Can girls and guys be friends?

[TheGreat]

I don't think so.

Discuss.

[faraza84]

There's a pretty funny YouTube video about it. The answer is no.

Girls can tend to be friends with guys without ulterior motives but most of the time guys can't. Sure some of us have a few chick friends we would never look at that way but most of the chick friends we do have tend to either be our type atleast physically. Though sometimes you just become decent friends with acquaintances.

[1JumpShot]

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[1JumpShot]

I will only be friends with a girl, that i would like to sleep with OR to get to her friend ;)

[Ashes]

Not really.

[Yao11]

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[RV6]

obviously they can...i think what you mean is can they be friends without one liking the other at some point? And the answer to that is no. At least not if both are straight.

[Yao11]

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[Asian Sensation]

Yes.

It's called friends with benefits. Learn about it.

[DreamShook]

Nope.

[Batman Jones]

Of course they can. Sometimes it's like a frat house around here.

[Swimmininnothin]

Yeah, Friends with benefits.

[Canadiandude]

If she isn't attractive, sure.

[Burko]

I think girls can be just friends with guys... Just not the other way round.

If the girl offered it on a plate to the guy, you know he's saying yes.

[kidcave9]

If she isn't attractive, sure.

Winner

[Shroopy2]

Yes girls and guys can be friends. It also depends on definition of "friends".

Yes girls and guys generally form friendships on ulterior attractiveness even if its platonic (so what, I don't think that has to be a "taboo" unspoken thing)

Yes its about BOUNDARIES.

[Yung-T]

It's just tough to be a man, females can be a mess sometimes.

[Shroopy2]

It's just tough to be a man, females can be a mess sometimes.
Womenhood is about being EVERYTHING. The sun, moon, stars, the earth, angels, fairies, queens, princesses, GODDESSES. Then being LIKE MEN in what they do.

Manhood is about what you SHOULDT do. Or its men ONLY do this/that and thats IT.

Women, its there's nothing we CANT do. Men its there's things we SHOULDN'T do.

Thats a stupid paradigm. As a society maybe we have to STOP listening to WOMEN define MANHOOD for men :o Cuz it shouldnt be tough to be a man.

[Jontro]

Like **** friends, yes.

Platonic friends, no. From my personal experience if the girl is attractive, you'd want to get with her. If you don't find her attractive (ugly) then you wouldn't want to be friends with her anyway, at least not that close. My uglier female friends usually annoy me. It's like, why is she so close?

Sometimes there are the funny ugly chicks, but even then, you can only hang around them so much.

[Yung-T]

Like **** friends, yes.

Platonic friends, no. From my personal experience if the girl is attractive, you'd want to get with her. If you don't find her attractive (ugly) then you wouldn't want to be friends with her anyway, at least not that close. My uglier female friends usually annoy me. It's like, why is she so close?

Sometimes there are the funny ugly chicks, but even then, you can only hang around them so much.

Quoted for truth.

[hoodooslab]

females are heartless creatures.

[Isabel]

Didn't we just have this thread?

I don't see why girls and guys can't be friends, provided that, if you are attracted to the person, you don't necessarily do anything about it, nor expect to. And if you're not attracted to them in that sense... seems like you could make friends with them just as you do with a member of your own sex. Depends who you are, though; many men apparently find women annoying and just put up with them to get to the one thing. At least according to this board.

[clutch citizen]

It's up to the guy.

[Yung-T]

Didn't we just have this thread?

I don't see why girls and guys can't be friends, provided that, if you are attracted to the person, you don't necessarily do anything about it, nor expect to. And if you're not attracted to them in that sense... seems like you could make friends with them just as you do with a member of your own sex. Depends who you are, though; many men apparently find women annoying and just put up with them to get to the one thing. At least according to this board.

The things written on this board by us males must look terrible to you sometimes. But I just don't think a single man can just be friends with a female he finds attractive. At one moment he will want more and not be happy with the friendship. Women don't understand this it seems, but that's how our brains work.

[Jontro]

Didn't we just have this thread?

I don't see why girls and guys can't be friends, provided that, if you are attracted to the person, you don't necessarily do anything about it, nor expect to. And if you're not attracted to them in that sense... seems like you could make friends with them just as you do with a member of your own sex. Depends who you are, though; many men apparently find women annoying and just put up with them to get to the one thing. At least according to this board.
I think we did just have this thread. And probably many more with the exact same title, verbatim.

