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Another Girl Problem (With Paragraphs)

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by Dnjndmrc5, Mar 24, 2004.

  1. Dnjndmrc5

    Dnjndmrc5 Member

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    It seems that girl problems have been shared in this forum so i might as well give it a try and see what advice I can get. Me and my girlfriend were together for almost a year and half and then things went downhill from there. We would argue about stupid things on the phone and it was not working out. Anyways i got hurt at work and I went to the hospital for 2 weeks, i hadnt talked to her in 2 weeks and when i came back she had news to tell me. She thought I left her for another girl that I had forgotten about her. She told me she had another boyfriend. I was mad of course I told her i was at the hospital. She told me she was going to break up with him soon.

    I believed her. But then she told me she could not break up with him because he had threatened to kill himself and his whole family if she did. I was stupid enough to believe her. She told me she still loved me. But then things got interesting when we were in 3-way (me, the b/f, and her) she would say she hated me not to talk to me ever again. that she loved him and not me. I asked her if she slept with him. She said no. But then she said yes. She told me she never wanted to hear from me again.

    I got an Idea i asked my friend to help me out. To pretend to like me and send me emails telling me she had missed me and to tell me that she wanted me to go to her parties. My ex had the pw to my email accounts. 3 days later she would call me and say not to go out with her, sleep with her, or go to the parties because she still loved me. She told me she would break up with him but she did not want to see me going out with her. I told her i could never go back with her cuz she slept with him. She told me she lied to me cuz she was still mad at me. I believed her.

    Things were going ok but things got interesting again around August. She said she was pregnant for 5 weeks. I told her who was the father. She said it was the other guys baby. He had proposed to her. She said its better if we were just friends. I was outraged. First she told me she did not sleep with him then she did then she didnt now she was expecting his baby. She told me she stopped loving me a long time ago, that she wanted to be friends. After all that she said she did not want me going out with the girl that would email me. She even made a promise telling me that if i did not go out with that girl, she would not marry the guy.

    After a while she told me she still loved me and that she did not know why she said she stopped loving me. She told me she couldnt have the baby because she has anemia and either she could die giving birth because she was not strong enough. She told me the guy was a bad joke she and her friend made up to get me back for being mean to her . I believed her we got back together but around christmas time we began arguing again because i knew something was going on. Even though she told me many times she stopped talkin to the guy it seemed as if she did. Then one night she called my cell phone and told me to stop calling her emailing her or texting her. Seconds later the guy called my cell and told me to stop calling his girl. A week later I had the guts to IM her and told her what was up. She told me she lied to me about the joke and that she was still with the guy.

    I asked her about the baby and the pregnancy and she said she never slept with the guy, but that she was pregnant because she was "raped" at a party by her best friend. she told me about that days before she brought up the other guy. But then she told me she got some medication to abort the baby. Anyways since around Christmas she has been telling me to give her time about breaking up with the guy. She was scared to do it. Everyday i would ask her did you talk to him? did u break up with him? she said she had not talked to the guy in months.

    Things were looking bright. She had tickets to the super bowl and wanted me to go with her. We talked on the phone every day. But on Feb 23 we argued again because she still had not broken up with the guy. I didn hear from her again untill on the 28th. I called her cell no one would pick up, home no one would pick up, her line and no one would pick up. Finally her mom picked up and told me that she didnt live their anymore and she hanged up on me. Later she called and told me her cell phone was disconnected and that she wasnt home. I asked her about her not living there and she did not want to talk about it. She asked me if I missed her and I said yes. she did too.

    The guy IMed me telling me to stop calling her. I told her about it and she said she didnt know. I said i have been waiting for almost 10 months for you to break up with him and you still havent done it. I asked her why? she said she didnt know. I cursed at her and hanged up. 2 days later she called my house and said for me not to call her again. I got online and the creep Imed me telling me he was happy with her and i saw how she talked to him. I told him that she was the one who called me all the time and she is the one who told me she was gonna break up with him. I told him about super bowl, i showed him the statements of the incoming calls she would make to my cell. so happens she changed her #. now she pretends like we have never talked. she got a new dog, and i told the guy that. she said she didnt know how i found out.

    The only thing i dont understand is why did she tell him That i raped her. She is making him believe that i raped her. Anyways she cried on the phone that night calling me a liar, a stupid ass fagoot. We havent talked since. I asked the guy if she was really pregnant? he said yes, 7 months. I guess he believed me but he said he had to stay with her cuz of the baby. She was my first girlfriend. Not your typical first breakup. I loved her i showed her how much i care. I guess she just played with me all this time. I feel like ****t.
     
  2. fadeaway

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    The only possible explanation I can see is that you're an idiot. I'm sure you'll agree. Sorry.
     
  3. Behad

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    Ok, better with paragraphs (the reading part, not the girl). To make a long story short, you just got to get as far away from this girl as you can. It's over, move on.
     
  4. ima_drummer2k

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    OK, that's a little better.

    My advice? Run like hell away from this psycho and don't look back. You need this drama in your life?

    Funny, seems like this advice applies to every 'girl problem' thread I've ever seen on this bbs...
     
  5. robbie380

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    sounds ****ty...but come on....waiting TEN MONTHS?!?!?!? for her to breakup with him? i know its your first gf, but man you need to learn to move on or you will be in trouble with girls for the rest of your life. not trying to kick you while you are down, but she sounds like she is literally crazy. i don't mean that in the typical way of calling women crazy....she sounds like she has mental problems.
     
  6. MoBalls

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    Jerry ! Jerry ! Jerry ! Jerry !
     
