This is always the risk of an online virtual community. What is real and what isn't? Unless we somehow have other information outside of what someone cares to share we have no way of knowing. How we choose to respond though is about ourselves. As much as we created our own reality here that is also how we choose to react to the what someone else projects.
Yes. The nature of virtual community is that we project the what we want the community to believe. For the most part most of us have no idea who we are outside of Clutchfans. We're only engaging in the avatar that the poster has created. If someone is trolling I put it more on them. If we choose to respond or not that is on us. For me I have no idea what is actually happening to any given poster. I also don't have the time or interest to really go and investigate who a poster really is. For that matter no one really know for sure whether I am real or not. My own choice is to use this virtual community to express my thoughts and to do what I think is helpful. If someone is choosing to deceive that's up to them. Other than some time spent typing it really doesn't cost me much and maybe it is helpful.
Yes there is a lot of bullshit. Even in "real life" we all put on masks and project out what we want to project out. Reality as we know it is bound by what our own perceptions and that includes what others want to project about themselves. The Internet has made it much more easier to do that.
So don’t spend too much time feeding the trolls. Help people in real life. Make friends in real life. Real people, not bullshit. People get too wrapped up in these forums with people and personas that really don’t exist. This is a pathological liars paradise. Thats why I laugh at most here who take themselves so seriously. It really is all a big nothing.
That is great advice and one we should all take. For me the costs of posting here is very little. For the most part this is entertainment and distraction. It doesn't mean that there isn't a value to doing it. I've gotten a lot of value out of this community including to things that translated into the "real world" About 12 years ago I got a team of U of MN architecture students down to Surfside beach to help repair houses that was organized through contacts in Clutchfans. Several Clutchfans have donated to help rebuild Minneapolis following the George Floyd protests. Also I've met several Clutchfans in person who are really good people and had a great time meeting. Like everything else it's a mattter of keeping perspective. A lof this is BS. That doesn't mean there isn't some worthwhile things in here.
so wait a sec . . . you're telling me that deep down deb4 is actually a secret, closeted Trump fan? mind blown
I love women especially in the bedroom and in the kitchen.,.. Just kidding not just that I see them as completely equal in each in every way ~
Yeah I guess you can find good people anywhere. Even in prison. Still, I call bullshit on 90% of this crap. Thats my perspective and one that filters out people I don’t know, telling stories on the interwebs.
This troubling phase of a bunch of men who can't hack it out there is just leading to a lot of extremism.... This rise of Christian Nationalists and small dicked groups like the Proud Boys just tells me without some combination of religion and cultural norms that elevate men above women, too often they just fall apart and become bitter. Maybe we do a need a WW3 to send these bruhs to the front lines because there's this lazy entitlement in too many men now.
I just cracked open my first beer for the day. Give me a few hours to get on your level and I’ll respond. Anyways, about women. My wife is currently building a shelf and mounting my external work monitor in my man cave while I prepare dinner. Am I doing this right?
