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Smallz88

01-08-2003, 03:20 PM

Ok guys i'm reallly stuck on something here and need all you ladies men to help me ;)

Heres the situation

Ok theres a girl my friend hooked me up with, we met at a party and had a good time. Nothing big, we made out danced the regular.. She told me to call her so i did.. The Following friday we went out and went to a dinner and a movie.. during the movie i wasnt sure if i should try anything so i didnt, but then she pulled the 1st move and then we went from there.. When i dropped her off she gave me a kiss goodnight and we been talking for about 2 weeks since then.. Now i dont even know why she talked to the same friend and said that she likes me but does not want a boyfriend, i dont know if it's too early she doesnt want a b/f or she just doesnt want one. But she said she wants to stay friends and talk still and go out on the weekends and chill..My friend warned me before anything that she is bad with relationships even though she hasnt had alot of b/f's.. She says she feels trapped.. So i ask you guys what to do? Have you been in a situation like this before? Should i keep talking to her and hopefully something happens
Only problem is i dont want to get attached, so everyone throw your advice.. THANK YOU

AroundTheWorld

01-08-2003, 03:22 PM

You are 17...how old is she?

Smallz88

01-08-2003, 03:24 PM

same age.. i know its nothing big but everything has a beggining

Pole

01-08-2003, 03:24 PM

Sounds like she wants to have fun and mess around and not be tied down (figuratively........she might very well want to be tied down literally).

Sounds like the perfect girl. What's the problem?

AroundTheWorld

01-08-2003, 03:25 PM

I would say go ahead and try to score!!! :D

Smallz88

01-08-2003, 03:27 PM

I've had girls like this in the past, and the next thing i know they just turn around and go for another guy.. Im more trying to settle down with a girl....

Rockets2K

01-08-2003, 03:29 PM

I would say not to push it..if ya like her...keep going out and hanging till she decides that you are the one,or not.
Either way, you get to have some fun..and if you are really lucky..you might have some *real* fun..;)

Don't be in such a hurry to tie yourself down..you are young..take advantage of that and enjoy yourself.

BlastOff

01-08-2003, 03:30 PM

Hey as long as you're wrappin' it, do your thang.

Smallz88

01-08-2003, 03:30 PM

i know what you're all saying,, just like my friends say but like everyone has told me already to try and not get attached and thats the only real thing that worries me

red

01-08-2003, 03:31 PM

tell her what you told us. if she says she still just wants to be "friends" then tell her ok and then shag.

B-Bob

01-08-2003, 03:33 PM

My take? At age 17, you will be better off worrying about getting down than settling down. People change a lot, typically, up until 25 or so, at least. (Yes, everyone, there are notable and successful examples!)

Either way, she does not sound like someone who wants a serious boyfriend at all. If you feel an irrepressible urge to be a serious boyfriend to somebody, you'll have to forget her. In fact, if that's what you want at age 17, you'll probably have to find a girl who has major issues regarding insecurity. :(

rimrocker

01-08-2003, 03:34 PM

My advice would be to change your moniker.

BlastOff

01-08-2003, 03:35 PM

Originally posted by rimrocker
My advice would be to change your moniker.

:D

Trader_Jorge

01-08-2003, 03:36 PM

Have psychological warfare tactics already been implemented? Just curious.;)

Smallz88

01-08-2003, 03:37 PM

heh you guys dont gotta take knocks at me :p

w/e though i'm gonna see her tonight and see what happens

No Worries

01-08-2003, 03:40 PM

Originally posted by Smallz88
Im more trying to settle down with a girl....
like "getting married, buying a house, and pumping out kids" settling down??? If this is the case, that girl aint the one.

heypartner

01-08-2003, 03:41 PM

17 yr olds make out with you and say "I don't really want a boyfriend, right now," because they want to do the nasty with you, but want an out in case you are nasty at it. If you're good, you're in for a few months, until you cave and say "I love you," or you run out of money.

