When is it to late to Impregnate.

matty101 · 05-05-2008, 06:03 AM

One of my close friends told me today that his Uncle is having a baby with his wife. His uncle is 52!

IMO that is way to late, for the babies sake if nothing else.

So i propose it to you all. When is it to late to impregnate.

P.S The expecting mother is 41 and both are in their second marriages.

Thoughts?

A_3PO · 05-05-2008, 07:48 AM

My father was 54 when I was born, but then again, I was an unplanned "accident". It was his 2nd marriage and my mother was 36. Turned out OK. My brother had his first kid last year, also at 54.

It depends on if the father will be an active, positive part of the kid's life until at least 18.

Pole · 05-05-2008, 07:54 AM

Better that than kids having kids. And by "kids", I mean just about every American under the age of 21, about 75% of Americans between 21 and 26, about half of Americans between the age of 26 and 30, and about 25% of Americans who never growup.

Jeremiah · 05-05-2008, 08:21 AM

If you're so old that you may die of old age and not be there for your kids' weddings, birth of grandchildren, etc, then you're too old to make babies.

mrpaige · 08:27 AM

My father married his third wife when he was 43, and the two of them had subsequently had two sons - one when my Dad was 44 and one when he was 46. I would dare to say that my half-brothers actually got more of his attention than I did when I was a child.

When I was born, my father was finishing his internship and just about to start his residency. After that, he was establishing his practice and whatnot. By the time my first half-brother was born (when I was 18), my Dad was well-established and soon started cutting back on the hours he spent working. So, he spent a lot more time at home, and a lot more time with them.

So, I think there can be advantages to having older parents.

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Seriously, unless you can prove you have a steady income, it should be illegal for anyone under 25 to have kids.

Why would you put an age limit on that? If there was such a rule, shouldn't that apply to anyone, not just people under 25?

eMat · 05-05-2008, 08:41 AM

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Why would you put an age limit on that? If there was such a rule, shouldn't that apply to anyone, not just people under 25?

I should have left it at 'No kids at under 25, period.' as I originally had. Honestly, do you think 18 year-olds, in general, are mature and emotionally stable enough to have kids? The only advantage I can think of being a young parent is that you're probably not so far behind times as opposed if you're 50.

Cesar^Geronimo · 05-05-2008, 10:18 AM

I think 45 is beginning to push it - for me 55 is too old. Though I don't feel strongly enough about it to criticize someone else.

When your kids are in their early 20's they don't need to worry about what nursing home to put you in.

LegendZ3 · 05-05-2008, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by eMat

I should have left it at 'No kids at under 25, period.' as I originally had. Honestly, do you think 18 year-olds, in general, are mature and emotionally stable enough to have kids? The only advantage I can think of being a young parent is that you're probably not so far behind times as opposed if you're 50.

There are other advantages in the biology perspective. Generally speaking, younger parents tend to have smarter and healthier child. Also the mother recovers faster if she have a kid at a younger age (not too young, 18 to 25).

mrpaige · 05-05-2008, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by eMat

I should have left it at 'No kids at under 25, period.' as I originally had. Honestly, do you think 18 year-olds, in general, are mature and emotionally stable enough to have kids? The only advantage I can think of being a young parent is that you're probably not so far behind times as opposed if you're 50.

You're asking the wrong guy. I have a personal bias (My older son was born when I was 17, and my younger son was born when I was 21).

Judging from the results so far (my older son is currently in college and the younger son is finishing his Freshman year in high school), I think we did better as parents than I would've thought going into it. But we also had some advantages (both financial and emotional) that many other teen parents don't.

B-Bob · 05-10-2008, 08:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Pole

Better that than kids having kids. And by "kids", I mean just about every American under the age of 21, about 75% of Americans between 21 and 26, about half of Americans between the age of 26 and 30, and about 25% of Americans who never growup.

What a phenomenal idea.