But again, this is from the male's point of view. Yes, it must seem shallow to you and other women, but it's the truth. Women and men were made differently. Same reason why men NEED to pull one out at least several times a week (maybe a day for some), while women do it for recreational purposes, only when they want to.

[ima_drummer2k]

OP, let me tell you something. Time can never mend the careless whispers of a good friend.

To the heart and mind, ignorance is kind.

There's no comfort in the truth. Pain is that all you'll find.

[bobrek]

I have had platonic female friends the vast majority of my life, both before and after marriage.

[No Worries]

Fixed it for ya ...

I just don't think a single man can just be friends with a female he finds attractive. At one moment he will want more and not be happy with the friendship. Women don't understand this it seems, but that's how our dicks work.

[Jontro]

Fixed it for ya ...
men's dicks... brain... what's the difference? I thought they were one of the same.

[finalsbound]

if you're nailing something hotter, then yes.

if you're subjected to hanging out with someone platonically and have no other options at that particular moment, then problems start.

[Yung-T]

Fixed it for ya ...

Must've been a typo, my bad, thanks for fixing that.

[RoxSqaud]

OP, let me tell you something. Time can never mend the careless whispers of a good friend.

To the heart and mind, ignorance is kind.

There's no comfort in the truth. Pain is that all you'll find.

Seether!!!

:p

[the futants]

I suppose it's been long enough...


http://www.laddertheory.com/

[DaDakota]

Look, dudes have all the physical power, the woman controlling the punani get the pyschological power.

It is a Yin in her Yang situation.

DD

[RoxSqaud]

Look, dudes have all the physical power, the woman controlling the punani get the pyschological power.

It is a Yin in her Yang situation.

DD

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[Fyreball]

Some of you have some growing up to do. Life changes drastically after you graduate from college, and/or get into a monogamous relationship.

[rimbaud]

Most of my friends are female. I am married. Most of my wife's friends are male. Thread question and many posts in this thread are dumb.

[DaDakota]

Most of my friends are female. I am married. Most of my wife's friends are male. Thread question and many posts in this thread are dumb.

I always wanted to talk to a guy in an open marriage?

Do you guys do the keys in a punch bowl party, or how does it work?

DD

[RoxSqaud]

rimbaud is gay and his wife is getting gang-banged regularly.

[Yonkers]

I always wanted to talk to a guy in an open marriage?

Do you guys do the keys in a punch bowl party, or how does it work?

DD

lol rep

[Rox_fan_here]

I had an experience where I formed a great friendship with an extremely beautiful woman. We met in high school when she was a sophomore and I was a junior. She was a head turner and on more than one occasion I would witness guys get slapped by their significant others for gawking. (I am not exaggerating, this girl was a knockout.)

I was totally in the friend zone with her and I was secretly desperately in love with her but never let my feelings be known. We remained like this for like two years. She started dating a star player on the football team and throughout this time I dated a few girls. Both of our significant others were pissed at the relationship that she and I had (I would have been too being in their position.)

She would always tease me about how she loves me so much and I am like the perfect guy and she wishes her boyfriend was just like me and I would play it off and play the best friend role telling her that she should work things out with her boyfriend etc. Eventually they broke up and obviously I was the shoulder for her to cry on.

Then one day she comes to me with the proposition.....
She told me that she had been with this one guy for the past year and a half and was ready to totally have fun and did not want to even think about a boyfriend. However, she felt that she did not just want to sleep around and be a slut but needed to get over her boyfriend and the only person she felt close enough to want to do that with right now was me!!! :eek:

The problem was that I was in a relationship at that time with another girl and I was facing a huge moral dilemma. I rejected her proposal the first time and felt extremely proud about myself. I had never cheated and did not want to start. This only fueled her because naturally being a super hot girl she was used to getting everything she wanted from men and not used to rejection.

My fortitude lasted like a day because she came 2 days later wearing something extremely sexy. I totally caved and we ended up doing the dirty twice. The insanely crazy part about it was that I really did not enjoy at all. It was a combination of the guilt for cheating on my girlfriend mixed with the anticipation and ridiculously high expectations I had for this experience. On top of that it felt incredibly awkward for some reason almost like kissing my sister. :confused:

After that night we did not talk for like a week when before we used to talk like every day. Eventually we ended up running into each other and we sat down and had a long talk about all of it and about how weird it was for both of us.

