So as a previous thread of mine stated, my girlfriend is an alcoholic. Recently, she made a promise to me that she'd never drink again. Naturally, she had made this promise before and never kept it (as I usually drank around her and made it impossible for her to keep) But I had made the threat that, not if she drank, but if that she lied to me about drinking and did it behind my back, that I'd sleep with another woman as punishment for that betrayal (as she's promised to stop lying to me for months now) And of course, today, when I left for work, she chugged half a box of wine and snuck off to the store and drank a six pack of beer. She then proceeded to call and harass an ex girlfriend of mine. When I called her from work, asking her if she called my ex (my ex texted me telling me my GF was harassing her) or if she'd been drinking, she lied directly to me. Anyway, I'm wondering if it's wrong of me to follow through on my threat to have sex with another woman because she lied to me. I don't want to appear spineless like someone who makes empty threats Right now I'm leaning towards boning the ex she harassed as I think it's a fitting punishment. Also, I hate my ex (so does she) so it seems like an ironically delicious punishment I'd also like to add that my GF has done the following things when drinking: Sent dirty pictures of herself to an ex Punched me in the face Keyed my car Lied to me about a many things, trivial and large
Why are you still with a woman who has no self control, physically abuses you, vandalizes your property and slanders you before others? Maybe you need to reroute some nerves from your pants back to your cranium.
she pays for all my bills and is also very generous and caring when it comes to me, except when she's drinking she's also got a pretty tight vajay. but she needs to lose a few lbs
If you don't mind her cheating on you.... Even if she agreed to you cheating as punishment she'll still use that against you. I've been in your shoes and it's more like taking care of a kid more than a GF. If you want to cheat on her, go ahead just don't tell her.
Then stop complaining, you take the good with the bad. She needs professional help, we can give you all the advice you want but looking for a fix in a public forum is a waste of time.
Self-fulfilling prophecy. "To help stop your stress-induced self destructive behavior, which I happen to engage in myself, I'd like to remind you of how replacable I think you really are, and sever any emotional ties of this relationship. Bon chance!"
This was my original thought too. But here are some facts that you should know: 1) She tricked me into moving from Houston to Dallas by promising me that she'd pay for all the bills I could no longer afford to pay by quitting my job to be with her 2) Dallas sucks
If she's an alcoholic (and it certainly sounds like she is) then she needs help, AA or rehab. Cheating on her as a punishment will do nothing for her alcoholism. It's just a way for you to rationalize cheating on your GF.
I lol'd hard when OP said he didn't want to appear spineless by not following through on his threat of sleeping with another woman, as if she won't lose respect for you IF you do sleep with another woman. C'mon this must be a joke post right?
+1, life's short, no need to wonder if she's the one when obviously she's not. do you want her to be the mother of your children? i sure as hell wouldn't.
I guess someone has to say it. What kind of thread is that? If you do this, I'll do something equally bad to you, or worse, just to punish you? You're "punishing" your girlfriend because she has a problem? A drinking problem? That's going to make it better? I think you two are better off without each other
Gotta agree with this right here. Cheating will solve nothing, and will actually likely add more problems to this already problematic relationship. She is your girlfriend. She is not your wife. You have made no promise to "be with her in sickness and in health.. etc" and you have no obligation to stick with her. If she lies to you and abuses you then get rid of her. Remember, the reason people get into relationships (usually) is because being with the other person makes their life better than it would be without them. I may be off base, but it sounds like all she does is add drama to your life, which is the opposite of what a good relationship should do. You mention that you don't want to appear spineless, but cheating will only make you seem weaker. It will show her that you will take all of her crap, and even do something as extreme as having sex with another woman, and still will stick with her. Why don't you just dump her and then have sex with another woman? It will be a win-win-win. No crazy girlfriend, sex, and no guilt of cheating. But seriously. Think about what you are saying. You want to have sex with another woman to prove a point. This is honestly one of the most ridiculous things I've heard regarding a relationship, and you really need to take a step back and evaluate where you are with this woman. If it were me, she would have been out of my life long ago if I were in your shows.