Sounds like you can score from here. More than once? is the only question.

Rocketman95

01-08-2003, 03:42 PM

Originally posted by Smallz88
heh you guys dont gotta take knocks at me :p

w/e though i'm gonna see her tonight and see what happens

Try just having fun for a month or two. If she still doesn't seem interested in "settling down", then you need to have a talk or move on.

RM95's Girl didn't want to have a serious boyfriend either, she just wanted to have fun. So that's what we did...we ended up having so much fun that we've been together for over two years.

VooDooPope

01-08-2003, 03:45 PM

don't sweat the small stuff. take it a day at a time, keep dating her with out commitment then if something better comes along take the better of the two. No harm, no foul, afterall she was the one who didn't want a BF.

Smallz88

01-08-2003, 03:45 PM

alright well i guess im gonna go with the idea of just talking to her longer... but now what to say to her tonight :confused: :confused:

Pole

01-08-2003, 03:49 PM

Originally posted by Smallz88
alright well i guess im gonna go with the idea of just talking to her longer... but now what to say to her tonight :confused: :confused:

Your ass must be a full length mirror, 'cuz I can see every inch of me in it.

AroundTheWorld

01-08-2003, 03:50 PM

Originally posted by rimrocker
My advice would be to change your moniker.

Damn, people on this BBS make me laugh so many times a day :D.

Edit: Same goes for Pole's post :D.

PhiSlammaJamma

01-08-2003, 03:53 PM

What she is saying is that she wants to date you. Lot's of people do this. Just date and be open to the fact that you both will see other people. Dating can still lead to boyfriend girlfriend.

Typically I've become boyfriend girlfriend within 2 months, but some people date much longer than that.

If you are not interested in dating, then forget about it. You can end the relationship or you can still be friends without getting atttached. The latter is hard but not impossible. Just think of her as your buddy instead of your conquest.

A-Train

01-08-2003, 03:55 PM

NEVER get too emotionally attached to a chick in high school. They'll rip your heart out and dissect it in 3rd period A&P.

AroundTheWorld

01-08-2003, 03:55 PM

Originally posted by A-Train
NEVER get too emotionally attached to a chick in high school. They'll rip your heart out and dissect it in 3rd period A&P.

Not only in high school (do I sound bitter :D)!

JuanValdez

01-08-2003, 03:57 PM

This thread makes me sad. We have a kid who seems to actually be looking to do the respectable thing and all he gets is a "I think you can score from here" chorus.

For the record, it sounds to me like you can score from here. But, it may not be the best thing for you or for her. She's asking for it, but may regret it later. I've known too many girls that age who didn't even know how to look after their own interests. I know next to nothing about her, but it's a pattern I've seen repeated a number of times.

I don't have any advice for you either way. Just a warning to do things for the right reasons (eggings from old men on a basketball BBS would not fall into that category, btw :p ).

AroundTheWorld

01-08-2003, 03:59 PM

Originally posted by JuanValdez
This thread makes me sad. We have a kid who seems to actually be looking to do the respectable thing and all he gets is a "I think you can score from here" chorus.

For the record, it sounds to me like you can score from here. But, it may not be the best thing for you or for her. She's asking for it, but may regret it later. I've known too many girls that age who didn't even know how to look after their own interests. I know next to nothing about her, but it's a pattern I've seen repeated a number of times.

I don't have any advice for you either way. Just a warning to do things for the right reasons (eggings from old men on a basketball BBS would not fall into that category, btw :p ).