After that we rekindled our friendship and it actually became stronger because we both had pushed passed the boundary and realized that there was nothing there worth pursuing. She is still one of my best friends to this day.

I guess the moral of the story is that yes it is possible but in my case for it to succeed we had to experience everything and get the curiosity out of our heads in order to focus on a deep friendship.

P.S.
If anyone was wondering my girlfriend at the time who I cheated on and I broke up like a week after it happened. I ended up feeling too guilty and told her what happened. She cussed me out and told me that the slut and I deserved each other.

[AstroRocket]

Of course. Surprised that so many of you guys don't have at least 1 female friend you aren't attracted to but get along great with. That's weird.

[AroundTheWorld]

I had an experience where I formed a great friendship with an extremely beautiful woman.

Cool story bro.

Now post her pic please. Thanks.

[Pole]

I had an experience where I formed a great friendship with an extremely beautiful woman. We met in high school when she was a sophomore and I was a junior. She was a head turner and on more than one occasion I would witness guys get slapped by their significant others for gawking. (I am not exaggerating, this girl was a knockout.)

I was totally in the friend zone with her and I was secretly desperately in love with her but never let my feelings be known. We remained like this for like two years. She started dating a star player on the football team and throughout this time I dated a few girls. Both of our significant others were pissed at the relationship that she and I had (I would have been too being in their position.)

She would always tease me about how she loves me so much and I am like the perfect guy and she wishes her boyfriend was just like me and I would play it off and play the best friend role telling her that she should work things out with her boyfriend etc. Eventually they broke up and obviously I was the shoulder for her to cry on.

Then one day she comes to me with the proposition.....
She told me that she had been with this one guy for the past year and a half and was ready to totally have fun and did not want to even think about a boyfriend. However, she felt that she did not just want to sleep around and be a slut but needed to get over her boyfriend and the only person she felt close enough to want to do that with right now was me!!! :eek:

The problem was that I was in a relationship at that time with another girl and I was facing a huge moral dilemma. I rejected her proposal the first time and felt extremely proud about myself. I had never cheated and did not want to start. This only fueled her because naturally being a super hot girl she was used to getting everything she wanted from men and not used to rejection.

My fortitude lasted like a day because she came 2 days later wearing something extremely sexy. I totally caved and we ended up doing the dirty twice. The insanely crazy part about it was that I really did not enjoy at all. It was a combination of the guilt for cheating on my girlfriend mixed with the anticipation and ridiculously high expectations I had for this experience. On top of that it felt incredibly awkward for some reason almost like kissing my sister. :confused:

After that night we did not talk for like a week when before we used to talk like every day. Eventually we ended up running into each other and we sat down and had a long talk about all of it and about how weird it was for both of us.

After that we rekindled our friendship and it actually became stronger because we both had pushed passed the boundary and realized that there was nothing there worth pursuing. She is still one of my best friends to this day.

I guess the moral of the story is that yes it is possible but in my case for it to succeed we had to experience everything and get the curiosity out of our heads in order to focus on a deep friendship.

P.S.
If anyone was wondering my girlfriend at the time who I cheated on and I broke up like a week after it happened. I ended up feeling too guilty and told her what happened. She cussed me out and told me that the slut and I deserved each other.

Good story. I'd like to add that there are some guys here who take it as just common knowledge that guys and gals can't be just friends. Others take it as just the opposite. Perhaps we're not all wired exactly the same. I mean......maybe it is a maturity thing (how you deal with sexual urges)......but maybe some men just have stronger urges. Just saying........

[DaDakota]

OOoh, good story.

Ok, story time.

Back in college at SWT, I was in Sigma Chi fraternity, we had this little sister who was smoking hot.

Just a girl that everyone wanted, but no one could date, she was committed to some guy back in her home town.

Well, I befriended her - obviously...lol....and we used to go out and party and I would talk with her about the girls I was seeing and hear her problems with being away from home etc.

I was a local bartender, and having control of the liquor was incredibly helpful in getting laid - it was an awesome time, pre -aids awareness, and 19 to drink, lord...it was fun....

Ooops, back on story, so I am seeing a couple of different girls and tending bar, and basically partying my ass off (why else do you go to SWT?).....

And one night I was off work and hanging with my roomates making steaks etc....when I get a call from her, and we start chatting, and she just says...

" I have chocoloate syrup, whip cream and strawberries, do you want to come over?"

I was like WHAT?....well my car was in the shop, so I begged my roomate to give my his motorcycle, and hoped on and went over there for an icredible night of bliss......it was great fun.