I mean, we'd have to become a totalitarian state, but imagine if you could enforce such a thing.

You could make people pass a difficult "adult homo sapiens" test, kind of like a driving test, and only the top 25% of 21-26 year olds would receive the permit to have kids. And so forth.

You would have a douche-free society in just a few generations.

Invisible Fan · 05-05-2008, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by A_3PO

My father was 54 when I was born, but then again, I was an unplanned "accident". It was his 2nd marriage and my mother was 36. Turned out OK. My brother had his first kid last year, also at 54.

It depends on if the father will be an active, positive part of the kid's life until at least 18.

I apologize if I'm out of bounds, but did you wish your dad was younger when you were growing up?

My dad was 40 when I was born.

clutch citizen · 05-05-2008, 01:52 PM

I've heard that women who get pregnant after a certain age (35-40 I think) increase the risk of the baby's health at birth.

But I don't think there is a clear cut answer. Everybody takes care of their body differently.

Lynus302 · 05-05-2008, 04:46 PM

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I've heard that women who get pregnant after a certain age (35-40 I think) increase the risk of the baby's health at birth.

This is true. My cousin was born in 1986 when my aunt was 36 and his dad was ~40-ish. Yes, the doctors told them of possible age-related complications, so they kept an extra eye on my aunt.

My cousin is 22 and graduating from USC in 2 weeks. He's the first of my group of first cousins to finish college on time. His grades are stellar, too. He's going somewhere for law; Univ. of Colorado, I think.

Another advantage for my aunt is that, as the youngest of her siblings, she got to see first-hand what f**k-ups the rest of her siblings were as parents, and how that subsequently affected me and my other cousins.

I have issues.

Smokey · 05-05-2008, 04:48 PM

Another reason why it's great to be a guy. The unit can function into your 70s-80s.

A_3PO · 05-10-2008, 08:57 AM

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I apologize if I'm out of bounds, but did you wish your dad was younger when you were growing up?

My dad was 40 when I was born.

You definitely are not out of bounds. Valid question.

Sometimes I did but I had a great childhood and wouldn't change anything. We did a lot of fun things together when I was young. He was very much a father to me. His health was great. If my father had been slowed down by his age, things would have been different. He was very active and on the go until the last moment of his life. I was very fortunate.

eMat · 05-05-2008, 08:19 AM

If I ever have kids (I hope that I don't, seriously, why would anyone want them?), I hope I'm about 50 by then. I don't think there is a time when it's too late. I agree with A_3PO, as long as you can raise them, it's fine.

There should be a limit when it's too early though, imo. I finished high school last year and 3 of my classmates are parents already. All of them are still dependent on their parents. My cousin, who is younger than me, has a kid, no education, no job and the kid has no father. People obviously have trouble affording condoms and they think they can afford a kid instead. Talk about idiocy. Seriously, unless you can prove you have a steady income, it should be illegal for anyone under 25 to have kids.

ima_drummer2k · 05-05-2008, 08:28 AM

My buddy just turned 40 and has 3 kids (I should mention that in the "things that make you feel old" thread....). He told me this weekend that he doesn't want to have any more because he doesn't want to be an old geezer when the kid is in high school.

Uh...I really don't consider 55 to be an "old geezer".

I'm 38 and trying to start a family. I don't think that's anywhere NEAR being too old.

DonnyMost · 05-05-2008, 08:30 AM

I was wondering why we constantly hear that parents being "too old" is worse than being too young.

I don't want kids til I'm nearing my 40s...

pradaxpimp · 05-05-2008, 10:54 AM

when they are dead.

no_answer · 05-05-2008, 11:37 AM

As long as you're healthy enough to make/take care of kids I think you should have them.

I think young parents & old parents both have different things to offer a child. I had my daughter when I was 21 (turning 22 exactly a month later). It's awesome, when i'm in my 40's I want to enjoy my husband. Now we enjoy our daughter.