Some of you may remember my last thread, the one where my ex broke up with me. Well it's been 4 weeks and this is what happened: first two weeks- drank everyday with friends, third week- kept texting her non-stop (no reply at all from her) then finally, that last day i told her if i couldn't get an answer from text (whether i should move on or not) then i will go to her house and get one. to which she finally replied "move on". after she texted that, and this is the part i regret most, i lashed out at her and called her a ho (i have reason to suspect she was anyway) and proceeded to say many evil things. so then, i only justified her breaking up with me by being an a-hole. FAIL. she now has me removed and blocked on facebook, and none of messages will get through to her (i sent an apology but she won't be able to read it). And all i can think now is... what a waste. my mindset is all on getting a new girlfriend or ass ASAP, but still I feel terrible for what I did.
Meh just move on and **** some other girls... when she stops texting back you should know that its done, she was probably just creeped out after all the effort u put in even after she presumably thought she had broke it off
first of all...you are an immature brat for your reactions to her (no offence). You are right...get ass asap. from my experience, go do A LOT of exercise. will make you feel a lot better. take you mind off her.
Wise man once said that man can't be friends with a woman that he wants to have intercourse with. She breaks up with you - you need to move on and be thankful that there wasn't more invested in the relationship.
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The thing about a break up is to get closure with your ex. Let it out then and there, and then move on. In some circumstances, that would actually make a break up more complicated, troublesome, and awkward. So... above all else move on.
She felt like one of a kind.................... argh but you're right, I know. still... yeah it really ain't right that she chewed me up, spit me out, like i was a peppermint bubblegum that had lost its taste.. i was her flavor of the year (her previous relationships all ended within a year) she did offer to be just friends.. and i should have at least accepted that right? damn we probably still had a chance if i didn't insult her so badly..
yeah it was pretty immature.. but my heart was torn and all i wanted was just a little sympathy or pity from her, just a little.. and she gave none. like all that we had been through was nothing to her. that's what angered me the most.
Oh dear god... why did you keep messaging her? WHY? By doing that you reek, absolutely REEK of desperation and you will only validate her decision of breaking up with you. Always cut off contact... always. If you simply cut off all contact and even tried to pretend that nothing was wrong, it might have led her to believe that perhaps she made a mistake... but with you getting wasted for two weeks and then texting her "non-stop" like a lap-dog, you think she regrets her decision for a single moment?! You calling her a "ho" and other "evil things" definitely made you look even more butt-hurt, but it certainly didn't help that before all of that you were constantly nipping at her heels. She's right, MOVE ON. Even if your heart hasn't moved on, even if your brain hasn't moved on, at least don't make it so obvious! Subtlety would make you seem more independent, more masculine, more nonchalant... you know, characteristics that women are actually attracted to. Come on, man. Even in heartbreak its important to maintain your pride. And no, screwing other chicks will not help, although almost every man will tell you that it will. Just focus on things other than women; get a hobby that takes your mind off of intimate things and just BETTER YOURSELF as a human and as a man. In time you'll bounce back a better person and you'll be even more ready for the next relationship. I know some of the things I said might be harsh, but man, your post was basically a play-by-play of what NOT do after getting broken up with.
exactly... many friends told me to do exactly the opposite. but I couldn't help it. anyway, this was my first girlfriend and that's a good excuse right? I just couldn't deal with the emotions i was going through.
She wasn't. Stop thinking that she was. Thinking like this is only hurting yourself further, especially because you're convincing yourself of something that in all likelihood is false. No, you should not have. Thinking like this will only hurt you further.
Well, this explains it. Just know that what you did was a huge display of desperation that ultimately emasculated yourself in her eyes. Reacting coolly to breakups and trying to at least ACT nonchalant about it will always make a woman double-guess her decision. But if you keep nipping and begging and dragging your heels... she'll know that she made the right choice for sure.
Actually since she's your first I'd give you some slack. Everyone ****s up badly at some point. My rule of thumb is you give a person one free pass in terms of messing up a break up. After that you're just a fool. I'm fairly certain many people on this board have done stupid things to varying degrees after a break up. And I assume most learned from it. Hopefully you'll learn and not make this mistake again. In fact everything you typed is textbook first breakup material. If its any comfort, almost everyone went through this at some point. The difference is that text messaging didn't exist in my case so I didnt even have a chance to screw up this badly.
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