However, it ruined our friendship, we would still hook up for a few weeks, but we never got back to being all that close - I honestly think it would have been better to just pass on the experience....

**** THAT...it was completely worth it, I have enough friends....lol

DD

[ima_drummer2k]

Now the thread has devolved into an online Penthouse Forum thread?

I never thought anything like this could happen to me, but......

[htownrox1]

Hell no they can't be friends. Wait I take that back.... There's only one way, if she's not attractive and you don't want to bang her then sure you can be friends. But like Jontro said it would get annoying at times.

[percicles]

Short answer. Yes!

[Angkor Wat]

It's possible but I cant do it. If she isn't my girl, if she isn't giving me pussy or if I'm not trying to get with her, then I have no reason to keep talking to her.

[Yonkers]

I guess the moral of the story is that yes it is possible but in my case for it to succeed we had to experience everything and get the curiosity out of our heads in order to focus on a deep friendship.

Moral of the story is you don't post this and not include pics. Especially if you made us read through all that.

[conquistador#11]

if there is no attraction, yes! my best friend is a lady. she does play for the other team. so theory still stands..if there is no attraction, yes.

[trueroxfan]

ugly girls and guys can be friends

eventually you're going to want to do your hot friends.

i have many personal stories, but for the most part i've kept my feelings/it in my pants.




in college i turned 21 before most of my friends, so i went out with a group of girls that were older than me. like 4 hotties and me would go out all the time, eventually i wanted to do 2 of them lol

one of them i was just too close to and as hot as she was i just couldn't risk the friendship

the other i made the mistake of drunkendly admitting my feelings/hooking up w her on my 21st bday (not my fault, the girl slept with me in a thong and braw, did she not expect it?) so things were a little awkward after that.

i have a history of befriending hotties and being stuck in the friend zone. i am an actual friend to them, i don't hit on them ever, so they assume i'm not interested in them. but really i want to do them with all my heart... truth





anyways, it can be done, but it's rare

[Rox_fan_here]

ugly girls and guys can be friends

eventually you're going to want to do your hot friends.

i have many personal stories, but for the most part i've kept my feelings/it in my pants.




in college i turned 21 before most of my friends, so i went out with a group of girls that were older than me. like 4 hotties and me would go out all the time, eventually i wanted to do 2 of them lol

one of them i was just too close to and as hot as she was i just couldn't risk the friendship

the other i made the mistake of drunkendly admitting my feelings/hooking up w her on my 21st bday (not my fault, the girl slept with me in a thong and braw, did she not expect it?) so things were a little awkward after that.

i have a history of befriending hotties and being stuck in the friend zone. i am an actual friend to them, i don't hit on them ever, so they assume i'm not interested in them. but really i want to do them with all my heart... truth





anyways, it can be done, but it's rare

This is the reason why I tell my wife that there is no way she should have guy friends no matter how innocent they seem.

[Yonkers]

This is the reason why I tell my wife that there is no way she should have guy friends no matter how innocent they seem.

Yup. Like Chris Rock said, for women platonic guy friends are d*cks in a glass case... in case of emergency break glass. Cause you never know.

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[kyle_R]

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My God what school is this? Every single girl on there is fine as hell.

[kyle_R]

This is the reason why I tell my wife that there is no way she should have guy friends no matter how innocent they seem.

When I was married, that sums up why I had problems with the fact that almost every one of my wife's friends was a guy. I wouldn't go so far as to say I'm a jealous guy (honestly, which guy isn't though?) but I didn't like several of the relationships she had. Stuff like this goes right over any and every girl's head.

If you're an attractive girl, there is no doubt in my mind any guy who talks to you on an occasional basis, no matter your relationship, would have you cheat on your guy in a second.

[DaDakota]

My God what school is this? Every single girl on there is fine as hell.

He says at the library of Utah State in the first few seconds of the video.

DD

[rocketfan83]

I am friends with a few that are dating/married to some of my good friends since you see them so much anyways you might as well be and unless your a crappy friend you have a shield up saying don't do anything stupid. So you can actually talk with them on a friendship level.

But of course if they breakup for whatever reason obviously that friendship ends with it...

Other than I dont really care to and I dont think it's possible...

[Isabel]

men's dicks... brain... what's the difference? I thought they were one of the same.

All heads look alike...