What do you expect, asking a bunch of horny nerds who are sitting in front of a computer, probably one window open with the Clutch BBS and another one with Internet porn...how can we give any other advice!!! :D

Pole

01-08-2003, 03:59 PM

Rocketman95

01-08-2003, 04:02 PM

Originally posted by Sir Jackie Chiles
What do you expect, asking a bunch of horny nerds who are sitting in front of a computer, probably one window open with the Clutch BBS and another one with Internet porn...how can we give any other advice!!! :D

Oooh, yeah baby, use that finger to....****, wrong window. :mad:

A-Train

01-08-2003, 04:02 PM

Another Brother

01-08-2003, 04:02 PM

Tonight, casually mention your penis in conversation. Immediately afterwards take both your shoes off, prop them up on the table, drop a spoon on the floor then cackle wildly as your toes flick to the beat.

heypartner

01-08-2003, 04:04 PM

For the record, my advice came fresh from an internet chat room that I like to hang out at during the afternoon. I posted your question there. So, you see, my advice was not really from an old man on a basketball bbs.

B-Bob

01-08-2003, 04:06 PM

Originally posted by JuanValdez
I've known too many girls that age who didn't even know how to look after their own interests.
But JV, in these younger generations, girls often learn to masturbate way before age 17.

AroundTheWorld

01-08-2003, 04:06 PM

Originally posted by heypartner
For the record, my advice came fresh from an internet chat room that I like to hang out at during the afternoon.

Let me guess...one of these?

http://www.gopartyhearty.com/chatroomsteenagers.html

;)

heypartner

01-08-2003, 04:13 PM

B-Bob, that's not funny. My sister just told me my 5yr old niece was taught how to do it from her 5yr old best friend. Her friend is an only child from lesbian parents. Not that there's anything wrong with that.

But the friend actually has a name for it: "Come on Olivia, let's biddlebop." OK, now if she got that word from some New Age children's book floating around the self-actualizing world of lesbian parents...then, there's something wrong with that.

A-Train

01-08-2003, 04:17 PM

Originally posted by heypartner

But the friend actually has a name for it: "Come on Olivia, let's biddlebop."

LOL!! Well, I doubt that "stroking the beaver" would be applicable to five year olds. :D

don grahamleone

01-08-2003, 11:52 PM

Originally posted by Another Brother
Tonight, casually mention your penis in conversation. Immediately afterwards take both your shoes off, prop them up on the table, drop a spoon on the floor then cackle wildly as your toes flick to the beat.

I've tried that twice and still no luck. Perhaps my cackle is not the right one. Maybe I don't have the confident look in my eye. Well, if at first you suceed, then stick with that sh!t...

don grahamleone

01-09-2003, 12:06 AM

Originally posted by Smallz88
I've had girls like this in the past, and the next thing i know they just turn around and go for another guy.. Im more trying to settle down with a girl....

This guy sounds more grown up than me at 17. I'd leave a girl if it meant free beer at this point in my life. Perhaps that's a different issue though. What was I talking about, oh, settling down, what the??? I was once like you my friend and if I could go back in time I'd slap myself in da face, twice.

SmeggySmeg

01-09-2003, 12:09 AM

smallz,

i say go out with her for a while and then for some minor reason just give up on her, let her think you are still on but ignore her, you know how to do this ;)

arno_ed

01-09-2003, 06:18 AM

Smallz.
it depents on what you want of her. If you want a serious relationship (what i'm after with a girl), you should wait and give her time if she wants it. don't rush. and finfd out if she really want that.

if you just want to have a good time, than just go ahead, and have a good time, and just go out and do stuf. than it doesn't matter she does not want a boyfriend.
i hope htis help a bit

Rockets2K

01-09-2003, 11:16 AM

OH ! You guys kill me...:D
great responses.. especially AT's...

Smallz..seriously man...do what you feel is right and everything else is gravy.

TheHorns

01-09-2003, 11:55 AM

Originally posted by Pole
Sounds like the perfect girl. What's the problem?

Ding Ding Ding.. we have a winner. You are the REAL Dr Phil.

Falcons Talon

01-09-2003, 12:56 PM

It sounds to me like she wants to be able to have fun with whomever she wants whenever she wants. If you both understand what the relationship will be, enjoy it. I don't know many parents that want their children to get into a serious relationship before they are out of college anyway. I'm not saying to pork her at any and all costs, but I would say to enjoy each others company. Don't get hooked on her if she doesn't want a serious relationship because you will get hurt.