  7. HOOP-T

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    This is an easy one.

    Why oh why would you even want to be associated with a girl, actually ANYONE, that treats people like this? How would any continued relations with her benefit you at all?

    She's hot? So what! No matter how hot she is, someone, somewhere is tired of her crap. ;) (Just kidding about that).

    Let it go. Move on. You don't need it.
     
  8. AroundTheWorld

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    Tough, but true :(.
     
  9. A-Train

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    Is it just me, or does almost every "girl help" thread start with the original post then a bunch of "dump her" posts?

    Sounds like most people really don't need help as much as a bunch of cyber shoulders to cry on...
     
  10. yipengzhao

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    wow... is this for real? twisted!
     
  11. Dnjndmrc5

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    This is what she said of me in her Journal online.

    [19 Mar 2004|01:41am]
    [ mood | depressed ]
    [ music | backstreet boys - 'don't wanna lose you now' ]


    well last night was a really horrible night for me..i thought my whole world was going to end. a stupid f***** ass told my b/f lies, i was so pissed off..my b/f believed what he said. he told him that we had been talking while me and andy were going out and that wasn't true at all cuz i've been avoiding this person alot and i even changed my cell number and my number to my line just so he wouldn't call me anymore and stop bugging me. but somehow he found out the new number to my line and kept calling and kept calling my house phone also which pissed my mom very much. he called every ****in 10 minutes and my mom told him that i didn't live her anymore. the stupid ass still kept calling after that, for god sakes i couldn't sleep at all anymore cuz he would call and it pissed me off so bad. well anyways, back to my story..he told my b/f lies and has been trying to break us up for a very long time. i cried so much last night cuz i thought i was gonna lose andy, i started to cut myself cuz i didn't know what to do or what was going to happen. i love him so much and he means the world to me. i don't know what i'd do if he wasn't in my life..i don't think i would have a life at all if he wasn't in it. he makes me so happy!! i love him with all my heart, when i'm not talking to him i get all sad and depressed. i kinda want him to read all this but then i don't..i dunno. i just want him to know that i love him so much and that i'd go crazy without him.

    well i think i'm gonna go listen to some music or watch tv or do whatever..be back tomorrow
     
  12. AroundTheWorld

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    Link?
     
  13. Behad

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    Just so I am clear, you are not Andy, correct?


    When did you read this? Today? Why are still reading her online journal? You will never forget her if you keep in touch with her, even in abstract way like reading her journal.
     
  14. Behad

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    LOL, I'd like to read more too.


    If she has screwed you around half as bad as it sounds, no one would fault you for posting her password to this journal.
     
  15. Fatty FatBastard

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    Seems your girlfriend isn't good with the paragraphs, either, eh?
     
  16. firecat

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    It's not really funny now, but in 10 years you will think that it's funny that you put up with all of this bull.

    I went through the exact same thing with my gf in high school. We were together off and on the whole four years. For one of those years, I went through the other guy thing. It was the same, she loved me but she couldn't break up with him because he was psycho. I knew him and he was a thug loser. She told me that she wasn't having sex with him and that I was the only one that she was having sex with. I even got in a small fight with the guy at school, but it broke up too fast for me to get my butt kicked.

    Then she was pregnant too and of course it had to be my baby. She got pregnant just about the time that I decided to move on and that she wasn't worth my trouble. Well here I am going through all kinds of crap with this psycho chick and now she's going to have my baby. Great!

    Well, she loses the baby because of a miscarriage and that makes her very sick so I must be there with her and take care of her for all of the pain she is going through.

    Eventually we break up for good and I have moved on to have a pretty good life with women.

    I still keep in touch with my high school gf from time to time because we both genuinely cared for each other. About three years ago we talked on the phone and she confessed to lying to me about having sex with that guy in high school and that the pregnancy was all a lie too.

    Through the years I had already come to the conclusions that they were both lies so I was able to forgive her and I am happy that she came clean on the issues.



    Anyway for advice, leave the chick alone. Date whomever you want to and don't listen to her or her boyfriend. It doesn't sound like you ever see her. Is it all over the phone and computer? Do you even live close to her? Just move on.

    When you do move on and she sees that it's for real, she'll come on real hard to get you to come back. Something gives her comfort that you are always there and when she loses that she'll tell you all the nice things that you want to hear to get you back and then she'll treat you like garbage again.

    My suggestion is to go out and get a new girl and don't look back.
     
  17. Fatty FatBastard

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    He's not Andy Andy, is he?

    (sorry, abstract "Cheers" reference.)
     
  18. Behad

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    I got it!

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  19. Surfguy

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    Can I buy the rights to your story for a movie? I already have a title. It's called "A Thousand Lies". I have picked out the stars to play the various parts. For you, Hugh Grant. For your (ex)g/f, I will cast Cameron Diaz. And, last but not least, for Andy I will cast Matt LeBlanc .

    Seriously, though, haven't you put up with enough? Move on already. Your g/f is a complete liar. It's amazing you kept pursuing her after the second paragraph even. She can't tell you many lies and then you believe her. Then, repeat it over again and again. That's being gullible. It sounds like you want it to work no matter what so you will believe anything or put it aside as long as you can be with her. Forget about her. Move on.
     
  20. Jeff

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    Just a quick question...

    Why exactly are you even talking to this girl at all? She says she left you for another guy and even that she was pregnant and you continued to pursue a relationship with her??? What part of "I'm pregnant with another man's baby" don't you understand?

    I am always surprised at the lengths to which people will go to make their lives miserable.
     

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