living a solitary life right now. My old friends let me down. If you guys know have any suggestions i could do to be around people (volunteering, home improvement workshops, etc.) let me know. Otherwise, living like this will drive me to madness.
Friends are overrated. Clutchfans and Netflix are far superior. On a serious note I think it's a challenge finding friends once out of school and in the working world. Volunteering on the weekends is a good start. There are also websites for local meet ups for groups that run, hike, play board games etc.
Easiest way would probably be to find a hobby and then join a club. Seeing how you're a Rockets breh, joining a basketball club or occasionally playing in a gym would be a good start.
I've been in the same boat. Old friends let me down. I've been trying to make new friends through co-workers and mutual friends. What bothers me is how there is no such thing as best friends forever, you will constantly lose old friends and make new ones
Friends by Whodini (*Friends How many of us have them? Friends Ones we can depend on Friends How many of us have them? Friends Before we go any further, lets be Friends* Is a word we use everyday Most the time we use it in the wrong way Now you can look the word up, again and again But the dictionary doesn't know the meaning of friends And if you ask me, you know, I couldn't be much help Because A friend is somebody you judge for yourself Some are ok, and they treat you real cool But some mistake kindness for being a fool.......) Hang in there @Outlier, be patient!! Spoiler: You'll soon be a part of the ... Hanging out at the "Hall of Justice".... ....... ....... .......
I have known my best friend since we were both 8 years old - around 50 years. I have known my second best friend since the 6th grade - 45+ years.
I've know my BFF since we were 10 for over 30 yrs. I married, had a kid and divorced his cousin so we're family now, I'm going up to Spring to watch the game w.him today. I feel lucky just to have 1 real and true friend who's been through it all with me, good and the bad.
I don't think "Mean" -- the opposite of Outlier -- will work, either. And he probably won't go for "Stereotype" ... as that's probably why he chose Outlier to begin with. Same with "Trendsetter" "The Norm" or "Average Joe" Too bad something friendly and disarming like "Hey Pardner" wasn't available.
First, you need to make a positive change internally. Or else your next set of friends will let you down too. Pretty sure your friends didn't let you down 100% - leaving you 0% of the blame.
I don't know what to tell you. That's a rough situation. Like others I've been friends met of my friends since K - 8, a few others in HS, and few others in college. So I'm not the best at making new friends now. I will never have all of that history with any person I meet now. That being said I think the key is in "making history". Find a hobby where you work with people collaboratively, and hopefully have a challenge. It's a good way to bond. That being said, such a hobby isn't easy to find if you don't have it already. Long-form Improv is one hobby that can require a lot of hard work, and is very social. Don't just go to class, go to improv shows, get to know performers, join practice groups etc. With that, there is a huge time requirement and it may have no interest to you at all. Improv is not everyone's cup of tea, but try and find some type of hobby that requires a lot of collaboration and is somewhat social and challenging. A parks and rec type of sports team does require collaboration, but often it's just people who meet up once a week for the game and isn't as intensive to build the history. Either way, it can't be forced. Something where the social part of it comes naturally would help. It's a rough situation with which to deal. Hopefully it will work out for you.
I have been told you can meet all sorts of neat and interesting people with unique talents and skills on Adult Friend Finder.
Go to a church, maybe in a nice suburb or college town to hedge against the snake handling or John Birch quotient. I imagine that and a lot of the other things to which message boards attribute genocide and intolerance, like political fundraisers, chambers of commerce and Crossfit, are actually pretty decent venues for socializing at the local level.
a friend like James Harden would be something nice, ask Bobby Brown. Friendship can be a time consuming in this era, focus on "shared interests" instead and within these circles you can meet your social needs
The old friends must have sucked. What do you understand by "letting you down". Serious matter? Try to forgive and find new friends nonetheless.
Just display qualities you would want in your new friends. People flock to those like them...simple as it is. Don't be needy