One word of advice...always carry protection.

Drewdog

01-09-2003, 02:15 PM

Dump the ho!!!

Ho's will be ho's and Ive dated alot of psycho ho's.

Girls are a pain in the ass.....

Another Brother

01-09-2003, 02:17 PM

Smallz, you are so money and you don't even know it.

JuanValdez

01-09-2003, 02:41 PM

Originally posted by B-Bob
But JV, in these younger generations, girls often learn to masturbate way before age 17.

Lol. Needless to say, that wasn't exactly what I meant. What I am trying to say is that the girl sounds like she is looking for trouble, and she'll have no trouble finding it. Smallz dilemma is whether or not he wants to be part of that trouble. When I was younger, I'd have definitely said yes. Now, having seen what it has done to some, I'd say no.

Smallz88

01-09-2003, 03:45 PM

How am i money another brother? heh

pippendagimp

01-09-2003, 04:21 PM

Originally posted by Drewdog

Girls are a pain in the ass.....

Amen :mad:

Another Brother

01-09-2003, 04:24 PM

Originally posted by Smallz88
How am i money another brother? heh

17 with choices and a conscience.

HOOP-T

01-09-2003, 04:42 PM

You should find all the answers you seek here:

http://members.tripod.com/~jackij/ladiesman.html

....and then some.

Invisible Fan

01-10-2003, 12:41 AM

Originally posted by Another Brother
Smallz, you are so money and you don't even know it.

Smallz should double down. You always double down on 11...er 17.

don grahamleone

01-11-2003, 06:14 AM

Originally posted by HOOP-T
You should find all the answers you seek here:

http://members.tripod.com/~jackij/ladiesman.html

....and then some.

HOOP-T is right, you can definitely find out what you want to by doing it in the butt.

don grahamleone

01-11-2003, 06:15 AM

Who posted that under my name? ^^^^

Smallz88

01-11-2003, 12:52 PM

Well thank you everyone for your help, unfortuantley it didnt work out because i have ass hole friends.. Thanks guys... :( :(

AroundTheWorld

01-11-2003, 01:23 PM

Originally posted by Smallz88
Well thank you everyone for your help, unfortuantley it didnt work out because i have ass hole friends.. Thanks guys... :( :(

What happened?

Rocketman95

01-11-2003, 10:06 PM

Originally posted by Smallz88
Well thank you everyone for your help, unfortuantley it didnt work out because i have ass hole friends.. Thanks guys... :( :(

That sucks dude. IM me if you want to talk. Of course, I'm about to leave tonight.

don grahamleone

01-11-2003, 10:13 PM

Originally posted by Smallz88
Well thank you everyone for your help, unfortuantley it didnt work out because i have ass hole friends.. Thanks guys... :( :(

I have a hard time believing that it was our fault. Life lesson: sifting through the Bullsh!t.

Don't sweat it smallz, it'll work out better for you in the end.

EddieWasSnubbed

01-12-2003, 04:56 AM

Tell her this:

"Wanna be a part of something big? Look at this!"

......And you know what to do from there....

AroundTheWorld

01-12-2003, 05:27 AM

Originally posted by don grahamleone
I have a hard time believing that it was our fault. Life lesson: sifting through the Bullsh!t.

I'm not sure but I think he must have meant his "offline" friends.

Smallz88

01-12-2003, 11:23 AM

nah, it wasnt because of you guys.. hah

supposedly one of my friends kept asking her about us (they go to same school) and i guess she got to the point where she was annoyed, but on friday at school she said she wanted to go out.. So i call i ask and her sister is like "christina pick up phone" and then she goes who is it and her sister says its paul and then i hear silence and her sister is like "shes busy and shes in a bad mood".. so she dodged my calls about 4 times.. so i said screw it