Oh, I felt the weight lifted off my shoulders the day Trump got beat down by the man he called senile. I loved it. Mr. Ego got his bubble burst. Now I don't have to see his sorry as* on TV anymore.
Manny thanks for sharing and as one of the old timers here, I'm not quite a 99'er but was posting here before under a different username, I've read and enjoyed your posts for decades now. As someone who is a middle aged bachelor now I can tell you it's not that bad not having a family. I've lived with two women for years and didn't end up getting married so I basically feel like I've been married and divorced twice without all of the legal baggage or having children. I get the fear of being lonely and I certainly do feel lonely at times. During the pandemic it was certainly hard not having anyone else here most of the time but as I said in my previous post it helped that I had already been through some low points in my life. I long ago decided that it wasn't right to just get married or have children just out of loneliness but had to be able to do it with someone who I could be compatible with in many other ways and when I was younger also when I was in a situation where I could give children at least the same lifestyle that I had. Unfortunately that didn't happen as when I was younger had periods of professional setbacks and things just haven't worked out relationship wise. There have been a couple of occasions I wanted to marry her but she didn't or she wanted to marry me but I didn't. As the song goes That's Life. There are missed opportunities and missed opportunities which is why life can be so painful or difficult at times.
One other thought. I was talking to a friend about this last week. The vast majority of our life is mundane and big chunks of it are literally spent unconscious. As this thread shows much of it can also be filled with pain and grief. What matters though is those perfect moments in life. The moments where you are truly content and at peace. Those are the moments that give life meaning and what we can hold onto when all seems dark and dismal.
I was in a frivolous lawsuit, and won, but had to spend 6 figures to win, and only broke even......would wake up with night sweats..... I mean, the only group where we actually performed better than our contract and when they breached by not paying....and we filed a notice of breach - they sued..... Lots of lies in their declarations, took me 2.5 years of digging through evidence to prove it.....judge agreed - then said their appeal could take another year but I would most likely win again but it would cost me another 6 figures in legal fees. I sold the rights....to just move on......worst 3 years of my life. DD
Hmmm... I can go back to the 2 different years I was fired from jobs of 7 years each...but both times led to fantastic changes in career and living situations. 2018 when I lost my mom was pretty rough. That led to 2019 in which my marriage of 18 years fell completely apart and bled into the first few months of 2020. But on the same day my divorce was final, I met the love of my life and, as of last month, new wife. But those nearly 2 full years were full of depths I didn't know I could reach. I lost 35 lbs from just not eating. I started smoking again (quit again, too). I was generally about as destructive as I could be. I'm incredibly lucky that my kids are very resilient and came through on the other side about as well as possible. I'm in a great place now with my new wife and stepdaughter...though having my boys with me only 1/2 the time sucks terribly, we're close in proximity and I get to see them frequently when they're not here. I also have managed to make things between my ex and I good enough to be on mostly friendly terms and we co-parent well. So when I tell my wife...who has gone through some pretty hard times herself...things will get better, I have proof.
My life has been an absolute cake walk compared to most and I'm 100% grateful for it. Most of my "bad years" were self inflicted wounds. Whatever might be considered otherwise was just a romance gone bad. Granted, getting your heart torn to pieces can have knock-on effects like depression, anxiety, or lead to other self-destructive behaviors. But still, whatever **** I had to shovel, I know I'm in the minority. Most of yall have seen horrors I couldn't imagine and you're better people than I am despite it. Life is mostly just a series of catastrophes with the occasional quiet spell and the rare bright spot. Adjust your expectations accordingly.
Lucky enough so that the year after COVID was probably the worst year of my life. Only counting adult years.
Probably the first year. I continuously crapped and pissed myself on the daily. I did eventually get passed the issues though.
Hah! If anyone ever wants to, and is so inclined, go hit a Bob show and you are guaranteed to hook up with the random Austin MILF of your choice.
One of my first concerts was a Bob show at the Satellite Lounge. I wasn't 21 yet so I had to get written permission from the owner to attend, lulz. Only reason the owner let me is because the singer for the opening act was my economics professor's brother. Don't know how in the hell Bob came up during conversation in econ class, but it did, and voila. I got to sit in the greenroom and help the band setup/teardown. Thought it was the coolest thing ever. Weird memory.
Yes, I remember when you used to post here under your name of Sishir Chang. I remember reading about things that happened to you in Minnesota. It's really amazing at how fast time has gone by. I tell people all the time that if you blink, you just don't know what you will miss. Sometimes I wonder how different my life would have been if I had more confidence when it came to women and I had several relationships that lasted for a while. It probably would have made me not so eager to want to start a family, but maybe it would not have. Ah the mysteries of life!
1995-1998. For me its during my high school years. I hated all of the drama, backstabbing, girl issues, work, racsim and everything else in between. I graduated early to start college and things gotten much better. College life was so much better now that I was more independent and started to make new friends with people I could trust and make good choices overall. 2007: Girlfriend of 7 years cheated on me and on top of that, my work company finally took a huge hit financially due to the 9/11 economic crisis. Took me a very long time to recover from all of that. 2020-21: When COVID hit and then I lost my family cat of 18 yrs (who comforted me through all of low times leading up today), just a few weeks ago.
I have had a few terrible events happen....death of a loved one etc etc... Never really had a bad year. I have been blessed.
True. I blame myself for voting for him the first time. At least I realized what a HUGE mistake that was during his reign of incompetence, hate spewing, bullying, compulsive lying, golfing, golfing, golfing, grifting, grifting, grifting, and months of his planned coup to rule forever. Thank God I wised up and voted against him the second time!!! Never again will I vote GOP while any of the party of Trump bootlickers or Trump family members run for office. That will be the rest of my life I bet.
One convert at a time. The GOP has been the party of all of those things for a long long time. It just took a narcissistic sociopath with no checks to say what they all think. Dems aren’t much better though. ****ing pansies.
