Maybe you can apply for medicaid for your dad? I wish I could help you more OP, I remember when my grandma went through a ton of issues, it became very difficult to find help and know how much Medicare/medicaid were willing to cover. It was really tough to do your research while having your day occupied with work. I remember a member here mentioning some non profits. I hope he comes into this thread and mentions it.
Very naively, I offer the following two links as places to start, if you hadn't found these already. God bless. https://www.caregiver.org/family-care-navigator https://eldercare.acl.gov/Public/Index.aspx
Try to take one hour, or even one minute at a time. Got to do what you can do today, and it may not be all you feel you need to do. But just do what you can do. One of these nonprofits will help you at least a little bit, at least with information. Deep breaths. Make sure you eat something every day.
You have every reason to feel that way. Try to keep in mind others have faced a similar difficulty and made it through somehow. You will too. My best wishes to you and your father!
My mother was in a skilled nursing facility(what I think of as a nursing home) last year for about two weeks following a surgery. Before she entered the facility I visited and spoke with the administrators. They asked me if she was on Medicaid, and if she wasn't they would be happy to help her apply. Turns out the vast majority of their residents were on Medicaid and living there. Some were there short term, some long term. Most of these facilities have people that can answer questions about enrolling in Medicaid. I would do a search for facilities near you and visit them to see what advice they may have.
Newlin, thank you. The social worker just told me he is not eligible for Medicaid. He may be eligible for Medicare if the doctor deems him unable to work for 12 months.
I wish I could offer more help, but I would suggest taking some time off work maybe a week or so to try and get some things straightened out. Also, maybe talk to your benefits person to see if there are any ideas they could throw at you.
Yes, my mother was on Medicare. The plan they were on paid for the nursing home for the first three weeks I believe(I could be wrong about that). Yes, it's all very confusing and frustrating when you have to make all these big plans for your loved one so quickly. My mother was in Methodist and the social worker did assist us and was able to answer some of our questions.
Unfortunately he does not qualify for Medicare either because he has shown signs of progress. I think this is going to be an out of pocket deal which I simply cannot afford.
OP would a day care for adults be an option? I know it doesn't help for afterwork, but I know this is something I looked into when my grandma needed to be watched. They do tend to be a little cheaper at least. I hate that you are going through this, because I know how tough it is not especially when it is just you on your own trying to figure this stuff out.
I'm open to all options. I'm reading all the stuff here. Sorry if I missed any. I'm thankful for y'all.
Have you talked to the hospital itself? They often have recommendations and have seen people in your exact situation before. Helped me and my wife a lot w her father once upon a difficult time. Gave us phone #s of places to get us started housing him. Reply not needed. I didn't mean to ask it like a question. Just offering idea.
Are you in Houston? I can ask my friends brother what he did. He didn't have insurance at the time either but they were able to work something out with a place in The Woodlands.
This is breaking my heart. If I could do anything for you I would, I put my 92 yo grandmother in a nursing home 2 weeks ago. What the poster said earlier about therapy: physical/occupational/mental/ is huge as far as recovery goes. We had, for a while before she needed to go to a home, some home health care from Visiting Angels. Worst case, it's like hiring a babysitter and you can be out of the house without worries. I don't know the Medicade situation though, like people said I'd talk to the hospital's social services department.
Did you father attend a church or faith based organization? They are usually networked into the community and maybe a resource to you in the short term. They probably won’t solve anything but may be able to help soothe the day to day things momentarily while you work on a permanent solution.
Hope you and your father are doing better. I think there's been some great replies here but if I can think of anything I'll be sure to add.
Nearly every doctor and hospital should be able to provide you with a list of charity healthcare providers that may be able meet your father's needs. Obviously it isn't a guarantee that they will help, but pretty much every hospital in Houston has charity outreach programs, and there are many, many evangelical and religious healthcare outreach programs in and around the greater Houston area.
Very sorry to hear about your father and also your struggles with covering care. Unfortunately I don't have anything to add since I don't know what is available in Houston for care. I don't know if your family is religious but you might want to check some religious organizations and see if they can help.
