Dating chiks with kids?

Waiting on what @juanming has to say about this?

 

My only thought is this...I'm old, and one thing I've learned for sure is that the minute you start to compartmentalize people is when you make a mistake. People from all different backgrounds can be equally amazing and awful. Absolutes are for siths

 

Like 99 percent of your posts, I completely agree.

 

Siths in real life.

 

I recall lots of males on this site talking about being married. I don’t remember many (none) saying that have cheated. Hmm

 

It really depends on your age. If you are under 25 its a lot easier to avoid it but once you get past 30 its rare to meet a woman without kids.

 

Haha you make it sound like an illness

 

Can be my friend. It can be

 

Here's my thoughts on this having dated a few chicks with kids..

1. it depends on your age. 20-35 year old males are usually not ready to take on responsibility of raising someone else's kids...and yes, you end up being responsible for the kids. once you get into your 40s, and you are dating folks around your age, there's a good chance one of you have kids already..

2. age of the kids. do you want to deal with newborns? 10 year olds? 16 year old rebels?

3. involvement of the father. is there drama? what's his relationship status? does he have a gf/wife that's battling it out with the girl you're dating?

4. it's harder when both people in the relationship (you and her) have kids that you are bringing in. At least during the dating phase, weekends will never line up when you are both free..

5. are you going to understand that her kids are her world and you are 2nd to her? some guys just can't seem to get this. she is a mother first.
and no you are not going to meet her kids 3 dates in.

6. since she already has kids, does she want to have more with you? if she doesn't, and you do...now what..

But at end of the day, instead of categorizing people into "chicks with kids" or "divorced people", see the human for who they are first, and not their past or their situation and see if that person is worth being with.

 

Dating? Why not

Marrying? Probably not

 

It shows how shallow you are and that you don't really care about the actual person.

Do you really want to "date" anyone and not just out for what you can get?

 

I’m engaged to a chick with a kid. Though I’m a dude with 2 kids so I guess it evens out.

Either you’re mature enough to be involved with someone who isn’t going to put you first right away or you’re not.

 

Fortunately, the dad was/is a jerk so he wanted no part of child support. He (sadly as a human being) happily gave up custody. I was able to adopt her shortly after we were married. There was mostly never any drama after our marriage. My wife was on friendly terms with her in-laws and would occasionally let our daughter visit her.

 

Depends on her and depends on the kid.

 

It's going to end badly. But technically, this will be your second, third, and fourth wife.

 

Stepdaughter welcome home from your first semester of college...

 

I don’t think my wife would approve

 

I thought everything was a bit loose down in Bacliff?

 

Yes.

Mutual fun times.