Or marry someone with a higher net worth or make more than you do. Then you can't lose! Just like a woman! If you're going to get married, think like a woman or it's a losing game. Why do woman want marriage? For security. You should think the same if you're getting married. Marriage is just a piece of paper and men lose out within 5 years , 50% of the time.
If you have a partner for life and she does not necessarily want to get married. It's probably for the best. I have read about couples tying the knot when they are 50 or 60 that already have couple of grown up kids or not at all. But if you are a company man and it would be in the best interest of your work to have a spouse that you can show to your boss....... Marriage should be the ladies choice first and your answer follows.
Can I say from the bottom of my heart, those who are posting real responses, you guys are awesome! Especially with all the crap going on right now. It is the NBA offseason, and with the flooding, why not actually help someone y'know? Anyways, i'll add my two cents. I'm 36, my lady friend is 40. I love her to death, but we're just best friends. We both want marriage, and I personally want to marry her, but doubt thats in the cards for me. I met her 6 years ago, and pretty much knew she was the one. I may never marry her, but just being friends with her, I don't even look at other girls now. (TRUTHFULLY) Other girls just don't do it for me, like I know who I want, and nobody else compares. She does make much more than I do, she makes quite a bit actually (and oh yeah, she's a Utah Jazz fan) but my point being, when you meet that right one. You'll know if you want to get married. I couldn't care less about the financials, about property, or anything else. I just know I met the girl of my dreams, and that nothing will change that. I could have the worst day of my life, but a call from her and all negativity is forgotten. When she calls, and I see her face show-up on my iPhone, I know why I was put here. We're not even the same race, and she never once cared about that either. I've always made it a bigger deal than her. But again, when you find that right one, you'll know buddy. Often times, I'll wake-up in the morning and realize just how lucky I am to have her in my life. I know not everyone is that lucky. But I know I am. I hope for you, you'll feel the same about this lady of yours. If not, whatever lady you do find, I hope you feel what I feel. Then you'll know if its right to get married.
Might be time for you to consider a move out of the friend zone if you feel that way. But you'd have to take the risk of losing her
Sadly, I'm not sure that's a risk I'm willing to take. I get invited to their family vacations, and both her parents adore the heck out of me. So I guess currently I'm okay with where I'm at. Do I want more? Absolutely. But the thought of losing her isn't worth the risk I guess.
Not taken as such at all. One of my closest friends, suggested that very thing. The honest answer is I haven't had the balls to try.
So do you end up with blue balls every time you see her? Or are you seeing someone else too? I'm genuinely curious.
Nope, I decided long ago, I'm not interested in dating anyone else. Tried a couple of times, wasn't worth it. Both girls wanted me big time. Could have done anything I wanted with either, but just wasn't interested at all.
I say go for it. The position you are in isn't sustainable long term. You are going to go crazy. Shoot your shot like Ryno from the 3!
The farthest it has gotten so far is, I told her I was in love with her while driving back from a weekend celebrating her birthday. She cried when I told her. That's the extent of how far things have gotten.
Does she date any other guys? I bet she would hop on the Jonathan train if she thought you were taking someone else to pound town. Do y'all hang out every day? Sleepovers? If this relationship turned sexual it sounds like it would be the greatest relationship of all time
Wasn't sad creeped out crying, but not really sure actually. We both work, so we usually only hangout on the weekends (or when we go on vacation.) We're actually talking about Europe next year. I do have a key to her place, I've had it ever since she first moved there. She's about an hour+ away, so I usually sleep over at her place on weekends instead of driving home late.
Noooo. I did this probably 7 years ago. She cried basically the same ish. I was pretty young but girls is girls. I was super hung up on this chick. But I had no balls. Then I started slaying some older whorish looking chick I worked with and immediately this other chick was jelly AF. I actually probably could have dated her after that but we are still just friends. I no longer have those feelings because I realized I really shouldn't have settled and I liked slaying these swamp donkeys a little better. Maybe down the line we will end up happening but it doesn't feel like she has the leverage anymore. Like I wouldn't feel lost if she got a boyfriend. So basically what is your address? Let's get some stank
