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Need some advice (should I ask this girl out?)

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by JMAD21, Apr 24, 2017.

  1. thething

    thething Contributing Member

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    Basically you have to ask her out. Don't know what way it will go, but like everybody is saying, you have to do it.

    I don't really see the nontexting as mixed signals. It doesn't necessarily mean she likes you or doesn't like you. Right now, you're just a friend, and she isn't obligated to respond to your texts that aren't important. She might just be waiting for you to ask her out. You never know.
     
  2. JuanValdez

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    She's probably complaining to a girlfriend right now that JMAD keeps sending all these mixed signals, texting like he's interested but never asking her out when she flirts.
     
  3. JMAD21

    JMAD21 Member

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    Thanks everyone. Maybe I'm reading too much into the texting stuff.

    Im gonna ask her out next time I see her
     
  4. arno_ed

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    Very good. Let us know how it goes.

    These are the threads why I love clutchfans. We do not have many of these anymore. But in the past we had many. Isabel always had relationships advice threads. And the famous "ride ride" thread by 3418.
     
  5. Os Trigonum

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    attaboy. good luck.
     
  6. Sadat X

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    I didn't read all the other responses but here is mine:

    Yes. Go right up to her in person and look her dead in the eyes and ask her out. Dont think about it too much, just do it and let it flow out. I did this exact thing last weekend and it worked. I had a girl in my apartments that I have seen multiple times and I finally just went up to her and started chatting. I got her number and we hung out last weekend. You have to show confidence and also that you dont really need them if they say no. If she says no, just carry on like nothing happened. Dont distance yourself but dont make any advances either. Good luck man.
     
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  7. joeson332

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    lowkey going through the same **** my man, sometimes we just gotta shoot our shot.
     
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  8. joeson332

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    Thats where I have fked up most of the time I meet someone, I think too much of it and when I dont, it works out for me.
     
  9. StupidMoniker

    StupidMoniker I lost a bet

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    Yes you should. Worst case scenario is that she says no, but it won't be awkward, because you say you won't be seeing her for a while anyway. Best case, you get to lock down a girl you consider out of your league. Low risk, high reward.
     
  10. el gnomo

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    She didn't text you back bc she was getting banged out by the dude from the concert. As you continue to wait for the 'perfect moment' to ask her out, she'll continue to get dicked down by mad dudes. Stop being a b****. Why wait until you see her? I'm assuming your cell phone works. Call her. Don't text, call.
     
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    Tldr; Hook up with one of her friends
     
  12. DaDakota

    DaDakota If you want to know, just ask!

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    HELLS YES....don't be a wussy man up !!

    DD
     
  13. JMAD21

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    I don't think asking advice, getting other points of view on how they would read these "signals" makes me a b****...

    It's cool though, you wouldn't say it to my face.
     
  14. Mr. Brightside

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    jmad bro?
     
  15. el gnomo

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    Actually, yes, it does. I wasn't even calling you a b****, only telling you to stop acting like one. Seeing your sensitivity to my post makes me think that you may, in fact, be one. Trying to help you out. You going to call her or nah?
     
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    There's a difference between getting others advice and being too scared to make a move. Not once in this thread have I said I'm too scared to ask her out. Just trying to get other opinions on if it's a good idea. Or how they would read the signs she's given.

    I'll ask her out, but not over the phone like a chump.
     
  18. el gnomo

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    From your original post, it sounds like you already knew the answer, but you needed to hear everyone tell you to go for it. Thus, scared to make a move. If you weren't scared to make a move, you would have already done it rather than ask for people's advice here. And asking a girl out over the phone isn't a chump move. How do you think it happens when you get a girl's number from a bar/party/etc? Or do you not get girl's numbers very often?
     
  19. JMAD21

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    I don't see where you get that... Im more confident about her "signals" now because of what I've read in the responses. As I said, im bad at reading the signs. I don't do bars but anytime I get a girls number I'll text her, but every time I've actually asked a girl out it's been in person. And I've almost always been 98% sure that she'd say yes. This situation is different for me, so I asked some dudes for some advice. That makes me a b****? Lol
     
  20. el gnomo

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    Nevermind. It was more of a pep talk than calling you out, but take it however you want. Good luck, seriously hope it works out for you.
     
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