happened on Questlove's award. You know, it's like. I'm sorry really isn't sufficient.

'Disappointing people is my central trauma. I hate when I let people down so it hurts. It hurts me psychologically and emotionally to know I didn't live up to people's image and impression of me, and the work I am trying to do is I am deeply remorseful.

'And I'm trying to be remorseful without being ashamed of myself. I'm human and I made a mistake and I'm trying not to think of myself as a piece of s**t.

'I would say to those people I know it was confusing, I know it was shocking, but I promise you I am deeply devoted and committed to putting light and love and joy into the world.

'And, you know, if you hang on I promise we'll be able to be friends again,' he said to the fans he had let down.

 

unemployment takes its toll

 

Best path he could take.

 

Awww, he couldn't book time with the producers at Red Table to apologize.

Their schedule is packed and they had more important things to talk about.

 

He has saved the world, galaxy, universe multiple times. He can slap whoever he wants...and doesn't need to apologize.

 

Way too late for this.