Anyway, I wonder if also it has to do with the girl's relationship status. It has seemed like I've had a lot of guy friends when not in a relationship, the number has dropped off considerably when I've had a boyfriend, and now that I'm married it's down to about none, except for friends I know through my husband. Otherwise, seems like everyone who talks to me and keeps up with me to any great extent is female. Maybe it just feels wrong to stay friends, whether attracted or not?

[RV6]

All heads look alike...

Anyway, I wonder if also it has to do with the girl's relationship status. It has seemed like I've had a lot of guy friends when not in a relationship, the number has dropped off considerably when I've had a boyfriend, and now that I'm married it's down to about none, except for friends I know through my husband. Otherwise, seems like everyone who talks to me and keeps up with me to any great extent is female. Maybe it just feels wrong to stay friends, whether attracted or not?

I think it feels wrong if you think there's even a small chance of something happening. Feels like a threat to the relationship. The few guys friends you keep are the ones permanently in the friends zone.

For example, I had an ex as a FB friend ( i know sounds like a bad idea, but we actually got along) and when she got married and it came time to "clean up" her friends list, she deleted me and not another ex she also was friends with, despite the fact that i knew her better and longer than he did. The difference? I'm still single, he's happily married with children (safe friend).

[kyle_R]

He says at the library of Utah State in the first few seconds of the video.

DD

Looks like it's time to turn Mormon and get some sexy girl action then.

[Northside Storm]

Guys can be friends with girls, if the guy thinks of the girl as a guy, or if the girl thinks of the guy as a girl. OR---if both mutually friend zone each other. or i guess if they're gay/lesbian?

otherwise, hell no. for all of you who are like, well, I like this girl just as a friend, but HELL, she's hot, let's be honest, you 100%+ want to bang them, just haven't figured out how to yet.

the male brain is just wired that way. you can't fight it.

[Yonkers]

I think it feels wrong if you think there's even a small chance of something happening. Feels like a threat to the relationship. The few guys friends you keep are the ones permanently in the friends zone.

For example, I had an ex as a FB friend ( i know sounds like a bad idea, but we actually got along) and when she got married and it came time to "clean up" her friends list, she deleted me and not another ex she also was friends with, despite the fact that i knew her better and longer than he did. The difference? I'm still single, he's happily married with children (safe friend).

Yeah. I think that's the right thing to do. When you're in a relationship you don't allow yourself to get into a situation where you might stray. The attraction you feel is a natural thing. But if you act on it then there is no excuse.

[Batman Jones]

Looks like it's time to turn Mormon and get some sexy girl action then.

Does not compute.

[Baqui99]

If she isn't attractive, sure.

/end thread

[Deckard]

I'll spare everyone stories I've told here before (spontaneous applause breaks out!), and simply say yes, you can be close friends with the opposite sex. Anyone who doesn't think so needs to broaden their minds a bit. OK, perhaps broaden their minds a lot, based on some of the responses.

[MadMax]

I'll spare everyone stories I've told here before (spontaneous applause breaks out!), and simply say yes, you can be close friends with the opposite sex. Anyone who doesn't think so needs to broaden their minds a bit. OK, perhaps broaden their minds a lot, based on some of the responses.

completely agree. would rep if i could.

[VanityHalfBlack]

If she's fat, yes.....

[Rocketman95]

completely agree. would rep if i could.

You and Deckard never met or knew my ex-wife. :)

[weslinder]

You and Deckard never met or knew my ex-wife. :)
Oh, Deckard knew your ex-wife alright.

[ElPigto]

A lot of my close friends are girls. I don't understand how this is an impossible task lol.

[Yonkers]

A lot of my close friends are girls. I don't understand how this is an impossible task lol.

Whatever. You want to and probably have tried to bang them all.

[Rocketman95]

Oh, Deckard knew your ex-wife alright.

Nothing about her would surprise me.

[heads.up]

rimbaud is gay and his wife is getting gang-banged regularly.

lmfao

[Deckard]

Nothing about her would surprise me.

Well, I'm surprised!

;-D-

[TheRealist137]

yes, but only until she breaks up with her boyfriend

:cool:

[Landry92]

I guess the moral of the story is that yes it is possible but in my case for it to succeed we had to experience everything and get the curiosity out of our heads in order to focus on a deep friendship.


For some reason you tell the story with an overwhelming since of achievemnet, youre really proud of yourself.

Anyways, Girls and Guys can be friends as long as they know eachothers intentions from the get go and never change their mind.